Rewriting Your Mental Script: A Mans Guide to Conquering Limiting Beliefs

Rewriting Your Mental Script: A Mans Guide to Conquering Limiting Beliefs

D Brent Dowlen: [00:00:00] Imagine you're driving. Big ass turbo diesel 4x4 pickup truck just loaded down with a full load of gravel up a steep hill. Now, unbeknownst to you, before you started up the hill, someone quietly welded a massive ship's anchor to your rear bumper. You know, like the kind they use in strongman tournaments that have these huge hooks on them and weigh like 800 pounds.

You've got all the horsepower in the world under that hood more than enough to crush that climb. But no matter how hard you press on the gas, there's this hidden dead weight just dragging behind you and it's catching on everything and you just cannot quite make it up that hill. Like you can't even get a good footing.

You know you got it in you, but something is just tying you back and keeping you from any kind of forward momentum. Well, limiting beliefs work the exact same way. You, as a man, as a person, you have the capacity [00:01:00] and the drive to carry the weight of the load you carry, but those internal, self defeating thoughts act like an anchor holding you back from being able to reach your peak performance.

Once you realize what's quietly pulling you down and you cut that anchor loose, You're free to search forward with all the power you actually possess, which is a great deal. So let me ask you, what is your limiting belief that is holding you down? You likely have more than one and they can be really difficult to identify because you don't realize that it's a limiting belief.

Your brain may not even process it that way. I know that's been my case when I run into my own self limiting beliefs. When I realize what it is holding me back, I'm like, Crap. I didn't even know that was putting any kind of limit on things. I didn't think of that as a belief. I didn't think of that as a thought.

You don't actually realize they're doing the damage they're doing most of the time. Think about what repeatedly holds you [00:02:00] back as a person. Now, do me a favor, ponder that thought for about 90 seconds while we go to our sponsor over at MyPillow. We're going to dig into busting the myths that are in your head that are holding you back right after this.

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Welcome to the Driven to Thrive broadcast. Purpose, growth, and lasting impact for men. I'm your host, Brent Dallin, and we help men go from living to thriving purpose filled intentional lives. Now let me give you full disclosure. Full disclosure. I spent hours and hours writing and rewriting this episode because I wanted to make sure that I [00:04:00] was sharing it with you in the most effective way.

I wrote it and I wrote it. And I wrote it multiple times, and then I threw it into chat GPT. That's the full disclosure to make sure not to rewrite anything that, but I want to make sure I was clearly communicating and iterating the points that I wanted to share with you and make sure that I was saying it to you in the most effective way to be able to communicate it with you.

So I don't use chap GP to write any of my crap. I write my own work, but I did use it to try and hone this and make it more clear. Cause sometimes my brain gets a little muddled on some of the thoughts I'm trying to share. And I wanted to make sure that I share this with you in the most effective way possible.

AI does not write any of my shows, but I did optimize this one a little bit of clarity just to make sure that I am sharing this incredibly important topic with you in the most effective way, in the most [00:05:00] clear way. So that's the disclosure. I did use it just to clean this up because. The inside of my brain, it's like a pinball machine.

So part number one, guys, what's a limiting belief? Well, you may already know the answer to this. And if you don't great, this will clear it up. If you do, you can skip over to the next section, but a limiting belief is a deeply held assumption often created by repeated experiences, outcomes, and responses in our life.

And in the case of men, sometimes by cultural expectations of masculinity and what men are. These experiences convince you that you can't, shouldn't, or won't succeed in certain aspects of your life. These beliefs act like middle roadblocks are in the previous example, like that anchor hold you back and sabotage you.

You guys know, if you've been around the show much, I like strongman lifting. So, you know, I had to come up with a strongman example. So I found an anchor carry on an old strongman competition. [00:06:00] But, limiting beliefs distort how men, or anybody, see their own options and worth. They distort how you see your own value.

They effectively cap men's potential by curbing healthy risk, growth, and self expression. That is the more clinical, official, Explanation of limiting beliefs simplified is if you believe something at a core level core memories are go deeper than that. If you're a kids fan inside out, right? Core memories, core beliefs are actually much deeper than that.

