How to Keep YOUR Family Safe in an Unpredictable World | Secure Dad Andy Murphy

1 00:00:00,380 --> 00:00:03,660 Andy, what is the big takeaway you want everyone to hear today? 2 00:00:05,010 --> 00:00:09,120 The big takeaway is that your safety really is your responsibility. 3 00:00:09,120 --> 00:00:10,380 It is up to you. 4 00:00:10,740 --> 00:00:12,690 You don't need to be intimidated by that. 5 00:00:12,750 --> 00:00:14,730 You absolutely can do this. 6 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:17,460 I don't care what your physical or mental shape is. 7 00:00:17,790 --> 00:00:21,810 You have the ability to take care of yourself and your loved ones. 8 00:00:22,170 --> 00:00:24,210 Don't shrink away from that responsibility. 9 00:00:24,210 --> 00:00:25,290 You can absolutely do. 10 00:00:26,415 --> 00:00:26,775 Here's the 11 00:00:26,780 --> 00:00:27,975 million dollar question. 12 00:00:28,485 --> 00:00:32,145 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow into the men we 13 00:00:32,145 --> 00:00:36,285 dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, working, 14 00:00:36,465 --> 00:00:40,965 being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? 15 00:00:41,835 --> 00:00:43,515 That's the question in this podcast. 16 00:00:43,845 --> 00:00:45,135 We'll help you with those answers. 17 00:00:45,135 --> 00:00:48,285 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 18 00:00:48,555 --> 00:00:50,445 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast, your home for all 19 00:00:50,445 --> 00:00:51,855 things, man, husband, and father. 20 00:00:52,185 --> 00:00:53,505 Big shout out to Fallible Nation. 21 00:00:53,775 --> 00:00:56,415 You guys make shows like this possible and a warm welcome 22 00:00:56,475 --> 00:00:57,615 to our first time listeners. 23 00:00:57,975 --> 00:01:00,825 My name is Brent, and today my guest is author and host of the 24 00:01:00,825 --> 00:01:02,945 Secure Dad podcast, Andy Murphy. 25 00:01:03,535 --> 00:01:05,415 Andy, welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 26 00:01:05,895 --> 00:01:08,325 Hey, Brent, thank you so much for the opportunity to be here. 27 00:01:08,325 --> 00:01:10,365 I'm excited to talk to you and your folks. 28 00:01:11,490 --> 00:01:12,554 It's gonna be a great show, man. 29 00:01:12,554 --> 00:01:13,704 I've been looking forward to it. 30 00:01:13,974 --> 00:01:15,144 I enjoyed reading your book. 31 00:01:15,384 --> 00:01:19,404 You have some amazing points in it, but before we get serious, 32 00:01:19,674 --> 00:01:20,754 we have to get a little silly. 33 00:01:21,084 --> 00:01:25,764 So I open the show with one silly question and it's the average person in 34 00:01:25,764 --> 00:01:28,434 the US opens, what, 13 times per day? 35 00:01:28,614 --> 00:01:28,884 Is it? 36 00:01:28,974 --> 00:01:30,534 A, the front door? 37 00:01:30,924 --> 00:01:35,184 B, a can of soda, C the refrigerator, or d, 38 00:01:35,274 --> 00:01:35,704 a window. 39 00:01:35,704 --> 00:01:37,451 I guess I'm gonna go with the refrigerator. 40 00:01:37,841 --> 00:01:38,551 That would be my. 41 00:01:39,176 --> 00:01:41,486 Okay, the official answer is refrigerator. 42 00:01:41,636 --> 00:01:42,806 Now guys, don't cheat. 43 00:01:42,836 --> 00:01:44,486 Don't pause this and go look it up. 44 00:01:44,846 --> 00:01:47,006 Make your guest wait for the end of the show and we'll find 45 00:01:47,006 --> 00:01:48,086 out if he's right about that. 46 00:01:49,166 --> 00:01:50,111 Andy, I don't do big introductions. 47 00:01:51,176 --> 00:01:53,186 In your own words, who is Andy Murphy? 48 00:01:53,906 --> 00:01:54,416 Sure. 49 00:01:54,416 --> 00:01:59,137 So, Andy Murphy is a guy who has always been security minded. 50 00:01:59,163 --> 00:02:02,593 I did a podcast not long ago with a lady and I was telling her about, 51 00:02:02,593 --> 00:02:04,903 you know, with some of the stuff I used to do when I was growing up. 52 00:02:04,903 --> 00:02:05,913 Cause I was always the person. 53 00:02:06,413 --> 00:02:08,863 I wanted to make sure everybody got home safe and all that sort of things. 54 00:02:08,863 --> 00:02:13,093 And she was like, oh, so you were a dad of the group and when you were a teenager. 55 00:02:13,093 --> 00:02:14,833 And I'm like, oh no. 56 00:02:14,833 --> 00:02:18,403 I think I was, it's kind of a, a horrible thing to realize 57 00:02:18,403 --> 00:02:19,423 now, but it's kind of funny. 58 00:02:19,441 --> 00:02:22,551 But in my life I was always somebody who was security minded. 59 00:02:22,602 --> 00:02:28,734 And I wanted to make sure that I brought up my family where safety was something 60 00:02:28,734 --> 00:02:30,294 that was very important to our family. 61 00:02:30,714 --> 00:02:35,904 And so what I try to do with a secure dad is I try to educate parents on 62 00:02:35,904 --> 00:02:40,134 what they can do, the small things that they can do in their lives every day. 63 00:02:40,509 --> 00:02:42,009 To be just a little bit safer. 64 00:02:42,249 --> 00:02:46,599 I'm not one of these people who is thinks, oh, you know, you have to have a moat and 65 00:02:46,599 --> 00:02:50,319 a fence with, you know, razor wire on it around your house to be safe all times. 66 00:02:50,352 --> 00:02:51,372 That's not what it is. 67 00:02:51,732 --> 00:02:55,242 There's just some simple things that you can do every single day that's gonna 68 00:02:55,242 --> 00:02:58,662 make you and your family a whole lot safer at home and public and online. 69 00:02:58,932 --> 00:03:02,247 So, I'm somebody who, Always being security minded. 70 00:03:02,547 --> 00:03:06,297 Realize there's other parents out there just like me who are wanting to be able 71 00:03:06,297 --> 00:03:12,597 to like haul in all of these thoughts that they have and focus them into what 72 00:03:12,597 --> 00:03:14,397 is necessary to protect their family. 73 00:03:14,397 --> 00:03:16,563 And that's really how the Secure Dad was born. 74 00:03:17,283 --> 00:03:18,363 Okay, and 75 00:03:19,023 --> 00:03:21,861 for those of you guys listening you'll have to look at the artwork. 76 00:03:22,311 --> 00:03:25,581 Andy's logo is really cool for this Cure Dad podcast, by the way. 77 00:03:25,971 --> 00:03:27,051 Big kudos on that brother. 78 00:03:27,471 --> 00:03:28,040 That's oh yeah. 79 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:28,240 Thank. 80 00:03:28,660 --> 00:03:28,810 It's 81 00:03:28,810 --> 00:03:29,500 very sharp. 82 00:03:29,920 --> 00:03:31,870 I'm liking that it look good on a hat too. 83 00:03:31,900 --> 00:03:36,233 It's hard to make those designs look good both on print, it's embroidery. 84 00:03:36,893 --> 00:03:37,103 Mm-hmm. 85 00:03:37,433 --> 00:03:41,483 , I've had to change my logo a couple times cause of like, we can't embroider that. 86 00:03:42,113 --> 00:03:43,373 Right, right. 87 00:03:43,733 --> 00:03:44,243 Bummer. 88 00:03:44,903 --> 00:03:48,353 Now, Andy, if you could have a conversation with anyone in history, 89 00:03:48,353 --> 00:03:49,673 past, present, or future, who would 90 00:03:49,853 --> 00:03:50,093 it be? 91 00:03:50,093 --> 00:03:52,598 And, Oh man. 92 00:03:53,078 --> 00:03:53,768 Oh, let's see. 93 00:03:54,158 --> 00:03:55,709 Past, present, or future. 94 00:03:55,733 --> 00:03:59,093 You know, being a Christian, I think I'm always supposed to say Jesus. 95 00:03:59,129 --> 00:04:01,439 I think that's always the answer cuz if I don't say that I'm afraid 96 00:04:01,439 --> 00:04:03,438 I might get in trouble when I get to heaven that sort of thing. 97 00:04:03,438 --> 00:04:05,178 But obviously talking to Jesus would be fun. 98 00:04:05,178 --> 00:04:08,778 But, you know, probably more, I think realistically, I think it would be cool to 99 00:04:08,778 --> 00:04:14,448 talk to George Washington knowing all of the stress that guy was, Just being who he 100 00:04:14,453 --> 00:04:20,031 was being considered a re a rebel against, you know, the British crown and being 101 00:04:20,031 --> 00:04:25,071 able to take a ragtag group of civilians and turn them into a fighting force to 102 00:04:25,071 --> 00:04:26,768 fight off the greatest army in the world. 103 00:04:26,768 --> 00:04:31,278 I mean, that guy had to have, Some pretty good insights about how to live life, 104 00:04:31,278 --> 00:04:34,158 and I think that's just, I know a lot, there's a lot of things that are just kind 105 00:04:34,158 --> 00:04:36,948 of trumped up about him that, you know, the whole, I, I cannot tell lie thing is 106 00:04:36,948 --> 00:04:41,221 not true, but just to be able to sit down and talk to the real man who made all 107 00:04:41,221 --> 00:04:44,193 of those decisions and had to look those soldiers in the eye and say, Hey man, 108 00:04:44,193 --> 00:04:48,093 we're gonna cross this river in the dead of night and it's frozen at Christmas day. 109 00:04:48,093 --> 00:04:50,566 We're gonna pop up and try to win our first battle here. 110 00:04:50,566 --> 00:04:52,518 That's some leadership, that's some guts. 111 00:04:52,578 --> 00:04:54,090 And I would like to be able to sit down 112 00:04:54,090 --> 00:04:55,608 and talk to, that would be a cool conversation. 113 00:04:55,608 --> 00:04:56,838 I've never actually had that answer. 114 00:04:57,408 --> 00:04:58,848 Jesus is one answer. 115 00:04:59,178 --> 00:05:01,848 Yeah, . It's a long answer, but I've actually started telling 116 00:05:01,853 --> 00:05:03,318 people like, ok, pick someone 117 00:05:03,408 --> 00:05:04,308 other than Jesus. 118 00:05:04,488 --> 00:05:06,078 Other than Jesus who is Yes. 119 00:05:06,078 --> 00:05:06,378 Yeah. 120 00:05:07,848 --> 00:05:10,818 , what purchase of a hundred dollars or less you make in the last year. 121 00:05:10,818 --> 00:05:12,108 This had the biggest impact on your 122 00:05:12,108 --> 00:05:12,370 life. 123 00:05:12,370 --> 00:05:12,913 Let's see. 124 00:05:15,643 --> 00:05:18,571 Probably it's going to be. 125 00:05:19,071 --> 00:05:23,005 I got a new, it's just, it's funny I'm a knife guy, so I got a new 126 00:05:23,005 --> 00:05:26,035 pocket knife not long ago and it's one of the higher end ones. 127 00:05:26,035 --> 00:05:28,855 Cause I was always one of those guys, like, oh, I'll break it or whatever and I 128 00:05:28,855 --> 00:05:30,835 don't ever wanna like lose it or whatever. 129 00:05:30,840 --> 00:05:33,025 So I had to be responsible. 