Improve Father Child Relationships with these 7 things | Father’s Day 2023

[00:00:00] What if I told you there was a secret to becoming an extraordinary parent key that unlocks the door to deeper connections, trust, and understanding with your children. It's not a magical formula or quick fix, but a set of seven principles that can revolutionize your relationship with your kids. Are you ready to discover the powerful principles that will transform your parenting journey and create a lasting impact on your children's lives?

[00:00:26] Stick around. Join us on this episode of the Fallible Man Podcast. As we journey to becoming the best dad, we can possibly be right alongside with you, cuz I think that's why you're here. So let's get into it.

[00:00:43] Here's the million dollar question. How do men like us reach our full potentials? Grow into the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities. Working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves. Well, that's the big question In this podcast, we'll help you answer those questions and more.

[00:01:03] My name is Brent and welcome to the F Man Podcast.

[00:01:11] Parent child relationships are cornerstone of child's a child's development and wellbeing. I mean, let's face it, right? They take in everything from us. As parents, we strive to create strong bonds with our children, fostering environment of love, support, understanding all those good things we read about in parenting magazines.

[00:01:29] However, in the hustle and bustle of daily life, it can be really easy to lose sight of the small yet significant ways we can enhance those relationships. Fortunately, there are various strategies and principles that can help us improve and strengthen our connection with our children. By actively implementing these approaches, we can create a nurturing and enriching environment that allows our children to thrive.

[00:01:52] In this show, we'll explore different, different techniques and insights to enhance parent-child relationships, paving way for deeper, more fulfilling connections that last a lifetime. Now before we get started, this is the Father's Day episode of the show, and I just wanna shout out Dads to all the grandfathers, all the fathers, all the great grandfathers, all the fathers that are no longer with us and all the fathers to come.

[00:02:18] Thank you. Thank you for stepping up and being dad. If no one else has told you this weekend or today, whenever you're listening to this, please understand you are critical, absolutely essential and critical to your child's life for your child to have that best chance in life. They need you. You are one of the most important influences in their life.

[00:02:42] You will be from the day they're born till the day they die. So slut to all the dads out there stepping up. You are not a birthing person. You're not a random parental figure. You're a dad, and you are incredible. And you are important in your child's life. And thank you for stepping up to be a dad as we celebrate you this weekend.

[00:03:03] Father's Day is an incredible holiday, just like Mother's Day is because dads matter and you matter. So thank you for stepping up and being a dad. By the way, welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. You are home for all things, man. A big shout out to Fallible Nation, our private community group that supports us.

[00:03:22] And a warm welcome to our first time listeners. My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. I don't have all the answers, that's why it's the Fallible Man podcast. But I'm on a journey like you and I'm bringing you experts to help you along the way besides sharing a few of my own ideas as we go. So if this is your first time listening, thanks for giving us a chance.

[00:03:41] And if you're like said, one of our long term members, It's great to have you back today. Let's get into this Father's Day special. Today I have seven principles that can revolutionize your relationship with kids, with your kids, with any kids. Honestly, I was a youth minister for years and I used a lot of these techniques to help connect with the young people I worked with there as well.

[00:04:02] So let's get into it. Number one, lead from the front. If you don't or won't do it, don't ask them to. Lead by example. This is a really basic concept. If you require them to eat vegetables, then eat your vegetables if you have them, keep their room clean. Make sure yours are squared away too. If you do di, if they do dishes, you do dishes, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

[00:04:25] That should be fairly self-evidence, but just in case you need a reminder. Number two, be transparent as cellophane. Kids live in a world that's outside of their control and they notice everything. We have a running joke around the house right now after my kids saw the meg eight year olds hear everything.

[00:04:44] So be honest and transparent with your kids in an age appropriate way. It makes them feel insecure to be kept in the dark and feel like they dunno what's going on. So if you can reassure them by letting them in. To life being transparent, it'll actually help your relationship in a big way. Number three, prove their priority.

[00:05:07] Now, every relationship in your life wants your time, and the important ones really need it. So make sure it's clear that they are a priority scheduled time on your calendar that's exclusively theirs alone. And make sure and honor those commitments to time. It can be anything but prove that they're important to you.

[00:05:26] We're all busy. They know it. So setting aside dedicated time shows them that they are a priority to you. Number four, actively listen, put down the phone. I'm sorry, I, I get passionate about that. Put down the phone, lean in, make eye contact. Ask questions when appropriate. Don't interrupt. Pause the show you're watching or whatever you're doing.