But the simplified version is if you believe something at a core level, your mind will actually create that outcome that affirms that core belief. Uh, it's, it's an outdated script you're running in your OS. That's what it is. It's this written script inside your OS that [00:07:00] is making sure that the outcome matches the programming.

So I taught this principle to my best friend and sister when we were 16 in the, in the specific example of self defense. Right? Where the head goes, the body follows. Well, at 45, well, I don't believe you can manifest something that you don't have or that you want like being rich. I don't know that you're going to manifest being rich and like magically richness are going to appear.

That's not how this crap works. However, what you deeply believe will actually shape all possible outcomes and all the, in all the undertakings in your life. Like I said, it's a predefined script in your head that you set in there at some point Probably without realizing it. And so when your system runs, I, yeah, I'm a computer nerd.

When your sister run system runs, not your sister. When your system runs, [00:08:00] the programming will autocorrect the outcome that's self sabotage that's convincing. You can't do things that's limiting beliefs without a doubt. Your brain works in overtime to regulate your life. including all possible outcomes based on these core beliefs you have about yourself and about your life.

So I'm not going to list all 20, but here are some of those common examples of limiting beliefs men deal with. Uh, because like I said, for a long time, I didn't understand what a limiting belief was or even that I had some of these limiting beliefs about myself. So here's a handful of guys, just really common ones that.

It has been found that most men struggle with. Real men don't ask for help. Showing emotion or vulnerability is a sign of weakness. My worth as a man is totally defined by my career success, being the provider. It's too late for me to change or pursue my goals. I'm too old. [00:09:00] I'm not attractive or fit enough for anyone to truly ever want me.

A real man will have multiple sexual conquests before he's ready to sit down. And is always ready for sex. I need to man up. And push through all the pain, stress, and mental health issues entirely on my own. It's the only way I can do it. Let's get simpler than that. I'm not good enough. I don't have what it takes.

I'm too stupid. I'm not worthy. I'm not worth it. I'm not good enough. Yeah, I threw that one in there twice or three times. I can't learn or change and I'm not smart enough. I'm not capable of that. These are all limiting beliefs. Now, you don't think of them as limiting beliefs. Their thoughts pervade into the back of your mind because you've ingrained them in your head so far that when you think of something, when you see something, it's like, man, I want to do that.

You're too dumb [00:10:00] for that, Dallin. Or, man, that girl's try I am way too ugly, she would never talk to me. I'm not fit enough, I'm not I'm too old to do that.

These are limiting beliefs you deal with, you just don't necessarily think of them in terms of limiting beliefs. But it is a self fulfilling process, you, prophecy, I should say. You make this come true because that is the hard set belief. And you may not even realize that they are that deeply set in your brain, but you have convinced yourself that these are true, and so your mind works overtime to make the outcome match that belief.

I took a bit of time explaining limiting beliefs because I wanted to make sure that we were all on the same page. Sometimes men mix up limiting beliefs with intrusive thoughts. And I may do a show about that later. Let me know if you want me to. I have extensive notes on intrusive thoughts, but we have to be clear on what we're facing to be able to overcome them.[00:11:00]

And so I wanted to make sure we're all on the same page about limiting beliefs. Part two, I broke this into parts. If you've ever felt stuck, like there's something invisible holding back from being the man, you know, you can be chances are. It's not necessarily the world around you. It's the stories you're telling yourself.

It is those limiting beliefs. They're those roadblocks that just convince you, you don't have what it takes. But the truth is. You can absolutely rewrite that script in your head. And today we're diving into exactly how you do that. Now, you guys hear me keep calling it a script. Uh, you, some of you know, I do have a it background, so I'm a computer nerd.

I'm also a strong man enthusiast. So between the two, a lot of my metaphors and examples fall back into that. I apologize if that doesn't click with you. But you got to stick with what you know and what you're good at. So a lot of my metaphors are going to be in those zones. Number one, you have to identify the core [00:12:00] beliefs through reflection.

Now, I'd love to say that they're just like super easy to go. Mm, I think my core, I think my core beliefs are I got. And hopefully you actually have spent some time figuring out what your core beliefs are. It's something we've talked about that on the podcast before, because knowing what your core foundational beliefs are help you develop into the man you want to become.