130 00:05:33,025 --> 00:05:37,087 So I got a name brand knife that I carry with me and it's it's nice to 131 00:05:37,087 --> 00:05:40,297 have and it's other people's seat and it's like, oh hey, that's cool. 132 00:05:40,364 --> 00:05:42,837 It's not terribly, you know, expensive or anything, but for. 133 00:05:43,367 --> 00:05:44,777 It's a high-end thing and it's useful. 134 00:05:44,807 --> 00:05:46,849 They're useful every day for all sorts of things. 135 00:05:46,849 --> 00:05:49,759 A lot of people will think, you know, you carry a knife that you're a dangerous 136 00:05:49,759 --> 00:05:51,799 person, or other people make fun of you. 137 00:05:51,799 --> 00:05:53,509 You're gonna fight a bear today at lunch. 138 00:05:53,509 --> 00:05:56,329 And you're like, well, maybe, you know, that sort of thing. 139 00:05:56,599 --> 00:05:58,702 But yeah, that's been something that's really useful. 140 00:05:58,702 --> 00:06:02,762 Being able to have a tool to get in and out of things is, has been a pretty good. 141 00:06:04,332 --> 00:06:05,562 Hey I'm a pocket knife guy. 142 00:06:05,892 --> 00:06:08,622 I got my first pocket knife from my grandfather at six years old. 143 00:06:08,622 --> 00:06:09,582 I still have it, actually. 144 00:06:09,582 --> 00:06:10,902 I managed to hold onto all the years. 145 00:06:10,907 --> 00:06:12,152 Very good, very good. 146 00:06:12,432 --> 00:06:13,602 But I, that's awesome. 147 00:06:13,782 --> 00:06:15,312 I'm never caught without a pocket knife. 148 00:06:15,312 --> 00:06:19,842 It's the most useful tool I think I've actually like, they have a 149 00:06:20,322 --> 00:06:23,712 yearly study that comes out, like the most top 10 most useful tools, 150 00:06:23,952 --> 00:06:25,672 and Mike was always the top one or. 151 00:06:26,397 --> 00:06:29,847 Yeah, I use my pocket knife for everything from cutting steak when 152 00:06:29,847 --> 00:06:33,747 I'm on the go and to prying things off, you'll find most of mine have 153 00:06:33,747 --> 00:06:35,827 the tip broken off where I've, yeah. 154 00:06:36,072 --> 00:06:36,613 I've done that. 155 00:06:36,613 --> 00:06:39,354 A, got a little carried away in thinking what they could handle as 156 00:06:39,359 --> 00:06:41,404 far as prying things, but mm-hmm. 157 00:06:42,194 --> 00:06:42,684 . Yeah. 158 00:06:42,684 --> 00:06:49,201 And just we're talking one that has half of a serrated blade on it because there's 159 00:06:49,201 --> 00:06:51,751 a lot of times you just really need to like saw into something to cut it. 160 00:06:52,396 --> 00:06:55,726 And not necessarily poke it or stab yourself, which I may 161 00:06:55,726 --> 00:06:57,106 or may not have done before 162 00:06:57,611 --> 00:06:59,446 So lesson learned there. 163 00:06:59,656 --> 00:07:02,356 Half blade, my suggestion, half blade, at least serrated. 164 00:07:03,286 --> 00:07:03,496 Okay. 165 00:07:04,426 --> 00:07:06,736 What's just one randomly strange fact 166 00:07:06,736 --> 00:07:07,136 about you? 167 00:07:07,136 --> 00:07:08,020 . This one is weird. 168 00:07:08,020 --> 00:07:10,030 I didn't think this is the first thing that popped into my head. 169 00:07:10,049 --> 00:07:10,938 So, I. 170 00:07:11,598 --> 00:07:16,698 I actually gotten to meet Patrick Swayze when I was a kid, and so he was, my dad 171 00:07:16,698 --> 00:07:21,994 was an extra in a TV series that he was in, so I sometimes freak people out when 172 00:07:21,994 --> 00:07:25,924 I tell people that Patrick Swayze once held me in his arms because I was four. 173 00:07:26,239 --> 00:07:27,829 And he was posing for a picture. 174 00:07:28,099 --> 00:07:30,529 So that's just kind of a, a random funny thing. 175 00:07:30,534 --> 00:07:34,339 And there's this picture o of me, my mom, dad, and Patrick Swayze from this shoot. 176 00:07:34,609 --> 00:07:35,659 So it's really cool. 177 00:07:35,659 --> 00:07:39,576 And he was always a really nice guy on set to my dad and a couple other people. 178 00:07:39,576 --> 00:07:41,917 So I've always had a big respect for him and I was sad when he 179 00:07:41,917 --> 00:07:43,087 passed away a few years ago. 180 00:07:43,927 --> 00:07:44,557 That's very 181 00:07:44,557 --> 00:07:44,947 cool. 182 00:07:45,637 --> 00:07:48,757 What is one thing that everyone should know about you before 183 00:07:48,757 --> 00:07:49,907 we dig into this podcast? 184 00:07:49,907 --> 00:07:51,402 I don't take myself too serious. 185 00:07:51,463 --> 00:07:53,200 I like to make self-deprecating jokes. 186 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:55,690 I will fully admit I do not know everything. 187 00:07:56,080 --> 00:08:00,280 And so when I do say something, it's because I've researched it 188 00:08:00,340 --> 00:08:02,110 or I've experienced it, or both. 189 00:08:02,530 --> 00:08:06,290 So it's, when I say something, it's, there's some weight behind it. 190 00:08:06,294 --> 00:08:08,484 And I'm not gonna sit here and think that I'm an expert in 191 00:08:08,489 --> 00:08:09,774 everything because I, I'm not. 192 00:08:10,584 --> 00:08:11,074 Okay. 193 00:08:11,154 --> 00:08:11,604 Fair enough. 194 00:08:12,324 --> 00:08:14,334 Guys, we've been getting to know Andy just a little bit. 195 00:08:14,334 --> 00:08:16,674 I want you to know who this is we're talking to. 196 00:08:17,289 --> 00:08:20,420 And why this conversation is important coming up, we're gonna dive 197 00:08:20,420 --> 00:08:23,270 into keeping your family safe, but what's really going on out there? 198 00:08:23,270 --> 00:08:24,890 Why this should be a priority to you. 199 00:08:25,220 --> 00:08:28,130 We're gonna roll to one of our sponsors and we'll be right back with Murphy. 200 00:08:29,330 --> 00:08:32,180 One thing I usually don't share is how impactful the podcast 201 00:08:32,180 --> 00:08:33,290 has been for me personally. 202 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:36,920 There's a lot I love and appreciate because I have the podcast. 203 00:08:37,220 --> 00:08:39,470 I become somebody who can approach people easier. 204 00:08:39,500 --> 00:08:41,900 I have a better network of people to call upon when I need 'em. 205 00:08:42,350 --> 00:08:46,070 I get to meet new people all the time from all walks of life and all over the 206 00:08:46,070 --> 00:08:50,530 globe and connect with 'em at a deeper level, and I have a voice to do what I. 207 00:08:51,255 --> 00:08:54,855 I'm always put into situations where I'm having to stretch and learn something new. 208 00:08:55,185 --> 00:08:57,885 I've really grown as a person and a professional since I started doing 209 00:08:57,885 --> 00:09:01,755 my podcast, and that was even before my show really started growing. 210 00:09:02,655 --> 00:09:05,955 I hired a company called Grow Your Show, who's our sponsor, by the way, 211 00:09:06,615 --> 00:09:07,845 and I wanted to share them with you. 212 00:09:08,295 --> 00:09:11,025 The owner, Adam, has one of the very best podcasts for teaching 213 00:09:11,025 --> 00:09:12,435 you how to be a podcaster. 214 00:09:12,885 --> 00:09:14,055 I honestly wish I had found it. 215 00:09:15,185 --> 00:09:18,365 One thing that they've done to help me is to bring me to a much larger 216 00:09:18,365 --> 00:09:21,545 listener base so that my voice is being heard around the world. 217 00:09:22,025 --> 00:09:25,505 There's a good chance, in fact that they helped us connect, but they 218 00:09:25,505 --> 00:09:27,455 also do editing and post-production. 219 00:09:27,995 --> 00:09:31,355 They can even help you launch and start your podcast, which could 220 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,445 really help you in your business or whatever you're trying to achieve. 221 00:09:35,345 --> 00:09:37,055 So I just wanted to give them a quick shout out. 222 00:09:37,145 --> 00:09:41,165 I love to share great people and companies that I believe in, that I use personally. 223 00:09:41,885 --> 00:09:44,585 So that's Grow Your show@growyourshow.com. 224 00:09:44,915 --> 00:09:48,305 I have a link in the show notes and if you have a podcast or you wanna start 225 00:09:48,305 --> 00:09:51,605 a podcast or you're thinking about it, just scroll down there, click that 226 00:09:51,605 --> 00:09:53,675 link and go work with my friend Adam. 227 00:09:53,885 --> 00:09:56,195 He's gonna treat you right guys, welcome back. 228 00:09:56,375 --> 00:10:00,365 We started with some getting to know Andy Murphy a little bit, and Andy Murphy 229 00:10:00,370 --> 00:10:03,065 is the host of the Secure Dad Podcast. 230 00:10:03,635 --> 00:10:05,795 In the first part of the show, we just wanted to talk to him a little bit 231 00:10:05,795 --> 00:10:07,295 and see who he is, what he's about. 232 00:10:07,775 --> 00:10:09,695 In this section of the show we're gonna get into. 233 00:10:10,115 --> 00:10:11,795 What's really going on out there? 234 00:10:11,855 --> 00:10:14,945 What you need to know about keeping your family safe and secure in the 235 00:10:14,945 --> 00:10:16,835 world we're living in these days now. 236 00:10:16,835 --> 00:10:20,675 Andy, you've written a book, home Security, the Secure Dad's Guide, 237 00:10:20,855 --> 00:10:22,955 easy Home Defense Techniques to Keep Your Family Safe. 238 00:10:23,885 --> 00:10:26,555 I can't believe I actually all got my copy here. 239 00:10:27,215 --> 00:10:27,905 It's a big title. 240 00:10:28,580 --> 00:10:28,970 Thank you. 241 00:10:29,300 --> 00:10:29,450 You 242 00:10:29,450 --> 00:10:32,660 actually have another book as well on Secure Passwords, which mm-hmm. 243 00:10:32,900 --> 00:10:34,820 . I know more than a few people who could use that. 244 00:10:34,887 --> 00:10:38,411 I have a background as an IT guy, Uhhuh, so I know more than 245 00:10:38,411 --> 00:10:39,641 a few people who need that one. 246 00:10:40,271 --> 00:10:43,302 You actually have a podcast, the Secure Dad's podcast. 247 00:10:43,302 --> 00:10:45,102 What sets you on this path? 248 00:10:45,107 --> 00:10:47,862 You said earlier that you were always kind of security minded. 249 00:10:47,862 --> 00:10:49,092 What took you down this? 250 00:10:50,097 --> 00:10:50,607 Sure. 251 00:10:50,622 --> 00:10:55,089 And I'll tell you this story and I don't wanna, I don't necessarily think that 252 00:10:55,089 --> 00:10:57,159 we need to follow this particular path. 253 00:10:57,189 --> 00:10:58,119 Only if you want to. 254 00:10:58,539 --> 00:11:03,552 So, I was in high school at the same time the attack happened 255 00:11:03,552 --> 00:11:04,632 on Columbine High School. 