Parenting Insights: A Game of Hats for Dads

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What's your favorite hat?

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I'm a hat guy.

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In fact, I probably own a
ridiculous amount of hats.

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Pretty neat, huh?

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Eric, when you said a lot,
I was expecting like 20.

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Oh no, I have more than that.

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You wear all these?

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Now, not quite as many as Eric from Mr.

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Gregorian's Wonder Emporium.

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I'm trying.

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I'm not getting there.

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I'm not there yet.

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But quite possibly just a
ridiculous number of hats.

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Not just ball caps either.

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Cowboy hats, beanie caps, fedoras,
flap caps, my brother's Dixie

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Cup from the Navy, my old beret,
my service cap, a jester's hat.

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I even have a hand knitted fedora
with jokers sewn all the way around

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the vertical portion of the hat.

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And way more hats than that, even.

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We won't even get into like bandanas and
motorcycle helmets and things like that.

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And just actual pure number of ball
caps, which is also a ridiculous number.

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I'm not even sure why I have so many
hats, to be honest, I've collected

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them over the years and miles, and
I just don't ever get rid of them.

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I have some really old hats
while I'm thinking about it.

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So why am I talking about hats?

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Well, in this episode, we're going to
delve into your hats and how a simple

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exercise can change everything in
your life just by changing your hat.

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Let's get into it.

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Here's the million dollar question.

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How do men like us reach our full
potential, growing to the men we

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dream of being while taking care
of our responsibilities, working,

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being good husbands, fathers,
and still take care of ourselves?

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Well, that's the big question.

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In this podcast.

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We'll help you answer
those questions and more.

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My name is Brent and welcome
to the Fallible Man podcast.

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I truly believe you can change
the world with the right headgear.

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I was inspired by my conversation
with Juan Alvarado earlier this week

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to explore this idea just a little
bit further, because we touched

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on it briefly in our conversation.

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Now I have worked with a
lot of headgear in my life.

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I ride a motorcycle, so I
have motorcycle helmets.

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I've had hard hats.

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I've had service caps.

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I've had all kinds of headgear for work.

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A deep sea diver wouldn't fare
well if they showed up to dive

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with a fireman's helmet on, right?

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Quarterback would look pretty stupid
with a diver's helmet on during a game.

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And I'm pretty sure throwing a pass
like that would be near impossible.

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And if you show up to the office
in a football helmet, well, there

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might be some questions asked of you.

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By the way, my name is Brent and
welcome to the Fallible Man podcast,

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And here I am still rambling about hats.

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What gives, right?

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Well, let's take a step out of literally
and into the metaphorical, shall we?

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You wear a lot of hats in your life.

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A lot.

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Employee, boss, leader, follower,
husband, friend, dad, community member,

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coach, provider, seeker, explorer,
judge, cop, jury, referee, and probably

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a whole lot more you don't even realize.

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What happens when you wear the wrong hat?

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Since we're talking metaphorically.

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Well, have you ever worn
the employer boss hat?

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That's air quotes for
all of you listening.

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When you're trying to
communicate with your spouse.

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Or maybe that same employer boss hat.

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When dealing with your kids, have
you ever gone to dinner with friends

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without your children, if you have
children and still worn that parent

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hat while you're out trying to have a
conversation with actual adults, pretty

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sure most of you listening can identify
with at least one of those scenarios.

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Did it go the way you imagined or really
thought it should, did that work for you?

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Or like a lot of us, did that have
some really disastrous implications?

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I will tell you as a husband, talking
to your spouse with the wrong hat on can

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be a game ender if you're not careful.

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So, I've been a coach for
different sports in the past.

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I've played coach basketball and soccer
and a few other sports over my lifetime.

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And I know a lot of parents who put on the
coach air quote hat when they're in their

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stands and the kids are playing a sport.

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But they won't actually step up
and coach a team necessarily.

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But man, do they have
all the right answers.

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I'm sorry for the referees.

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I had to work with those guys too.

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We tend to wear a judge hat
a lot, probably a whole lot

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more than any of us should.

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And judge other people
from our perspective.

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Well, maybe we should try
some understanding and a

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little compassion, right?

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A little gentleness somewhere.

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I'm not sure what the
headwear is for gentleness.

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Let me know in the comments.

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I'd love to know.

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So when you change situations, whether
you're walking through the front door

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after work or maybe into the grocery
store on a quick run to get some

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milk after church or something, or
even into the gym, uh, You can avoid

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awkward and potentially explosive
interactions by taking five seconds

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to evaluate which hat you're wearing.

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And if you need to change it before
you respond to the person or situation.

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Now, let me be silly again for a minute.

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If you really need to break
this in for you, like if this

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seems a little too abstract.

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Seriously, reach up and take your hat off.

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Pretend you're taking a hat
off and put the right hat on.

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These interrupts will help
you avoid a bad situation.

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If you need to physically pretend
to switch hats until you get it

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down, it's better to look a little
silly than to blow an interaction

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that could be really important.

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However, have major ramifications.

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The fact is a lot of times we go into
interactions with people with the wrong

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hat on, but it can easily be avoided.

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We've talked about responding versus
reacting in the past on this show.

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And you guys should go back and catch
that video, short video, if you want

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to, or audio or whatever platform you
listen to the show on, you guys should

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go back and check that short episode.

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It was pretty short, but
this is the next stage.

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Okay.

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Um, separating reaction versus response.

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It is honestly better to walk up to
your front door and mimic or pretend.

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I know we don't pretend
very well anymore as adults.

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Pretend you're taking off your work hat
and reach over and pick up that spouse

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hat or that friend or that roommate
hat or that father hat and put it on

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your head as silly as it seems, this
interrupt will help you switch mindsets.

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And get into a better frame of
mind for interacting with people

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and situations beyond that door.

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This can apply to going to work,
going anywhere you go, honestly,

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going to dinner with friends.

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We all wear a bunch of different hats
and sometimes we're wearing the wrong one

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to really have the conversations that we
want to or the interactions we want to.

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It's a simple trick, guys.

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I'm not going to beat it to death.

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Now guys, it may be a little silly
talking about different hats.

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I like to be a little lighthearted.

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I'm not funny, but I do like
to be a little bit silly.

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Wearing the wrong hat can really
complicate everything drastically.

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So let's all try changing our
metaphorical hat for the better.

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I promise you, you will be
surprised what a difference this

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little mental exercise can have.

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Guys change the hat for the situation.

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It will change your life.

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