You have to know what you stand on, what you believe in, what you would die over. You have to know and understand what your core beliefs are as a man for you to have the forward momentum. But you can't fight what you don't see. So we have to take a break. And really become aware of what these limiting beliefs are.

Now, getting clear on those thoughts that have been running around in the background can be difficult, but it's something that you've got to put some time into. Uh, I [00:13:00] did a. Episode a while back with a coach and I made a statement and he's like, Ooh, Ooh, there, that, that, that's what we're talking about right there.

And it didn't, I didn't even hear myself say it. It was just this automatic reaction to, he asked me a question and I was like, well, I can't blah, blah, blah. Right. And that's exactly what a limiting belief is. So there are a couple of ways about going. through figuring out what these are. One of the most effective ways, which makes me cringe every time I say it because I'm not a journaling person.

I've tried, I'm just not, see, and now I'm doing it. Do you guys hear it? It's not entirely an accident. I want you to hear this. I'm not a journaling person. That is a limiting beliefs. I have told myself, I have convinced myself [00:14:00] that I'm not a journaling person. So when I've tried to journal, I haven't been very successful at it.

It's not my favorite thing. I have tried to do it before. But, see, telling myself I'm not a journaling person, I then bring it into fruition. So, one of the most effective ways of bringing hidden beliefs to the surface is to write them down. I've got a couple of examples for you. Start by finishing this sentence.

I can't blank because blank. Or you can try this one. I've always believed that blank, but is that actually true? Put that out on a piece of paper. And start filling in the blanks. Trust me, your brain will fill it in pretty quickly. Once you start to put that on paper, you can start questioning it. You have to see it.

There is a magical connection. I didn't use to believe this. [00:15:00] I didn't. I actually sat through a live coaching session on the podcast last year. I want to say, uh, I'll see if I can find that link for you guys. But I sat through a live coaching session on the podcast with a coach who specialized in this kind of training.

And he had me write down things live while we were recording, because once I wrote it out and could actually see it in front of me, I thought, man, that, that doesn't, that doesn't make sense to me. Often the beliefs that control us the most are the ones we've seen. Stopped, never stopped and actually examined.

So once you start to write out these limiting beliefs, I can't blank because blank and you have these conversations in your head all the time. Everyday life. You run into this conversation, you run into these things where you're like, oh, that looks fun, but, oh, I'd like to try that, [00:16:00] but oh, that's cool, but I blank fill it in.

You do this all the time, try writing it down. I'm not having you write it down just for the sake of writing it down, but sometimes. Very powerfully putting it down in front of you allows you to take that next step and start to question it, which is mind mapping. Tracing the origins of those beliefs. So once you start to write down some of these limiting beliefs, ask yourself this question.

Where'd that come from? Was it something you heard from your parents? Did your dad say that to you? Did your parents teach you that? Did a teacher? Was that something you just heard in society over and over again, so you believed it? Was it based on a past experience? Is it a universal truth or something that you've just accepted because you've heard it so many times?

Did somebody who held sway over your [00:17:00] emotional state say something to you? For a long time I had a limiting belief that really came down to me because a young woman I was involved in with when I was a teenager, we were together for several years. The breakup was messy as teenage breakups tend to be, but out of anger, she said something just venomous to me with the intention of hurting my feelings.

Like it was absolutely, that was the pure intention of it. She was trying to. hurt me. I didn't think anything of it at the time. It took me years to realize that that belief actually that that statement took hold as a limiting belief about myself well into my adult years. So sometimes they come from people who are really close to you saying something really negative because those persons have an emotional connection with you.

They can say something that [00:18:00] actually sticks with you. It lives in your brain because they have that emotional access to implant that at the time. If I had to prove that this belief was wrong, what evidence could I find? That's the next question you need to ask yourself. After you've written him down, identify where you started to believe that, where that came from.

Is it a universal truth? Is it something you absolutely just accepted because you believe it's a universal truth or because you've seen a lot of evidence of it or Is it something that someone just ingrained in you because they had that leverage at the time? And then, then you got to ask yourself, if I had to prove this belief wrong, what evidences could I find?

Now, I went through this process on a live podcast. Well, yeah, in a live coaching session on a podcast. And you, like I said, you can go back and look into how that worked. If you'd like to, I'll try and remember to link the show, but mapping out these connections and these beliefs, [00:19:00] you can, mapping out the connection.