256 00:11:04,632 --> 00:11:06,222 Now I was thousands of miles away. 257 00:11:06,222 --> 00:11:06,882 It was not there. 258 00:11:07,512 --> 00:11:10,632 And I remember her going to school the next day and thinking, 259 00:11:11,352 --> 00:11:13,512 man, one of my classmates. 260 00:11:14,712 --> 00:11:17,772 Could be the next school shooter, you know? 261 00:11:17,796 --> 00:11:22,246 I had never, ever once thought about the attacker being my fellow classmate. 262 00:11:22,251 --> 00:11:27,256 And I realized that while my school did have a school resource officer that s 263 00:11:27,261 --> 00:11:32,116 r o was not gonna be able to get to my classroom in time if something went wrong. 264 00:11:32,266 --> 00:11:38,206 So I realized in that moment that my safety was my own respons. 265 00:11:38,836 --> 00:11:39,736 And that's huge. 266 00:11:39,856 --> 00:11:44,626 Most people don't have that understanding until they've been the victim of a 267 00:11:44,626 --> 00:11:49,186 crime or until they have thought, I'm in my last moments of life. 268 00:11:49,666 --> 00:11:55,246 So to have that thought without being physically threatened is 269 00:11:55,396 --> 00:11:57,286 kind of a lightning strike event. 270 00:11:57,646 --> 00:12:01,126 And so that's just one of those things that always stuck with me. 271 00:12:01,396 --> 00:12:04,726 I started to develop my own version of what is today 272 00:12:04,726 --> 00:12:06,226 called situational awareness. 273 00:12:06,616 --> 00:12:10,036 That was not something that existed or that term didn't exist back then. 274 00:12:10,157 --> 00:12:14,357 And so I tried to think about, okay, if something ha bad happens 275 00:12:14,362 --> 00:12:15,947 over here, how do I get away? 276 00:12:16,367 --> 00:12:19,306 If you know, if I were going to do something bad, how would I do it? 277 00:12:19,306 --> 00:12:22,749 So I reverse engineer that to look at, okay, so what do I 278 00:12:22,749 --> 00:12:24,051 need to do to keep myself safe? 279 00:12:24,591 --> 00:12:27,531 And so that's really kind of where all of this started. 280 00:12:27,921 --> 00:12:29,211 I started really focusing. 281 00:12:30,486 --> 00:12:34,366 What is happening in my environment that could affect me? 282 00:12:34,366 --> 00:12:37,339 What did those pre-event indicators look like? 283 00:12:37,759 --> 00:12:42,122 Now I've since then, you know, kind of been able to study with the best people 284 00:12:42,122 --> 00:12:46,262 in the world on this topic, and so been able to refine it a whole lot better. 285 00:12:46,532 --> 00:12:50,072 But that's kind of where things started, was sitting in my classroom 286 00:12:50,402 --> 00:12:53,492 the day after Columbine and thinking, wow, that could happen here. 287 00:12:54,092 --> 00:12:55,802 My safety's my own responsibility. 288 00:12:56,072 --> 00:12:57,002 Well, what am I gonna do? 289 00:12:58,772 --> 00:13:01,082 That is a mic drop moment when people start to actually 290 00:13:01,082 --> 00:13:02,192 realize it's like, oh wait. 291 00:13:03,302 --> 00:13:03,602 Yeah. 292 00:13:03,669 --> 00:13:05,760 The good guys aren't coming to save me necessarily. 293 00:13:05,829 --> 00:13:07,689 I see that meme on social media all the time. 294 00:13:07,869 --> 00:13:12,729 It actually kinda drives me nuts at this point, but it's because it, to me, it's 295 00:13:12,729 --> 00:13:18,997 like that's always been part I had that early understanding fairly early on. 296 00:13:19,067 --> 00:13:20,147 In the same kind of things. 297 00:13:20,357 --> 00:13:23,027 I think we're fairly in the same main age range. 298 00:13:23,027 --> 00:13:23,597 I remember that. 299 00:13:23,597 --> 00:13:24,167 Very fresh. 300 00:13:24,259 --> 00:13:24,649 . Oh yeah. 301 00:13:24,739 --> 00:13:25,039 Yeah. 302 00:13:25,459 --> 00:13:28,054 And it's always been like, okay, this is gonna be me, right? 303 00:13:28,134 --> 00:13:28,744 Mm-hmm. 304 00:13:28,824 --> 00:13:30,634 . So now I see that all the time on Instagram. 305 00:13:30,634 --> 00:13:31,714 No one's coming to save you. 306 00:13:32,644 --> 00:13:33,334 Right? 307 00:13:33,544 --> 00:13:34,204 That reminder. 308 00:13:35,259 --> 00:13:35,460 Apparently lot 309 00:13:35,819 --> 00:13:36,139 of people do. 310 00:13:36,829 --> 00:13:37,309 Yeah. 311 00:13:37,519 --> 00:13:40,909 A lot of people, you know, they live in bubbles and they think that, 312 00:13:41,059 --> 00:13:42,619 you know, everybody is like them. 313 00:13:43,039 --> 00:13:46,309 That they're good people who go to work nine to five every day. 314 00:13:46,309 --> 00:13:49,009 And that, you know, murder doesn't happen all the time. 315 00:13:49,279 --> 00:13:50,779 People aren't trying to scam people. 316 00:13:50,779 --> 00:13:53,843 People aren't trying to, you know, abduct your children, that sort 317 00:13:53,843 --> 00:13:55,104 of thing, and that is happening. 318 00:13:55,344 --> 00:13:58,341 And it's a lot of cases, it's like it's outta sight, outta mind for. 319 00:13:59,086 --> 00:14:01,966 But once it gets on your radar, it should never disappear. 320 00:14:02,386 --> 00:14:05,656 And you just need to understand that, hey, this is the reality of life, you know? 321 00:14:05,686 --> 00:14:10,366 You know, on the sinus side is life's life service, you know, being scam, 322 00:14:10,366 --> 00:14:13,126 scammed for, you know, all of your money in the bank and things like that. 323 00:14:13,126 --> 00:14:17,026 There are unfortunately bad people out there who want to take advantage 324 00:14:17,031 --> 00:14:19,186 of the good people, always. 325 00:14:19,786 --> 00:14:21,586 Now tell us a little bit about the Secure Dads 326 00:14:21,586 --> 00:14:22,096 podcast. 327 00:14:23,001 --> 00:14:23,331 Sure. 328 00:14:23,601 --> 00:14:26,001 So the Secure Ad podcast is a lot like yours. 329 00:14:26,001 --> 00:14:30,141 I follow format where I will have a guest on and then I'll do a solo show, but they 330 00:14:30,141 --> 00:14:35,811 usually focus on topics that are relevant to parents, and I call my audience. 331 00:14:35,841 --> 00:14:38,151 Protect your parents and protect your parents. 332 00:14:38,151 --> 00:14:42,411 Are those people who realize that keeping my family safe is 333 00:14:42,411 --> 00:14:45,321 something that I absolutely need to make a priority in my life. 334 00:14:45,321 --> 00:14:49,431 Now, every parent wants to be a protector, but not necessarily all of them. 335 00:14:49,851 --> 00:14:51,471 Own up to that responsibility. 336 00:14:51,741 --> 00:14:54,597 That's some part of parenting that some people just don't want to 337 00:14:55,037 --> 00:14:55,977 activate that part of their brain. 338 00:14:56,772 --> 00:15:01,332 My particular audience is always looking for ways to make themselves safer. 339 00:15:01,332 --> 00:15:06,962 And so I will on a weekly basis, either talk to experts or do research from what 340 00:15:06,962 --> 00:15:10,292 I've experienced, from what I've seen, from what I've learned, and talk about 341 00:15:10,292 --> 00:15:14,762 different safety ideas that come from the perspective of trying to keep somebody 342 00:15:14,762 --> 00:15:17,402 safe at home, in public and online. 343 00:15:17,852 --> 00:15:19,882 And the really over the past two years, the. 344 00:15:21,202 --> 00:15:26,362 Safety and security has really exploded, and I just did a podcast that is on 345 00:15:26,392 --> 00:15:29,812 preventing child abductions now, you know, since you and I just talked 346 00:15:29,812 --> 00:15:32,722 about how we're kind of close in age when, you know, we were little, 347 00:15:32,722 --> 00:15:36,082 we were talk, hey, talk, never talk to strangers, that sort of thing. 348 00:15:36,082 --> 00:15:39,232 Because we were told that if we went to Kmart, you know, every other 349 00:15:39,237 --> 00:15:40,562 adult there wants to steal you. 350 00:15:40,702 --> 00:15:42,322 And that's just, you know, not the case. 351 00:15:42,682 --> 00:15:46,912 Today, in 2023, most child abductions start. 352 00:15:47,947 --> 00:15:52,537 When a predator or a groomer reaches out online, establishes a relationship, 353 00:15:53,047 --> 00:15:56,887 works with your kid to build this fake friendship, and then there's 354 00:15:56,887 --> 00:16:01,267 eventually going to be an invite for a meetup in person, and that's when that 355 00:16:01,267 --> 00:16:04,147 individual is going to entice your kid. 356 00:16:04,702 --> 00:16:06,172 To leave with them. 357 00:16:06,502 --> 00:16:09,172 It's not really going to be a snatch and grab off the street. 358 00:16:09,352 --> 00:16:10,012 Don't get me wrong. 359 00:16:10,012 --> 00:16:11,452 Those do happen, but they're rare. 360 00:16:11,752 --> 00:16:15,802 So really in a lot of ways to keep your kids physically safe, it has 361 00:16:15,802 --> 00:16:20,242 to start online because that's where our kids in 2023 are living 362 00:16:20,242 --> 00:16:21,562 a lot of their lives right now. 363 00:16:22,172 --> 00:16:23,022 Absolutely. 364 00:16:23,962 --> 00:16:28,042 Now, most men think they understand the concept of being a protector pretty well. 365 00:16:28,162 --> 00:16:28,252 Mm-hmm. 366 00:16:28,492 --> 00:16:28,582 . Right? 367 00:16:28,582 --> 00:16:29,632 It's part of our role as men. 368 00:16:29,822 --> 00:16:30,242 Yes. 369 00:16:30,242 --> 00:16:31,349 Or at least we like to think we. 370 00:16:32,264 --> 00:16:34,494 What are some of the things that you see are often 371 00:16:34,964 --> 00:16:35,324 overlooked? 372 00:16:37,014 --> 00:16:37,404 Sure. 373 00:16:37,404 --> 00:16:42,064 So I think a lot of people, it's not necessarily overlooked. 374 00:16:42,064 --> 00:16:44,154 I think a lot of people overestimate what they can do. 375 00:16:44,544 --> 00:16:48,624 I think if you've like never really been trained to fight you 376 00:16:48,624 --> 00:16:49,914 know, especially as an adult. 377 00:16:50,319 --> 00:16:53,919 You may not be as good as you were when you had three fights, and the 378 00:16:53,919 --> 00:16:55,449 last one was in the seventh grade. 379 00:16:55,749 --> 00:16:59,589 It's gonna be a little bit different now that you are an adult. 380 00:16:59,594 --> 00:17:03,586 So I always, you know, stress to people to train on all sorts of things. 381 00:17:03,586 --> 00:17:08,896 Train on how to fight, how to protect yourself, train in self-defense, train on. 382 00:17:09,034 --> 00:17:12,274 You know, how to render aid, first aid, you know, stop the 383 00:17:12,274 --> 00:17:13,294 bleed, that sort of thing. 