[00:05:51] And linger. Don't rush back to the other thing you were just doing. Keep the conversation flowing. Bonus, get on their level. Honestly, like change your body position to make sure you're facing them at eye level, whether that's raising them up to eye, to eye with you if they're younger or sitting down to the same position.

[00:06:10] So your eye to eye, it actually makes a huge impact. Number five, let them educate you. Now, I'm really, really bad about this guys, so I'm gutting myself here. I am really bad about cutting off my child when she's trying to share something that she's learned. Usually. Some stupid comment for me about knowing that since before they were born, and it really just comes from being in too much of a hurry all the time.

[00:06:36] Usually it gets back. Usually it's for me to try and get back to something that's not near as important as she is. Like I said, this is a pain point that I've gotta work on. The world is wonder is new to them, so enjoy the conversation. It is something I'm working on getting better at, and I promise you it has a magical effect when you actually give this a shot.

[00:07:01] Number six, get creative with 'em. Literally, just get creative with them. Kids are born with a more creative nature than we can tend to carry into our adult lives. For whatever reason, we tend to stifle that creative part of our lives as we age. However, kids are full of creative energy and they love it when you get involved.

[00:07:22] Dad, they love to create with you. So cook, do science experiments, discover new things, go new places. Color draw, create stories. Honestly, I've talked about creating stories together as a family and just writing your own story together. Start a project with 'em that they want to try. Just get creative with them.

[00:07:42] Foster that creativity. It will make a world of difference for both of you. Number seven, invest in a hobby with them. And for those of you not on the YouTube version of this, And you know, you guys are my, my biggest fans, so I want you to understand, I'm air quoting this one. Invest in a hobby. Air quotes with them, take up something they love, or take up something new together.

[00:08:07] Kids from zero to 20 are all about time. It's a relationship. So activity together is paramount to the healthy relationship. When I was a youth minister, I started online gaming to connect with six of my teens, so that's what they like to do. So I started doing it. I also became a fan of the Gilmore Girls for a short stint to connect with another teen.

[00:08:26] I worked with people, thrive on shared experiences, kids even more. I fish with my oldest daughter because as much as I hate fishing, I love hanging out with her and she loves fishing. I also help my kids run a business. It's all about doing things together, shared experiences. Are huge now. You know, I never like to cut off at the actual number I gave you guys.

[00:08:48] So number eight is let them in on the fields. And this is big dad, and it's hard for us. A lot of times as fathers, we tend to keep our kids away from the rest of the outside, our outside lives and impact it has on us. We don't want them to carry that weight and we are right to do so. But at the same time, as we pro, protect, protect them, and you should as a father, you're not protecting them by hiding them from it.

[00:09:12] You're protecting yourself. It doesn't mean you dump the weight on them, but you have to share your life. They wanna know what you're passionate about, what matters to you, why it matters to you, how you feel about things. They want to know that you're insecure as a dad and worry about doing it right. All the feels.

[00:09:31] Gentlemen, all the feels, boys and girls need it for different reasons and some of the similar ones, but one of the big ones is it gives them permission to face their own feelings and gives them a positive example of how to do that. And you can equip them so that they're able to experience their feelings and process them in a healthy way going forward in their life.

[00:09:53] That's a huge thing for you to do, dad. Now by embodying, we'll see if I can talk By embodying these principles, guys, you have the opportunity to col cultivate a deep relationship with your children that will last a lifetime if you actually apply all this, I promise. Remember leading by example, being transparent, prioritizing quality time, our building blocks of strong parent-child relationships, active listening, embracing your children's teachings.

[00:10:24] Letting them run that way. Getting creative together will foster a sense of joy and understanding. Sharing hobbies and opening up about your emotions will create a safe space for growth and exploration of their own desires and thoughts and feelings. So let's embark on this journey of transformative pairing.

[00:10:41] One that will shape not only our children's lives, but also our own. Together we can build bonds that will withstand the test of time and create a future filled of love. Trust and meaningful relationships, and hopefully one day you'll get to sit down with your grandkids or your great-grandkids and look at what an amazing job your kids are doing as parents because you set the tone.

[00:11:08] Guys, happy Father's Day. Be better tomorrow because of what you do today, and we'll see you on the next one. This has been the Fallible Man Podcast. Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get your own fallible man.

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