You can see that a lot of them aren't your own beliefs. They're, they're handed to you, they were given to you, they were put in your face and you just believe them because people with sway in your life are, had that impact on you at the time, but you need to understand if they don't serve you, you can hand them right back.

You don't have to live with these things. You don't have to. Believe them anymore. Now, guys, I know some of this feels really woo, woo, kind of, we're actually wading into some pretty deep psychology here. These are, that's why I keep referencing that episode. You can go back and see it happen live. Like I felt my heart rate changed, change as we went through this process.

So this is real stuff. It really does affect you. And there are ways to get through it. reframe those negative thoughts. [00:20:00] Once you've identified the limiting beliefs, It's time to change them, like a defense attorney in court does. Demanding hard evidence before you accept proof. So ask evidence based questions.

Is there actual proof that supports this limiting belief? What actual evidence is there that contradicts it? Do I know people who have broken this belief? You have to start attacking this like a lawyer would. Most limiting beliefs crumble really, really fast. When you start fact checking them and pushing back.

Next step is to use the power of yet. This was a huge game changer for me personally. Instead of saying, I'm not a leader, say I'm not a leader. You take it from an absolute. Belief to a goal that is unaccomplished so far, instead of saying, I don't know how to start a business, [00:21:00] say, I don't know how to start a business yet.

This really small word flips a fixed belief into a growth belief. This helps you take that limiting belief and turn it into a growth mindset kind of belief, reminding you that your abilities are developed and not assigned at birth. So if you can pause that and go, I'm not blank yet. That yet becomes super powerful because it's no longer a definitive guiding principle.

It is a place of growth that you can control and work on. It's an incredible small but powerful thing that you can do to start to overcome these self limiting beliefs that you've assigned yourself. Now replace the absolute with possibilities. Instead of I must do everything myself. Try I can seek support [00:22:00] without losing my independence.

That seems a little wordy for me. So try instead of I must do everything myself. I can work with somebody I trust. To help me on this. Instead of, I always fail, try, I haven't succeeded yet, but I'm learning. It's these slight shifts in language that start to literally remap new neural pathways in your brain to see opportunities instead of roadblocks.

That's what we're doing, guys. We're, we're gouging in new neural pathways into our mind. And getting rid of these hard ingrained beliefs that we've set for ourselves. This lets us move into a new possibility instead of a roadblock over and over again. Third part is to adopt a growth mindset, right? We already touched on it a little bit.

Growth mindset is [00:23:00] that belief that your skills, intelligence, and ability aren't set in stone there that they expand with effort and experience. So the moment you embrace this, every challenge becomes a stepping stone instead of a dead end, right? This is our yet. I'm not a leader yet. I haven't done this yet.

That says it's in my control to do that. So any kind of failure you have on this path, you start to reframe that as a setback that is a learning opportunity. Instead of thinking, I'm not good at this, or I suck at this, which is more likely for a lot of us. Start to ask the questions. What did it teach me?

What can I do differently next time? What did I learn? Analyze. This is where your analytical brain as a man is going to just thrive. Analyze the crap out of the data. At what point in this plan did I fail? Where did this go [00:24:00] sideways? What changed? How come this went, right? Scrutinize the crap out of it and take the data.

Because taking that data just sets you up for more success. So next time, track your small wins for momentum as you're doing this, because success isn't one big breakthrough. It's all about small victories stacking up over time. That's what we talked about. So you can keep a wind journal. You can write down all the good things you do.

You can, and this is the digital age, right? You can do this on your phone. I've got a huge whiteboard off screen over here and I write ideas and notes and thoughts on it. I use Notion. I absolutely love Notion and I have tons of pages in my Notion. If it ever crashes, I'm probably screwed, but. Write down those successes, mark the victories, write down the learnings.

Don't just journal the [00:25:00] limiting beliefs, but actually like keep track, man. Use it, use a checklist, whatever you want to do. No win is too small. Maybe you spoke up in a meeting and you're not really comfortable speaking out loud. Did you. Hold your boundaries with somebody who usually pushes your boundaries.

I have a good friend who, uh, this is a big issue for him is setting those healthy boundaries and it's something he's been working on and improving. I'm so very proud of him as he's been doing this and it's setting those boundaries because he has a habit of being a people pleaser. And so every time he sets a boundary, that's a huge win, right?