384 00:17:13,594 --> 00:17:15,274 Those sorts of things are gonna make you better. 385 00:17:15,274 --> 00:17:19,204 A lot of people will think, oh, well, if this happens, I will definitely 386 00:17:19,209 --> 00:17:24,034 be able to just magically get the skills necessary to survive this 387 00:17:24,039 --> 00:17:25,654 situation and look like a hero. 388 00:17:26,284 --> 00:17:27,904 Unfortunately, that's just not reality. 389 00:17:27,909 --> 00:17:28,774 When you were under. 390 00:17:29,939 --> 00:17:33,070 Absolute stress of a life-threatening attack on yourself or your kid. 391 00:17:33,095 --> 00:17:36,021 You're going to just fall back to your lowest level of training. 392 00:17:36,051 --> 00:17:38,991 And if you don't have any, then you're gonna have nothing. 393 00:17:39,471 --> 00:17:40,791 So that's why I really. 394 00:17:41,676 --> 00:17:44,046 You know, people overlook that, and that's one of the things that I 395 00:17:44,046 --> 00:17:47,860 really want to stress to people is, you know, even me I encourage people. 396 00:17:47,860 --> 00:17:50,680 I've encouraged my listeners to go out at least once a year 397 00:17:50,680 --> 00:17:52,120 and get training on something. 398 00:17:52,450 --> 00:17:55,450 As a matter of fact, I've got a training opportunity coming up later this 399 00:17:55,450 --> 00:17:59,590 month that I'm really excited about, and so that's why I encourage people 400 00:17:59,590 --> 00:18:01,180 to go get outta that comfort zone. 401 00:18:01,570 --> 00:18:03,820 Don't think that you're automatically going to have the answers. 402 00:18:03,820 --> 00:18:06,790 You're not gonna all of a sudden gain the skills of Chuck Norris and you're 403 00:18:06,790 --> 00:18:08,470 gonna be able to fight off 16 people. 404 00:18:08,770 --> 00:18:10,000 That's just not gonna happen. 405 00:18:10,270 --> 00:18:13,130 So go out there and train for the reality of what's happening. 406 00:18:13,138 --> 00:18:14,253 I love that cuz I, 407 00:18:14,258 --> 00:18:17,118 that's, I hate to say that, but that's so man. 408 00:18:17,328 --> 00:18:17,688 Like we, 409 00:18:17,838 --> 00:18:19,698 we all think it's, yeah, it is. 410 00:18:19,908 --> 00:18:20,898 And I thought that way too. 411 00:18:21,018 --> 00:18:21,858 I really did too. 412 00:18:21,858 --> 00:18:22,428 So, yeah, 413 00:18:23,178 --> 00:18:25,818 we all got through school and, you know, we like action movies and I 414 00:18:25,818 --> 00:18:27,708 was like, oh yeah, I'd be fine in a. 415 00:18:28,593 --> 00:18:30,903 It's like you actually got punched, dude. 416 00:18:31,623 --> 00:18:32,113 Yeah. 417 00:18:32,673 --> 00:18:33,153 . Yeah. 418 00:18:33,813 --> 00:18:34,053 Right. 419 00:18:34,053 --> 00:18:36,513 Was it Tyson who said, everybody thinks they're pretty tough 420 00:18:36,513 --> 00:18:37,173 until they get punched in 421 00:18:37,178 --> 00:18:37,593 the face. 422 00:18:38,443 --> 00:18:38,933 Yeah. 423 00:18:38,933 --> 00:18:39,093 Yeah. 424 00:18:39,098 --> 00:18:39,873 Everybody's got a planet. 425 00:18:39,873 --> 00:18:40,833 They'll get punched in the mouth. 426 00:18:40,838 --> 00:18:41,013 Yeah. 427 00:18:41,013 --> 00:18:41,933 That's the quote, right? 428 00:18:42,063 --> 00:18:42,393 Yeah. 429 00:18:42,393 --> 00:18:43,083 It's a good one. 430 00:18:43,143 --> 00:18:43,803 It's a good one. 431 00:18:43,863 --> 00:18:44,182 Yeah. 432 00:18:44,182 --> 00:18:47,340 We all think we're pretty tough and it's like last time you were 433 00:18:47,340 --> 00:18:51,240 in a fight, like you hadn't even to get like your full hype yet. 434 00:18:52,395 --> 00:18:53,595 Right, right. 435 00:18:55,155 --> 00:18:55,425 . Yeah. 436 00:18:55,425 --> 00:18:58,172 And especially, you know, if you're older and you've got, you know, an old 437 00:18:58,172 --> 00:19:01,382 football injury or whatever, and you go to take a swing and you pull something 438 00:19:01,382 --> 00:19:05,312 in your back, man, you know, if you're not aware, you're gonna put yourself 439 00:19:05,312 --> 00:19:09,062 into a situation where you're not gonna be able to respond like you think. 440 00:19:09,152 --> 00:19:12,386 So that's why training and knowing your limits is a really good idea. 441 00:19:13,226 --> 00:19:13,886 I always found 442 00:19:13,886 --> 00:19:15,686 myself very physically capable growing. 443 00:19:17,156 --> 00:19:19,796 You know, looking now it's like, man, I've, yeah. 444 00:19:19,841 --> 00:19:22,306 I've torn up my shoulder, I've broken my back twice. 445 00:19:23,296 --> 00:19:23,386 Ooh. 446 00:19:23,416 --> 00:19:25,636 I dunno if I can move like that anymore. 447 00:19:25,641 --> 00:19:27,106 Or about speed. 448 00:19:27,158 --> 00:19:27,405 Yeah. 449 00:19:27,405 --> 00:19:33,451 The reality is eventually we stop being 18, 19 year old spry in the prime of our 450 00:19:33,831 --> 00:19:35,791 physical . Yeah. 451 00:19:35,791 --> 00:19:36,001 Yeah. 452 00:19:36,001 --> 00:19:38,161 Time March is on . I'm definitely 453 00:19:38,161 --> 00:19:41,221 stronger than I was at 18, but I'm certainly not faster or 454 00:19:41,226 --> 00:19:42,421 more limber or anything like. 455 00:19:43,411 --> 00:19:43,861 Right. 456 00:19:44,191 --> 00:19:47,349 You touched on it a little bit and it's this topic I definitely 457 00:19:47,349 --> 00:19:51,279 wanna touch on a little deeper here is online security, right? 458 00:19:51,279 --> 00:19:51,369 Mm-hmm. 459 00:19:51,609 --> 00:19:55,539 , this is such a prevalent issue in our world today. 460 00:19:55,719 --> 00:19:59,949 I homeschool my kids, my wife, well I should say my wife homeschools our kids 461 00:19:59,949 --> 00:20:04,959 and does an amazing job, but you know, you are, people are online so much these days. 462 00:20:05,409 --> 00:20:05,499 Mm-hmm. 463 00:20:05,739 --> 00:20:08,043 and as a former IT guy, I know the vulnerabilities 464 00:20:08,043 --> 00:20:09,723 involved in that very easily. 465 00:20:09,723 --> 00:20:09,873 For sure. 466 00:20:09,873 --> 00:20:10,023 Yeah. 467 00:20:10,203 --> 00:20:10,603 For. 468 00:20:11,493 --> 00:20:15,813 So what are some things, particularly around social media and stuff that we 469 00:20:15,813 --> 00:20:18,693 need to look at as parents in keeping our 470 00:20:18,693 --> 00:20:19,293 family safe? 471 00:20:20,778 --> 00:20:21,228 Sure. 472 00:20:21,263 --> 00:20:23,861 So, you know, you have in your IT background talking 473 00:20:23,861 --> 00:20:25,061 about, you know, the exploits. 474 00:20:25,066 --> 00:20:26,201 You know how all of that works. 475 00:20:26,591 --> 00:20:30,911 A few years ago I realized I was not where I needed to be to 476 00:20:30,911 --> 00:20:32,531 understand what online threats were. 477 00:20:32,531 --> 00:20:36,581 So I really put in a focus to understand what was gonna happen to my family. 478 00:20:36,941 --> 00:20:40,841 When I looked at this issue, I found that there's a lot of analog 479 00:20:40,841 --> 00:20:42,731 solutions to digital problems. 480 00:20:43,121 --> 00:20:47,741 And so one of the things that I kind of developed from this is to. 481 00:20:49,076 --> 00:20:54,176 Tell your children that they need to behave online as they would in person. 482 00:20:54,896 --> 00:20:57,746 A lot of people think that since they're behind that keyboard, they 483 00:20:57,746 --> 00:21:00,852 say and do all things of things never say, and somebody's face. 484 00:21:01,122 --> 00:21:05,772 So you need to tell your kids that, Hey, we have this expectation when you go to 485 00:21:05,777 --> 00:21:08,982 school that you're gonna behave like this, or we go to the store, we go to church. 486 00:21:09,352 --> 00:21:11,742 Wherever you're going, we have an expectation that this is the way 487 00:21:11,742 --> 00:21:14,952 you're supposed to behave, and we need to set that same expectation for. 488 00:21:15,792 --> 00:21:19,432 We need to tell kids, Hey, you don't need to make threatening 489 00:21:19,437 --> 00:21:20,442 comments to classmates. 490 00:21:20,442 --> 00:21:24,852 You don't need to post pictures of your classmates, you know, in memes. 491 00:21:24,852 --> 00:21:27,882 You don't need to take pictures and, you know, clothing. 492 00:21:27,882 --> 00:21:31,542 That's, you know, that you wouldn't go out in public in those sorts of things. 493 00:21:31,752 --> 00:21:35,472 And that's gonna help you avoid a lot of trouble right there. 494 00:21:35,772 --> 00:21:41,310 And also and a big one that's happened is, When, especially when online gaming. 495 00:21:41,700 --> 00:21:46,114 When online gaming happens you make a contact and that contact in the gaming 496 00:21:46,114 --> 00:21:50,644 world's called a friend, but they're not really your friend to little kids. 497 00:21:50,644 --> 00:21:51,724 They don't understand that. 498 00:21:51,724 --> 00:21:53,854 So if they're playing Minecraft or something like that, you're 499 00:21:53,854 --> 00:21:56,734 like, oh, I added this friend, this person is my friend. 500 00:21:56,774 --> 00:21:59,374 Humans have an understanding of what friendship is. 501 00:21:59,854 --> 00:22:02,824 But when you put it into a digital perspective, it's completely different. 502 00:22:03,094 --> 00:22:06,184 So you have to tell your kids, okay, just because this person has called 503 00:22:06,184 --> 00:22:09,844 a friend on this gaming platform does not mean that they have full access 504 00:22:09,844 --> 00:22:12,454 to you as a person all the time. 505 00:22:12,694 --> 00:22:14,884 So you don't tell them where you go to school. 506 00:22:15,364 --> 00:22:18,424 Don't tell them, you know your age, don't tell them your birthday. 507 00:22:18,429 --> 00:22:22,204 Don't send them pictures, don't let them send you things. 508 00:22:22,504 --> 00:22:23,224 That sort of thing. 509 00:22:23,229 --> 00:22:27,124 So if you can set the expectation for how your kids are supposed to 510 00:22:27,124 --> 00:22:30,934 behave and then tell them what side, what sort of information they are not 511 00:22:30,934 --> 00:22:35,854 supposed to share, they're gonna be far ahead of everybody else and they're 512 00:22:35,854 --> 00:22:38,044 going to be a harder target for. 513 00:22:39,514 --> 00:22:39,724 Okay. 514 00:22:40,324 --> 00:22:42,544 I actually have a personal pet peeve. 