And we talk about it. Hey, this is a win. I did this. He tells me about these, he shares them with me, his friend. So I can be happy with him for that step forward for him, because I know it's something he's working on and growing in. And that's another thing is community is really important. So celebrate those wins [00:26:00] with your support group, uh, show up for your workout, right?

For a lot of people, that's a hard one. So. Celebrate those wins, celebrate the progress, not just the results. It's one of our downfalls as men's. We tend to only celebrate when we get to that final, I'm really bad about this. Right. I celebrate when I get that big finish line, I have to actively work at the small wins.

That's an area I am growing in, but confidence comes from recognizing the effort and consistency, taking those small wins, because as long as you keep making those small wins, as long as you stick with that effort and consistency. Success is just a time period away. It's not a gone. It's not going to yes or no.

It's as long as you keep that consistency, you're going to get there. Did you take an uncomfortable step forward and talk about meaning? Did you set that boundary? Yay. Celebrate that. Did you face a fear? Even if the [00:27:00] outcome wasn't perfect. You still took it on, right? Progress over perfection. Everyone starts to rewind your mind, rewire your mind for success.

Now you don't want to go through this alone. I've already touched on that. In fact, the fastest way to break a limiting belief is to surround yourself with people who will challenge those limiting beliefs with you. So tap into peer support. Men thrive when they have a brotherhood that pushes them forward.

Find a men's group, a mastermind and accountability cycle. You can build one. If you don't have one, you can connect with an existing one where you can be real about your struggles and get perspective from others on a similar path. And it doesn't even have to be the main focus of the group, right? I have a group of guys I game with and.

Most time we just game, but when one of us has a win, we share that, you know, Oh, I had this this week. It was so cool. [00:28:00] Our, Oh, I'm struggling with this at my work right now. I have several friends in that group who are business owners. And so, you know, we share that load every now and then, Oh yeah, you know, this is going on.

We talk a little business is like, yeah, my business is hung up here. We share these things and we don't do it as a, Kumbaya, hold hands and, but it's a group of guys I can relate with, understand my struggles, understands my ups and downs. And I can check in with work with coaches or mentors. Every great athlete CEO or high achiever has a coach mentor or advisor.

A good coach doesn't tell you what to think. They tell you, they help you see the blind spots in your life and reframe limiting beliefs into empowering ones. I know this was firsthand guys, not just because I'm a coach, but because I have coaches. I've worked with coaches. And I have a lot of love for one of the coaches I've worked for or worked for, sorry, worked [00:29:00] with over the years.

Having a coach is a power, power play if you want to move forward. Now, another option is to look at role models who have broken those molds, right? If you think that men can't be successful and present fathers, look for men who prove otherwise. If you think that you're too old to switch careers, look for examples otherwise, right?

Some of the most famous actors that people look up to didn't start acting well until their later years. KFC, Colonel Sanders, I think was in his 50s or 60s when he started KFC. You don't have to be 20 To make a switch, right? Find those people, find those exceptions. I love, those are some of my favorite motivators right there is I find people who've done the things I want to do or who have crossed that bridge that I need to cross and have done it successfully.

And I analyze the crap out of what they've done. [00:30:00] Seeing real world examples makes it easier for you to believe in new possibilities for you.

Sorry guys. I took a lot of notes. That's why I ran this through chat GPT is to clean it up as much as possible for you guys. Practice mindfulness and emotional awareness. A lot of limiting beliefs live in your unconscious mind. And when I start talking about mindfulness and emotional awareness, a lot of guys want to check out.

I know I want to check out. But it's hard to get into these because they are in here on that deep, deep layer, right? So these things live there and shape your reactions before you actually know what's happening. That's what I mentioned earlier, right? So a lot of times I didn't even realize they were. any kind of limiting belief because they were just these deep programs.

Mindfulness can help you catch and rewire these thoughts in real time. You don't have to call it mindfulness. You don't have to use any woo woo [00:31:00] terms of those offend you. You don't have to be a monk to do this. Okay. Five minutes a day, quieting your brain and going through things, right? What thoughts keep replaying.

What things stressed you out? What things did you not get to that you wanted to or not move forward to that you wanted to? And what did you feel when you were doing those things? What was going through your head? Find those and challenge them. Breathing exercise can reset your nervous system. That was one of the things I did.

And so, you know, this is the woo woo part guys. And unfortunately it's something you got to dig into a little bit. Okay. We tend to condition ourselves and numb ourselves to emotions rather than acknowledging them as men. Sometimes not saying you have to be dominated. In fact, I will tell you, don't be dominated by your emotions, but you do have to acknowledge them and be aware of them.

So ask yourself those questions in those couple minutes a [00:32:00] day. What am I feeling right now? What caused me to feel this way? What triggered that feeling? What do I need to do to process this in a healthy way? Being aware of them lets you take control of the situation. I told you my heart started being faster when I was going through this live training with this coach on the podcast.

Like my, my heart was thumping. My chest got tight as we were talking. Maybe your jaw's clenched or your shoulders get tight. That's your body telling you things. So listen to your body because it's telling you about those limiting beliefs, those stressors. What is causing it? Now gents, we got to dive into the fact that this is not a one time event, okay?

It's not a one and done that it's gonna be over with. You're not gonna sit down for 10 minutes and write these out and be like, whoo, I'm done. Rewriting your code, your internal code, is much [00:33:00] more complicated than that and takes more practice. It is. I've been a basketball coach. I've been a weightlifting coach.

I've coached soccer. I've coached several things over the years. And I'm a big, big, big fan of practice, practice, practice. Breaking the limiting belief requires practice. You have to keep doing it. So set challenges, achievable challenges that align with your values. Practice winning, practice dealing with those emotions when they come up, things that are taking you slightly outside of your comfort zone.

Recognize that moment when you push past it, when you start to challenge that goal and it comes to mind, Oh, I'm not smart enough. Catch that. Stop that. Evaluate that. Push past that. Right? Remind yourself. You can do this and keep practicing pushing those limiting beliefs because [00:34:00] even as you practice this, they're gonna want to come up.

They're still there. It takes a long time to rewrite those neuropathways in your brain. But every time you do, every time you prove that wrong, you weaken that grip and you start to wear it down. It's gonna take time. It's gonna take practice. But you're gonna get there. You just have to practice the wins over and over again.

Practice overcoming those limiting beliefs. Over and over and over again. Okay. Make sure you're not falling back into those old patterns. Those old beliefs don't reinforce them. Once you start to fight one, because it's going to take a while to shake it and surround people yourself with people who are going to help you push past that.

Now, this sounds like a whole lot of work. Anybody else comment below? Does this sound like a whole hell of a lot of work? Cause it does to me. Why should you bother to do it? [00:35:00] Why, why deal with it at all? Why even try? Because breaking free of those limiting beliefs is hard work. It's a lot of effort, but breaking free from limiting beliefs isn't just about, you know, being super positive and yay!

All that positivity. It's about unlocking your potential. It's about living with confidence, purpose, and resilience. And when you dismantle these mental roadblocks that have held you back, You create the opportunity for growth, for stronger relationships, for a deeper sense of fulfillment. In your life.

That's why you do it. It's not about woo woo feelings. It's not about being more positive or seeing the world half full instead of half empty, right? It's not that that's not what we're trying to do because that isn't going to get you there. It's about becoming the man you intend to be. When you stop letting [00:36:00] those fear and outdated narratives that control you control you, right?

When you stop letting them, you open the door to new possibilities, new opportunities, new skills, new interests that. You blocked yourself from in the past. So if you're feeling stuck or tracked in your current situation Getting rid of these limiting beliefs opens up a possibilities to get out of that You may not have thought of or thought you were capable of it gets rid of those mental barriers When you start taking action instead of holding back you move forward, you know, most people don't start That's the truth.

Most people never start Anything hard because they've already decided they're not capable of it. These limiting beliefs hold them in place, right? Instead of the old thought of I'm too old to switch careers or learn something new. Once you start to break those limiting beliefs and embrace the fact [00:37:00] that you can grow and move forward, it turns from, I'm too old to switch careers or learn something new to I can build new skills and evolve at every stage of my life.