515 00:22:42,544 --> 00:22:46,924 I blame Facebook for the destruction of the concept of friends. 516 00:22:47,344 --> 00:22:47,644 Right? 517 00:22:47,649 --> 00:22:48,044 Yeah. 518 00:22:48,154 --> 00:22:48,437 Yeah. 519 00:22:48,462 --> 00:22:48,787 I see. 520 00:22:48,787 --> 00:22:49,117 Yeah. 521 00:22:49,687 --> 00:22:53,497 When they named, they were the first ones to say, this person you made 522 00:22:53,502 --> 00:22:55,627 contact with is a friend's list. 523 00:22:55,627 --> 00:22:55,717 Mm-hmm. 524 00:22:56,137 --> 00:23:00,937 . It was like, now I got like a couple friends that, that's it. 525 00:23:00,942 --> 00:23:01,057 Mm-hmm. 526 00:23:01,137 --> 00:23:02,287 , I got a lot of acquaintances. 527 00:23:02,917 --> 00:23:04,987 I got a lot of people, like, I'll go around the way and 528 00:23:04,987 --> 00:23:05,767 be like, Hey, what's up? 529 00:23:05,848 --> 00:23:09,398 Let's go out, let's get a coffee or something, but, Actual concept of 530 00:23:09,398 --> 00:23:11,108 friend really started to fall apart. 531 00:23:11,108 --> 00:23:14,648 I think with Facebook labeling all your contacts as your friends. 532 00:23:15,158 --> 00:23:15,458 Mm-hmm. 533 00:23:16,178 --> 00:23:16,988 that you're right. 534 00:23:17,168 --> 00:23:18,308 Yeah, man, you are right. 535 00:23:18,548 --> 00:23:20,091 Do you remember back when oh, what was it? 536 00:23:20,091 --> 00:23:20,991 Was it MySpace? 537 00:23:21,591 --> 00:23:24,471 Was cutthroat where you had to put your top eight friends on your 538 00:23:24,471 --> 00:23:26,301 profile page or something like that. 539 00:23:26,301 --> 00:23:27,891 I remember that caused problems. 540 00:23:28,281 --> 00:23:28,821 So yeah. 541 00:23:28,956 --> 00:23:29,952 That's yeah, you're right. 542 00:23:29,952 --> 00:23:33,672 The Facebook, we, another thing to blame Facebook for , you know, 543 00:23:33,672 --> 00:23:35,922 not, there's not a real shortage of 544 00:23:36,252 --> 00:23:36,942 those, but, 545 00:23:37,152 --> 00:23:37,272 you know. 546 00:23:37,272 --> 00:23:42,012 No, that's, to me, just tracing it back, that's always where it's like, mm-hmm. 547 00:23:42,097 --> 00:23:44,622 , man, this really kinda started to get diluted right here. 548 00:23:45,072 --> 00:23:45,372 Mm-hmm. 549 00:23:46,002 --> 00:23:47,952 . Now Andy, there are a lot of people. 550 00:23:49,557 --> 00:23:50,907 Think we're a little overprotective. 551 00:23:51,157 --> 00:23:51,767 Mm-hmm. 552 00:23:52,047 --> 00:23:53,418 , you know what I can be a little overprotective. 553 00:23:53,437 --> 00:23:54,790 I'm sure I'll accept that. 554 00:23:55,450 --> 00:23:58,300 But let's talk about the difference between awareness, 555 00:23:58,305 --> 00:23:59,710 preparedness, and paranoia. 556 00:24:00,580 --> 00:24:01,060 Sure. 557 00:24:01,570 --> 00:24:08,106 It's a fine line and it is it's, is as much as an individual as you are. 558 00:24:08,127 --> 00:24:13,214 There will be times that when you start to learn about situational awareness. 559 00:24:13,574 --> 00:24:16,754 It's kinda like the old adage when you get a nice hammer, 560 00:24:16,934 --> 00:24:18,164 everything looks like a nail. 561 00:24:18,164 --> 00:24:21,014 So you just wanna, you know, hammer in that new nail that you see. 562 00:24:21,023 --> 00:24:24,035 And there'll be a time when you start to look at situational awareness, understand 563 00:24:24,035 --> 00:24:26,015 what it is, and you will get paranoid. 564 00:24:26,045 --> 00:24:29,255 That's just part of, I think, the human learning process. 565 00:24:29,615 --> 00:24:32,405 And you've got to understand that yes, you do have this skillset 566 00:24:32,405 --> 00:24:34,205 to look for pre attack indicator. 567 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:39,500 But chances are 99% of the places you walk into, you're not gonna see that 568 00:24:39,500 --> 00:24:41,000 because nothing's actually happening. 569 00:24:41,330 --> 00:24:43,130 And sometimes you just kind of wanna make it up. 570 00:24:43,130 --> 00:24:46,115 And that's where the paranoia and the anxiety can come in. 571 00:24:46,655 --> 00:24:51,275 And it's important to note those things so that when you start to feel that way, 572 00:24:51,275 --> 00:24:54,705 you start to have like this physiological response to something that's going on. 573 00:24:55,595 --> 00:24:58,265 Especially in those early days, you gotta say, okay, is this really 574 00:24:58,265 --> 00:25:02,075 happening or do I just kind of want this to happen so I can use my new skill? 575 00:25:02,465 --> 00:25:06,848 So it's it's just something that you've got to learn as you go and you 576 00:25:06,853 --> 00:25:10,268 just gotta put in the experience to understand what's really going on. 577 00:25:10,478 --> 00:25:12,818 Because there'll be, sometimes you'll look at something and you'll say, 578 00:25:12,818 --> 00:25:14,348 Hey, that wasn't really anything. 579 00:25:14,618 --> 00:25:18,713 But then you'll see that exact same behavior on like, Ring video that's 580 00:25:18,713 --> 00:25:22,103 been uploaded to Instagram and it was actually the, a pre event indicator to 581 00:25:22,108 --> 00:25:23,783 a crime in that particular scenario. 582 00:25:24,173 --> 00:25:27,443 So it's really all based on who you are and where you are. 583 00:25:27,500 --> 00:25:32,960 But don't let that scare you in starting your journey to be prepared. 584 00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:37,010 Don't let that scare you in your journey to understand human behavior, because 585 00:25:37,010 --> 00:25:38,810 it's all part of the learning process. 586 00:25:38,900 --> 00:25:39,380 And. 587 00:25:40,070 --> 00:25:42,800 Once you get a handle on it, it's actually, it's really good. 588 00:25:43,130 --> 00:25:47,040 So one of the things that I like to do, a lot of people get burned out 589 00:25:47,070 --> 00:25:49,350 when they start to try to understand what's going on around them. 590 00:25:49,980 --> 00:25:53,700 Because your brain can only handle so much of this type of processing, cuz after 591 00:25:53,700 --> 00:25:55,170 a while it's just gonna get burned out. 592 00:25:55,170 --> 00:25:57,360 So you can't do it all the time. 593 00:25:57,360 --> 00:26:01,860 So I tell people to develop what's called secure habits and those secure 594 00:26:01,860 --> 00:26:05,058 habits and we'll make up, you said, you know, invite a friend out for coffee. 595 00:26:05,148 --> 00:26:06,528 That was something you said a second ago. 596 00:26:06,528 --> 00:26:10,209 So like, if I were to meet a friend for coffee, I would sit to where I 597 00:26:10,209 --> 00:26:11,739 could kind of see what was going on. 598 00:26:12,069 --> 00:26:13,839 And you wanna be present in those moments. 599 00:26:13,839 --> 00:26:17,109 You don't wanna be completely paranoid looking at all of the exits. 600 00:26:17,319 --> 00:26:20,049 This guy's reaching into a bag over here, what's he gonna pull out? 601 00:26:20,054 --> 00:26:20,769 What's gonna happen? 602 00:26:20,774 --> 00:26:21,669 And all that sort of stuff. 603 00:26:21,669 --> 00:26:23,533 You're not Jason Bourne, that sort of thing. 604 00:26:23,833 --> 00:26:27,673 So it's really every once in a while when there's a break in the conversation, 605 00:26:27,673 --> 00:26:31,513 take a quick look around, see who is, you know, acting like they're 606 00:26:31,973 --> 00:26:36,073 supposed to be in that environment who maybe looks agitated, who maybe. 607 00:26:37,088 --> 00:26:38,588 Too calm, that sort of thing. 608 00:26:38,588 --> 00:26:40,838 And those are the things you're supposed to pay attention to, but then come 609 00:26:40,838 --> 00:26:44,708 back to the person that you're there present with, whether it's your friend 610 00:26:44,708 --> 00:26:47,598 that you're getting coffee with or your wife on a date, that sort of thing. 611 00:26:47,621 --> 00:26:50,091 And pay attention to her because that's why you're here. 612 00:26:50,091 --> 00:26:50,931 That's what you're doing. 613 00:26:51,201 --> 00:26:53,981 But then also use the secure habits to every once in a while. 614 00:26:54,356 --> 00:26:56,606 Just take stock of what's happening around you. 615 00:26:57,116 --> 00:27:00,206 And then if you do see something, you may have to divert a little bit more 616 00:27:00,206 --> 00:27:03,686 attention to that to make a decision as to what you need to do next. 617 00:27:04,016 --> 00:27:07,796 But if you just work it in those little areas, you know, the person 618 00:27:07,796 --> 00:27:10,556 you're with a little further out to what's going on at the restaurant. 619 00:27:10,556 --> 00:27:13,028 And then I'm gonna take a look around at what's going on the door. 620 00:27:13,358 --> 00:27:16,418 If you could just rotate between those three things, that's a great start. 621 00:27:17,318 --> 00:27:17,528 Okay. 622 00:27:18,578 --> 00:27:19,670 I I had a c. 623 00:27:20,430 --> 00:27:23,904 Who I knew him enough years that I got to see him go from, you 624 00:27:23,904 --> 00:27:27,804 know, younger guy who like was shy away from family conversations 625 00:27:27,804 --> 00:27:30,594 to engage to married to children. 626 00:27:30,984 --> 00:27:31,164 Right. 627 00:27:31,164 --> 00:27:34,044 I worked with him long enough over the years and he had 628 00:27:34,044 --> 00:27:36,204 a son and was loving life. 629 00:27:36,624 --> 00:27:42,264 He came to me when his son was like a year and a half old and he just had this like, 630 00:27:42,594 --> 00:27:48,024 almost distressed look about him, and I asked him like, Hey man, what's going on? 631 00:27:48,789 --> 00:27:49,689 My wife's pregnant. 632 00:27:49,779 --> 00:27:51,339 I was like, dude, congratulations. 633 00:27:51,410 --> 00:27:52,550 That's amazing news. 634 00:27:52,550 --> 00:27:53,030 Why do you look? 635 00:27:53,450 --> 00:27:55,700 He's like, how do you sleep at night? 636 00:27:56,090 --> 00:27:59,960 Cause I have two daughters and he had just found out his wife was suspecting 637 00:27:59,960 --> 00:28:06,680 a little girl, and he was just like, he, he said everything changed. 638 00:28:07,310 --> 00:28:07,400 Mm-hmm. 639 00:28:07,730 --> 00:28:07,820 , right? 640 00:28:07,820 --> 00:28:11,043 I, I don't know, I didn't feel about this with my son, but the minute 641 00:28:11,823 --> 00:28:15,123 she said she was pregnant with a girl, like I said, yes, everybody 642 00:28:15,123 --> 00:28:16,743 in the world became a creep and an. 643 00:28:17,448 --> 00:28:17,958 Yes. 644 00:28:18,198 --> 00:28:18,588 Yes. 645 00:28:19,248 --> 00:28:19,758 . I like it. 646 00:28:19,758 --> 00:28:20,808 You're right, you're right. 647 00:28:21,318 --> 00:28:25,578 I told him, I was like, the trick is to not fall into that paranoia, 648 00:28:25,638 --> 00:28:31,578 because that's, that's the hardest thing when you get that news, is you 649 00:28:32,138 --> 00:28:33,438 instinctively wanna protect your child. 650 00:28:33,798 --> 00:28:33,948 Mm-hmm. 651 00:28:34,428 --> 00:28:38,688 , you instinctively, especially right, men are drawn to protect women. 652 00:28:39,708 --> 00:28:40,518 Than we are boys. 653 00:28:40,546 --> 00:28:43,239 We're top boys are supposed to be rough and tumble, but mm-hmm. 654 00:28:43,389 --> 00:28:45,429 , you know, having a father makes you a little more paranoid. 655 00:28:45,849 --> 00:28:47,619 Having girls makes you really paranoid. 656 00:28:47,739 --> 00:28:49,419 Cause every guy is now a creep. 657 00:28:49,839 --> 00:28:52,389 You never look at a girl quite same way again. 658 00:28:52,719 --> 00:28:53,679 Right, right, right. 659 00:28:53,709 --> 00:28:56,169 All those little teenage girls on Instagram, I'm just like, 660 00:28:56,199 --> 00:28:57,399 put some clothes on, man. 661 00:28:57,404 --> 00:28:57,709 Yeah. 662 00:28:58,989 --> 00:28:59,439 . Yeah. 663 00:28:59,559 --> 00:28:59,769 He's 664 00:28:59,769 --> 00:29:00,039 gone. 665 00:29:00,419 --> 00:29:01,029 Mm-hmm. 666 00:29:01,035 --> 00:29:02,829 , go to this gym, you're like, get dress. 667 00:29:03,564 --> 00:29:04,494 Just get dressed. 668 00:29:04,499 --> 00:29:04,974 What's wrong with you? 669 00:29:07,284 --> 00:29:10,734 . But the trick is to not go too far down that rabbit hole. 670 00:29:11,154 --> 00:29:11,394 Right? 671 00:29:11,399 --> 00:29:11,544 Right. 672 00:29:11,643 --> 00:29:15,663 Life has gotta continue and you should always be aware it's going around you. 673 00:29:15,775 --> 00:29:19,885 I've had to, being around a lot of military guys and intelligence 674 00:29:19,885 --> 00:29:24,385 community guys and officer of the law and just watching them over the 675 00:29:24,385 --> 00:29:27,355 years in all these public situations. 676 00:29:27,970 --> 00:29:31,000 And I had a friend who he could never sit with his back to the door. 677 00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:34,660 He worked in military intelligence when he was the military and like 678 00:29:35,710 --> 00:29:39,460 he wouldn't strike most people as paranoid, but it was fun to watch 679 00:29:39,465 --> 00:29:41,170 and observe him right the way. 680 00:29:41,170 --> 00:29:46,670 He watched room very casually, very comfortably, right? 681 00:29:46,780 --> 00:29:50,500 He didn't look paranoid, he didn't look worried, but I knew without a doubt, he 682 00:29:50,500 --> 00:29:52,630 was aware of everything that was happen. 683 00:29:53,845 --> 00:29:55,945 and that's what we're talking about with situational awareness, right? 684 00:29:55,945 --> 00:30:02,125 It's not necessarily letting it rapidly change who you are as much as just 685 00:30:02,635 --> 00:30:06,415 being more aware, paying attention to what's going on around you, right? 686 00:30:06,415 --> 00:30:07,375 Not being oblivious. 687 00:30:07,375 --> 00:30:09,055 People walking around with their phones down and their 688 00:30:09,060 --> 00:30:10,525 hand or their head down on their 689 00:30:11,575 --> 00:30:12,185 mm-hmm. 690 00:30:13,045 --> 00:30:14,215 It's driving me nuts. 691 00:30:14,365 --> 00:30:14,815 I see that all. 692 00:30:14,815 --> 00:30:14,875 Yeah. 693 00:30:14,875 --> 00:30:15,805 It drive me crazy. 694 00:30:15,835 --> 00:30:16,045 Yeah. 695 00:30:16,045 --> 00:30:19,408 I I took my wife Christmas shopping at the mall, I think last 696 00:30:19,408 --> 00:30:20,848 Christmas, two Christmases ago. 697 00:30:21,088 --> 00:30:22,378 And I just don't go to malls. 698 00:30:22,408 --> 00:30:24,748 I'm not a mall guy, you know, that sort of thing. 699 00:30:25,048 --> 00:30:28,738 So I took her and she wanted to go to this, you know, sale or whatever, and so 700 00:30:28,743 --> 00:30:31,258 I'm like, oh, I'm just gonna sit in people watch, you know, cuz that's what I do. 701 00:30:31,258 --> 00:30:34,414 And I do like to do that, see, you know, practice skills, all this sort of stuff. 702 00:30:34,894 --> 00:30:38,704 So I realize when I'm sitting there on this bench that I'm the only 703 00:30:38,704 --> 00:30:42,484 person who doesn't have their, Everybody else has their phone out. 704 00:30:42,489 --> 00:30:46,204 And that makes me the anomaly in this situation. 705 00:30:46,204 --> 00:30:48,094 That makes me look like the weird guy. 706 00:30:48,454 --> 00:30:51,724 Oh, everybody else here has their phone, but that dude over there doesn't, 707 00:30:52,174 --> 00:30:53,464 you know, and he looks like nice. 708 00:30:53,469 --> 00:30:54,694 And he's smiling at people. 709 00:30:54,694 --> 00:30:55,684 What's wrong with him? 710 00:30:55,954 --> 00:30:56,284 You know? 711 00:30:56,284 --> 00:30:58,984 And so I was like, well, I guess I gotta get my phone out so I 712 00:30:58,984 --> 00:31:01,414 don't appear to be that abnormal. 713 00:31:01,624 --> 00:31:03,034 So I would just hold my phone up. 714 00:31:03,034 --> 00:31:04,204 It's like still on my lock. 715 00:31:05,089 --> 00:31:07,939 So I just look down at it every once in a while and then look back 716 00:31:07,939 --> 00:31:10,459 up around at everybody else who had their face in their phone. 717 00:31:10,759 --> 00:31:13,279 And I'm thinking, man, like I could have walked up to like a number 718 00:31:13,279 --> 00:31:15,619 of people and then just picked their purse up and just walked off. 719 00:31:15,619 --> 00:31:16,980 And I don't think they ever would've noticed. 720 00:31:17,002 --> 00:31:19,497 I'm trying not to laugh here guys and laugh over him talking 721 00:31:19,502 --> 00:31:20,877 because it's killing me. 722 00:31:20,882 --> 00:31:23,637 Cuz I, I know, I knew exactly how that story was gonna play. 723 00:31:23,717 --> 00:31:24,197 Mm-hmm. 724 00:31:24,567 --> 00:31:24,837 . Cause I've done that. 725 00:31:25,047 --> 00:31:26,667 I've been sitting in like a waiting room. 726 00:31:27,327 --> 00:31:27,417 Mm-hmm. 727 00:31:27,657 --> 00:31:28,398 and I love to watch. 728 00:31:29,577 --> 00:31:30,627 And I've been sitting in a waiting room. 729 00:31:30,627 --> 00:31:34,347 I notice everybody's like in the, it's all pull out my phone 730 00:31:34,352 --> 00:31:35,937 and holding up my hand and Yeah. 731 00:31:36,387 --> 00:31:39,417 look up and watch a little bit and look down at my phone. 732 00:31:41,007 --> 00:31:41,307 Yeah. 733 00:31:41,397 --> 00:31:41,697 Yep. 734 00:31:41,997 --> 00:31:45,897 You realize that's how I stand out right now. 735 00:31:46,917 --> 00:31:49,167 And honestly, that's part of situational awareness too, is you 736 00:31:49,437 --> 00:31:51,027 don't wanna stand out all the time. 737 00:31:51,087 --> 00:31:52,077 Right, right. 738 00:31:52,887 --> 00:31:56,367 You know, they, most of the guys I've known over the years who 739 00:31:56,367 --> 00:31:57,597 worked in like special forces. 740 00:31:58,602 --> 00:32:03,819 Amazing men, but they were never what they don't look like 741 00:32:03,819 --> 00:32:05,739 Arnell, Soze nigger, right? 742 00:32:06,279 --> 00:32:12,279 It doesn't look like the movies they're experts at looking like everybody else. 743 00:32:12,339 --> 00:32:15,429 Not standing out, not being noticeable. 744 00:32:16,329 --> 00:32:17,919 That's the last thing they generally want. 745 00:32:18,369 --> 00:32:20,366 Hey guys we're having some fun conversation about this, 746 00:32:20,366 --> 00:32:21,506 talking about the situation. 747 00:32:22,316 --> 00:32:26,636 When we come back from a break, we're going to get into how you. 748 00:32:26,981 --> 00:32:32,081 Can start to implement better actions, better choices, and build yourself a plan 749 00:32:32,531 --> 00:32:34,391 for how you can keep your family safer. 750 00:32:34,391 --> 00:32:36,394 Because ultimately, we all wanna keep our family safe. 751 00:32:36,994 --> 00:32:40,384 We all wanna take care of the people we love and Andy's gonna help us do that. 752 00:32:40,384 --> 00:32:43,684 In this next section of the show, how well do you sleep at night? 753 00:32:43,804 --> 00:32:46,414 Do you toss and turn and wake up more tired than when you went to bed? 754 00:32:46,924 --> 00:32:50,434 Sleep is commonly one of the critical elements people fall short on in their. 755 00:32:51,199 --> 00:32:54,079 The quality of sleep you get directly affects your ability to control 756 00:32:54,079 --> 00:32:57,469 your weight, your ability to add muscle, your stress levels, and your 757 00:32:57,909 --> 00:32:59,179 everyday job and life performance. 758 00:32:59,779 --> 00:33:03,709 If you're ready to move to the next level, then sleep has to be part of the plan. 759 00:33:04,339 --> 00:33:07,549 Check out our friends@ghostbed.com if you're ready to get your best sleep. 760 00:33:07,609 --> 00:33:08,509 I love my ghost bed. 761 00:33:08,514 --> 00:33:11,629 I've been sleeping on one for a couple years and has made a 762 00:33:11,629 --> 00:33:12,799 huge difference in how I sleep. 763 00:33:13,189 --> 00:33:17,209 Hit ghost bed.com and use the code, the Fallible Man 30 to get 30% off your 764 00:33:17,214 --> 00:33:18,979 order and start getting better night's. 765 00:33:18,979 --> 00:33:20,149 Sleep tomorrow. 766 00:33:21,214 --> 00:33:23,164 Now let's go on to the show. 767 00:33:24,304 --> 00:33:24,994 Welcome back guys. 768 00:33:24,994 --> 00:33:28,714 We're here with the host of the Secure Dad Podcast, Andy Murphy, talking 769 00:33:28,714 --> 00:33:30,994 about keeping our loved ones safe. 770 00:33:31,504 --> 00:33:36,874 We're gonna help you build a plan to make it easier on you, to make you more 771 00:33:36,874 --> 00:33:38,764 prepared, and help you protect that. 772 00:33:38,824 --> 00:33:40,084 What's most important to you? 773 00:33:40,834 --> 00:33:45,754 Now, Andy, you have something you called a layered home defense strategy? 774 00:33:46,144 --> 00:33:49,257 Yes, and I want him to introduce that concept to our listen. 775 00:33:49,947 --> 00:33:53,607 So they can understand what's going on there and how this is more beneficial. 776 00:33:53,607 --> 00:33:53,847 Right. 