Overcoming the limiting beliefs frees you from stagnation and stagnation kills. It puts you back in control of your personal development and your professional development, your relationships. It helps you strengthen those connections you have with your loved ones, whether that's a friend or a boyfriend, girlfriend, or a spouse, your kids, your extended family, it strengthens those connections.

Why? Because you no longer suppressing. Emotions. You're no longer avoiding openly communicating and being authentic because you're getting rid of those beliefs. Right. A lot of times we think we have to be the strong silent type. I grew up with that was really popular. And I'm the Gen Xers where, you know, we grew [00:38:00] up with the Schwarzeneggers the Clint Eastwoods and.

Mike Lindell: Yeah.

D Brent Dowlen: Right. And everybody wonders why my age group loves the gym. This is why all of our heroes were like this. But guys, when we move past some of those concepts we ingrain in our mind. John Wayne's the stoic. And let me be the first say, I think most men should appreciate and practice several variations or several truths inside stoicism, but it doesn't have to be the only thing you are.

And it doesn't mean that you shut everything out. And when you get rid of some of those Limiting beliefs, you start to understand that you stop overcompensating and people pleasing and shutting down when conflict arises to let you set healthy boundaries in your relationships. [00:39:00] Maybe before you started overcoming the limiting your belief, limiting beliefs, you thought, how could I tell?

My wife this because I feel weak, right? It makes me look weak. Afterwards, you learn that you can communicate what's going on without being weak, without seeming weak, because that's just a fear kicking in when you challenge old narratives. You start to thrive instead of just surviving. There are a lot of reasons why you should break these limiting beliefs, guys.

I actually listed out like six more, but the episode is getting long. And I think you're getting the picture. There is so much power to breaking free of limiting beliefs. It lets you live the life that you're meant to live. It lets you become the man that you're meant to become, but you have to do it. And these are powerful suckers.

Okay. Very [00:40:00] powerful stuff. It's a lot of effort, but it's well worth it if you want to become the person you've always meant to become. When you dismantle limiting beliefs, you stop playing small and start living full. You grow in ways you didn't think was possible. Your relationships deepen because you can communicate clearly, honestly, openly.

You develop resilience, making you completely unstoppable in the face of challenges. You redefine what success actually means in your life. We've talked about that in previous episodes, because for a lot of people, they have this concept of what success is. It means

Mike Lindell: big money, very big money.

D Brent Dowlen: But when you actually start to dig into it, you find out that that may not be what success looks like for you.

You start to walk through life with authentic confidence, knowing that you're capable and worthy. You know, so many men don't believe they're worthy. of the effort that I am [00:41:00] encouraging you to put into yourself. I didn't think I was worthy of it. My wife hated going out of town because she knows I don't cook for myself when she goes out of town because I don't find myself worth the effort to cook for myself.

I can live off peanut butter while she's gone. So a lot of guys deal with this thought of feeling worthy of the effort we put into other people. We will put. effort that would kill us into people we love, but most guys will not put the effort into themselves. Getting rid of those limiting beliefs about yourself.

You can start to become who you've always been meant to be. Limiting beliefs are not reality. They're outdated scripts running in your mind. And the good news is you can absolutely recollect, rewrite them now. One more time, full disclosure, full disclosure, you're in for a fight. Your brain doesn't like to be reprogrammed at its core fundamental [00:42:00] belief levels.

Like, it wants to maintain a status quo. It is going to fight you. It prefers homeostasis, which is why so many people find any kind of change difficult. But you are worth it, and the world needs the man that you're meant to become. We need what you bring to this world because you bring value to this world.

Now it's time to take action. I asked you earlier in the show what belief is holding you back from becoming the man you want to be. You have the tools now. I know we covered a whole lot. Look on my website later this week for it. There will be a free download even on the website, uh, connected to this episode because we did cover a whole lot.

And I know that a lot of you are listening to this while you're on the treadmill or whether while you're in your car on the way to or from work. And it's hard to take out notes that we covered so much. So look on the website, you'll find the free download on the page for this episode, uh, [00:43:00] after it comes out.

And that will give you some of the notes from this to help you get started. At the end of the day, the question isn't, can you overcome your limiting beliefs, gentlemen? It's, are you ready to step into the man you were meant to become? Now, if you found the episode helpful, be sure to share it with a friend, head over to purpose, driven, men.

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