777 00:33:53,847 --> 00:33:56,898 Because a lot of us wanna fall back to, oh, well, you know, 778 00:33:56,967 --> 00:33:59,037 I'll just fight my way out of it. 779 00:33:59,037 --> 00:34:00,763 And that's probably not the best answer. 780 00:34:01,213 --> 00:34:01,693 Sure. 781 00:34:02,203 --> 00:34:02,803 So, yeah. 782 00:34:02,803 --> 00:34:07,061 When when it comes to home security, and this is where this comes in, it's you 783 00:34:07,061 --> 00:34:12,641 wanna have a plan because when the alarm goes off or the dog starts barking, or 784 00:34:12,641 --> 00:34:15,881 you hear somebody kicking in the front door, that is not the time to make a. 785 00:34:16,466 --> 00:34:20,006 That's the time to execute your plan, which means you've had to 786 00:34:20,006 --> 00:34:23,426 think about this well in advance. 787 00:34:23,846 --> 00:34:26,366 So, what you need to understand first is you gotta take 788 00:34:26,366 --> 00:34:29,876 responsibility That you know your safety is your own responsibility. 789 00:34:29,876 --> 00:34:31,616 That's the thing that you have to understand. 790 00:34:31,886 --> 00:34:35,936 And if you're a dad, Then the, your responsibility is also your wife. 791 00:34:35,966 --> 00:34:37,026 It is also your children. 792 00:34:37,055 --> 00:34:41,745 So the, that's a big thing that you've got to get straight first mentally. 793 00:34:41,946 --> 00:34:45,455 So really like the precursor to the layer home defense strategy is 794 00:34:45,460 --> 00:34:48,485 going to be your mental awareness. 795 00:34:48,485 --> 00:34:52,926 It's gonna be what you have prepared to do, what you know that you've done, 796 00:34:52,985 --> 00:34:54,545 and you've made a plan in advance. 797 00:34:54,935 --> 00:34:58,926 So when you take a look at this, the first step in. 798 00:35:00,125 --> 00:35:04,176 This process I actually call discipline and what is in discipline. 799 00:35:04,176 --> 00:35:07,236 You know, there's like the five D's of home security and nobody 800 00:35:07,236 --> 00:35:08,586 can ever remember what they are. 801 00:35:08,591 --> 00:35:09,875 So I came up with my own. 802 00:35:10,206 --> 00:35:13,895 So the first one is discipline, and it's really going to be the 803 00:35:13,986 --> 00:35:16,686 day-to-day stuff of locking your doors. 804 00:35:17,631 --> 00:35:22,472 Locking your windows, making sure that you know if a a cleaning service has been 805 00:35:22,472 --> 00:35:25,830 in your house or technicians have been in your house, making sure that the windows 806 00:35:25,830 --> 00:35:27,990 are closed and locked after they left. 807 00:35:27,990 --> 00:35:31,804 In my particular area, there was a case where there was a home cleaning 808 00:35:31,804 --> 00:35:35,974 service that was kind of a fly-by-night operation, and they were going around 809 00:35:35,974 --> 00:35:38,464 and cleaning up people's houses, but they would leave one window. 810 00:35:39,334 --> 00:35:42,004 Because then the rest of their crew would come in later when they knew 811 00:35:42,004 --> 00:35:43,114 that the homeowner wasn't there. 812 00:35:43,384 --> 00:35:46,354 They would open up that window, steal whatever they wanted to slip back 813 00:35:46,354 --> 00:35:47,944 out that window, and they were gone. 814 00:35:48,304 --> 00:35:52,188 The problem with this particular crew is they they did it like three 815 00:35:52,193 --> 00:35:55,668 times in one week, so the police found them like pretty quick. 816 00:35:55,668 --> 00:35:59,406 That was a pretty easy one to figure out, but if you have the discipline, 817 00:36:00,111 --> 00:36:03,512 To go around every night make sure that your doors and windows are locked. 818 00:36:03,512 --> 00:36:06,242 Make sure that the, you know, alarm system is set on. 819 00:36:06,572 --> 00:36:08,922 That's gonna be the thing that helps you. 820 00:36:08,971 --> 00:36:14,398 Byron Rods is an executive protection guru and he was on my show one time and he was 821 00:36:14,398 --> 00:36:18,478 like, man, you can have all the greatest defenses in the world, but if you don. 822 00:36:18,883 --> 00:36:21,043 You know, arm your alarm system. 823 00:36:21,253 --> 00:36:24,036 If you don't make sure that your weapons are ready to go. 824 00:36:24,036 --> 00:36:27,456 If you don't make sure your doors are locked, it doesn't matter because if 825 00:36:27,456 --> 00:36:33,096 you can't handle the discipline of what this is, then you are, you know, 826 00:36:33,110 --> 00:36:37,788 you're, Not gonna win because you have chosen not to take this seriously. 827 00:36:37,788 --> 00:36:39,048 So discipline is the first part. 828 00:36:39,618 --> 00:36:41,898 So the next part is deterrence. 829 00:36:42,198 --> 00:36:46,908 And this is something when it comes to home security that I don't think people 830 00:36:46,968 --> 00:36:53,103 understand and that is, You don't want somebody to break into your house. 831 00:36:53,343 --> 00:36:56,793 I there's all sorts of memes online about and there's like a standup comedian 832 00:36:56,793 --> 00:36:59,535 who's like, oh, I have this fantasy about somebody breaking into my house where 833 00:36:59,535 --> 00:37:01,292 I do all of these things and all that. 834 00:37:01,862 --> 00:37:02,702 It's not gonna happen. 835 00:37:02,707 --> 00:37:05,882 Kind of like we alluded to earlier, you're not gonna gain the skills of Chuck Norris. 836 00:37:06,092 --> 00:37:09,612 The best thing for you to do with your family is to win the. 837 00:37:10,112 --> 00:37:14,222 Before it ever starts, and that means you make your home a hard 838 00:37:14,222 --> 00:37:19,022 target so that it has never chosen for a break-in in the first place. 839 00:37:19,352 --> 00:37:24,422 You just subtly communicate to somebody who wants to break into your home. 840 00:37:24,422 --> 00:37:26,042 But hey, this is gonna be. 841 00:37:26,352 --> 00:37:27,432 A lot harder to do. 842 00:37:27,432 --> 00:37:29,262 The juice is not worth the squeeze here. 843 00:37:29,652 --> 00:37:33,733 Go check out the neighbor's house and that can be done by at night. 844 00:37:33,742 --> 00:37:36,952 A lot of people, they turn off all the lights inside and outside 845 00:37:36,957 --> 00:37:38,182 and it is completely dark. 846 00:37:38,392 --> 00:37:40,252 Well, darkness is a thief's best friend. 847 00:37:40,672 --> 00:37:43,822 So what you wanna do is take that darkness away because in that darkness 848 00:37:43,822 --> 00:37:47,002 they can move up close to your house, they can look in the windows, they can 849 00:37:47,002 --> 00:37:50,452 check and see if their front door's unlocked, all those sorts of things. 850 00:37:50,512 --> 00:37:52,732 So if you just simply add light to your. 851 00:37:54,087 --> 00:37:57,237 That's gonna make it a harder target simply because they know, Hey, wait 852 00:37:57,237 --> 00:37:58,347 a minute, if I get close enough. 853 00:37:59,097 --> 00:38:00,267 I'm gonna get spotted. 854 00:38:00,537 --> 00:38:03,567 One of the easiest ways to do that, and I don't necessarily recommend 855 00:38:03,567 --> 00:38:07,257 products because a lot of what I talk about is preparedness and mindset. 856 00:38:07,647 --> 00:38:10,737 But one of the easiest products that you can get right now that's gonna 857 00:38:10,742 --> 00:38:14,847 help make your home safer is something called a dawn to dust light bulb. 858 00:38:15,267 --> 00:38:18,387 And what that is, it's a light bulb with a little photo sensors 859 00:38:18,392 --> 00:38:22,227 in it, and it will know when the sun is up and when the sun is down. 860 00:38:22,407 --> 00:38:23,907 And when the sun is up, it stays off. 861 00:38:23,967 --> 00:38:25,467 When the sun goes down, it comes on. 862 00:38:25,737 --> 00:38:28,197 So you just put that in your porch light, just screw it on. 863 00:38:29,037 --> 00:38:33,417 Flip the switch and walk away, and when the, you know, sunset happens, 864 00:38:33,447 --> 00:38:36,567 it's gonna come on and it's gonna protect your front door, which 865 00:38:36,572 --> 00:38:38,307 is, by the way, the number one. 866 00:38:39,072 --> 00:38:41,420 That criminals get in your home is through the front door. 867 00:38:41,660 --> 00:38:45,050 You think it'd be something a little bit sneakier, but according to all of the 868 00:38:45,050 --> 00:38:48,650 stats over the last few years, people like to come in through the front door. 869 00:38:48,650 --> 00:38:52,700 So put that light up there at church. 870 00:38:52,700 --> 00:38:54,090 You flip, you switch, walk away. 871 00:38:54,095 --> 00:38:56,940 You think you about it again, but it's gonna add that light to your 872 00:38:56,940 --> 00:38:58,860 front door and someone's gonna look at it and say, you know what? 873 00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:00,570 I don't have a clear path here. 874 00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:03,480 And if I try to kick the store in, you know, people are gonna 875 00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:05,280 see me from three to four houses. 876 00:39:06,180 --> 00:39:07,410 I'm just not gonna do that. 877 00:39:07,410 --> 00:39:09,900 I'm gonna go to the house that looks darker. 878 00:39:10,470 --> 00:39:13,740 So that's just a subtle way that you can communicate and that's gonna be 879 00:39:13,740 --> 00:39:17,160 a subtle way that you know, really deter anything from happening. 880 00:39:17,490 --> 00:39:21,570 And you may not ever realize how your deterrents work because. 881 00:39:22,380 --> 00:39:23,580 Nothing ever happens. 882 00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:25,950 It's kind of like, well, I've done all this stuff to my house 883 00:39:25,950 --> 00:39:27,180 and nobody's tried to break in. 884 00:39:27,720 --> 00:39:28,380 Great. 885 00:39:28,620 --> 00:39:30,210 Like, that's the point. 886 00:39:30,570 --> 00:39:31,950 You don't want that to happen. 887 00:39:31,955 --> 00:39:35,010 You don't want somebody to break into your home and you have 888 00:39:35,010 --> 00:39:36,210 to physically defend yourself. 889 00:39:36,210 --> 00:39:41,100 So let's do everything that we can to make sure that doesn't happen. 890 00:39:41,490 --> 00:39:44,170 And so, the next one is fortify. 891 00:39:44,590 --> 00:39:46,300 And this is when you wanna make it. 892 00:39:46,300 --> 00:39:47,200 If somebody does. 893 00:39:48,370 --> 00:39:50,650 Emboldened enough to come and try to break in your door, that 894 00:39:50,650 --> 00:39:54,880 it's gonna take the longest time that it can for that to happen. 895 00:39:55,030 --> 00:39:56,320 It's gonna make a lot of noise. 896 00:39:56,325 --> 00:39:59,740 You're gonna be aware that something is going on and the alarm is gonna go off. 897 00:40:00,130 --> 00:40:03,500 So, one of the things that you can do there, you know, you're a dad. 898 00:40:03,500 --> 00:40:07,430 I'm a dad, so when you look at, excuse me. 899 00:40:07,550 --> 00:40:13,940 So when you look at fortifying your home, you can't fortify it to the point that 900 00:40:13,940 --> 00:40:16,830 you can't get out in the event of a. 901 00:40:17,615 --> 00:40:20,525 A lot of people are like, oh, let's, you know, bar the door, let's do all 902 00:40:20,525 --> 00:40:22,365 these things and put 97 locks on it. 903 00:40:23,255 --> 00:40:25,655 I understand where you're coming from there, but you need to make 904 00:40:25,655 --> 00:40:29,585 smart choices because you need to get, be able to get out in the event 905 00:40:29,585 --> 00:40:31,175 of a fire, something like that. 906 00:40:31,445 --> 00:40:36,005 Or you may need a first responder to come break down your door because your house 907 00:40:36,005 --> 00:40:41,165 is on fire or because you've had some sort of medical emergency and EMS has 908 00:40:41,165 --> 00:40:42,785 gotta get into you, that sort of thing. 909 00:40:42,865 --> 00:40:46,920 So, Depending on the age of your kids, depending on where you 910 00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:48,060 live, those sorts of things. 911 00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:52,950 Make smart decisions about how you need to fortify your door, all that sort of stuff. 912 00:40:53,087 --> 00:40:56,657 And that can be covered there in the book and a few other resources that I have. 913 00:40:57,047 --> 00:40:59,030 So, the, that's just kind of where you start. 914 00:40:59,030 --> 00:41:00,860 Th there's a whole plan to it. 915 00:41:00,860 --> 00:41:04,580 It's not, again, when somebody starts kicking in the door, that's not, when you 916 00:41:04,580 --> 00:41:06,920 think of what to do, that's when you act. 917 00:41:07,970 --> 00:41:08,060 Ok. 918 00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:09,620 And. 919 00:41:10,900 --> 00:41:11,920 The book is an easy read. 920 00:41:12,190 --> 00:41:15,640 Like he, he didn't long and drawn out, he didn't throw in a bunch 921 00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:17,314 of information that was useless. 922 00:41:17,314 --> 00:41:22,356 I sat down and read it in, in one session, and yes, all of it is very valid. 923 00:41:22,746 --> 00:41:24,276 It's very easy to understand. 924 00:41:24,846 --> 00:41:29,496 It's just a step-by-step structure that is completely 925 00:41:30,276 --> 00:41:31,536 understandable and translatable. 926 00:41:31,536 --> 00:41:33,066 That's so, that's important. 927 00:41:33,066 --> 00:41:38,151 I read a lot of books and so the fact that it is, This is what I need to know. 928 00:41:38,261 --> 00:41:38,661 You. 929 00:41:38,661 --> 00:41:41,181 You didn't try and get fancy. 930 00:41:41,186 --> 00:41:42,561 You didn't add a bunch of fluff. 931 00:41:43,371 --> 00:41:44,601 This is what I need to know. 932 00:41:44,961 --> 00:41:45,831 This is what I need to 933 00:41:46,041 --> 00:41:46,491 consider. 934 00:41:46,941 --> 00:41:49,131 It does me a lot of good hearing you say that because 935 00:41:49,131 --> 00:41:50,541 that is exactly what I wanted. 936 00:41:50,541 --> 00:41:54,801 Because you are a busy dad and I wanted you to be able to sit down and read 937 00:41:54,806 --> 00:41:58,761 that book quickly, get everything that you needed to do to empower you to make 938 00:41:58,761 --> 00:42:00,591 good, safe decisions for your family. 939 00:42:00,891 --> 00:42:01,971 So that is awesome. 940 00:42:01,971 --> 00:42:03,501 That is, that is exactly what it's. 941 00:42:04,446 --> 00:42:06,666 Guys, of course that will be in the library. 942 00:42:06,666 --> 00:42:07,266 On the website. 943 00:42:07,266 --> 00:42:10,206 We'll also have links in the show notes and in the description of everything. 944 00:42:10,476 --> 00:42:11,556 So you can get that book. 945 00:42:12,696 --> 00:42:19,446 Now, there's a lot that's gonna go on in these kind of circumstances, right? 946 00:42:19,516 --> 00:42:20,771 In a worse scenario. 947 00:42:20,871 --> 00:42:21,291 Yes. 948 00:42:21,296 --> 00:42:24,791 One of the things you talked about is needing to exercise a family 949 00:42:24,819 --> 00:42:26,377 protection plan and plan it. 950 00:42:26,397 --> 00:42:26,487 Mm-hmm. 951 00:42:26,817 --> 00:42:29,637 , it's not something I had ever considered before, like, You know, 952 00:42:29,637 --> 00:42:30,897 we all think about fire drills. 953 00:42:30,897 --> 00:42:33,267 Well, what happens if the house catches on fire, right? 954 00:42:33,507 --> 00:42:33,597 Mm-hmm. 955 00:42:33,842 --> 00:42:34,647 , we teach our children that. 956 00:42:35,397 --> 00:42:37,017 It's never once occurred to me. 957 00:42:37,017 --> 00:42:38,847 It's like I do. 958 00:42:38,847 --> 00:42:41,968 I teach my children what happens if they hear really loud sounds in the night? 959 00:42:43,097 --> 00:42:43,377 . Mm-hmm. 960 00:42:43,947 --> 00:42:44,187 . Yeah. 961 00:42:44,253 --> 00:42:47,448 Depending on what your kids are mature enough to understand then yeah, you 962 00:42:47,448 --> 00:42:50,958 need to let them know a little along as to what you want them to do. 963 00:42:51,738 --> 00:42:56,298 Also know that in a panic of something like this, your kids may 964 00:42:56,298 --> 00:42:58,008 not respond like they're supposed to. 965 00:42:58,428 --> 00:43:01,188 So you still, as the parent, are still probably gonna have to go 966 00:43:01,188 --> 00:43:03,765 get them put your hands on them, make sure that they're moving away 967 00:43:03,765 --> 00:43:04,845 from danger, that sort of thing. 968 00:43:04,845 --> 00:43:05,455 You can't. 969 00:43:05,865 --> 00:43:10,545 You can't count on young, inexperienced minds to make the best decision in 970 00:43:10,545 --> 00:43:12,585 such a dynamic, stressful situation. 971 00:43:12,975 --> 00:43:16,365 So yeah, like talk to them about, okay, if at night. 972 00:43:17,495 --> 00:43:21,015 Somebody tries to get in through the front door, we meet here, or mommy and 973 00:43:21,015 --> 00:43:24,585 daddy is gonna come and get you, and we're gonna go back to this safe room, 974 00:43:24,585 --> 00:43:26,805 or we are going to flee the house. 975 00:43:26,805 --> 00:43:29,805 We're gonna call this person responsible for calling 9 1 1. 976 00:43:29,811 --> 00:43:33,480 If you have an older person in the home, maybe you actually barricade yourself. 977 00:43:33,510 --> 00:43:35,730 One person barricades themselves with that older person to 978 00:43:35,730 --> 00:43:37,020 protect them, that sort of thing. 979 00:43:37,495 --> 00:43:41,485 Those are all things that are unique to your family that you do need to talk 980 00:43:41,485 --> 00:43:45,205 about, that you do need to have sure you know, a full understanding of what's 981 00:43:45,205 --> 00:43:47,425 going on and actually walk through it. 982 00:43:47,785 --> 00:43:48,985 Don't make it scary. 983 00:43:49,225 --> 00:43:52,675 Kind of make it a game, especially if you have younger kids, you know, oh, 984 00:43:52,675 --> 00:43:54,475 hey, there's a problem at the front door. 985 00:43:54,475 --> 00:43:55,015 What do we do? 986 00:43:55,045 --> 00:43:58,165 Okay, we're all gonna get up and we're gonna go to the back door and we're 987 00:43:58,165 --> 00:43:59,455 gonna go out through the backyard. 988 00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:02,730 And we're gonna go to this neighbor for help, that sort of thing. 989 00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:07,557 And you don't want to, schools are getting into a lot of trouble right now because 990 00:44:07,562 --> 00:44:12,340 a lot of the active shooter training has been too realistic for some kids. 991 00:44:12,409 --> 00:44:16,219 So there's that fine line, and you being the parent of your children, 992 00:44:16,609 --> 00:44:17,719 you know what they can handle. 993 00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:21,199 You know what they're ready for, you know how to speak to them, which is one of the 994 00:44:21,199 --> 00:44:22,609 things that I like about the secure Dad. 995 00:44:22,819 --> 00:44:26,779 I provide the parents information, and then the parents become smarter, and then 996 00:44:26,784 --> 00:44:28,609 they make the choices for their kids. 997 00:44:28,609 --> 00:44:29,959 I don't tell your kids what to do. 998 00:44:30,379 --> 00:44:31,159 You love them. 999 00:44:31,164 --> 00:44:31,939 You know them. 1000 00:44:32,269 --> 00:44:35,029 You educate them in the way that they are ready for. 1001 00:44:36,229 --> 00:44:38,659 I love what you said earlier about you fall. 1002 00:44:39,759 --> 00:44:42,879 Most of us have heard the concept of you fall back to your training. 1003 00:44:43,569 --> 00:44:43,659 Mm-hmm. 1004 00:44:44,169 --> 00:44:45,429 , I liked how you phrased it better. 1005 00:44:45,879 --> 00:44:50,019 You fall back to the lowest point of your training. 1006 00:44:50,379 --> 00:44:50,989 Mm-hmm. 1007 00:44:51,399 --> 00:44:52,689 , you don't necessarily fall back to your best guys. 1008 00:44:53,379 --> 00:44:53,739 Right. 1009 00:44:53,756 --> 00:44:57,813 Always strive to continue to grow, to learn, to improve cuz 1010 00:44:57,813 --> 00:44:59,553 you will go back to the base. 1011 00:45:01,893 --> 00:45:07,083 In the highest trust situation now, Andy, what are the first three steps our 1012 00:45:07,083 --> 00:45:09,603 listeners should take away right now? 1013 00:45:09,933 --> 00:45:13,443 Say they, they listen to this podcast, what are the first three 1014 00:45:13,443 --> 00:45:15,333 steps they can take to start? 1015 00:45:15,333 --> 00:45:15,663 Sure. 1016 00:45:15,733 --> 00:45:16,543 More securely. 1017 00:45:17,718 --> 00:45:20,418 Yeah, first, take responsibility for your own personal safety. 1018 00:45:20,688 --> 00:45:23,328 Do not outsource that to anybody else. 1019 00:45:23,328 --> 00:45:25,248 You don't outsource that to a good Samaritan. 1020 00:45:25,548 --> 00:45:27,588 You don't outsource that to the police. 1021 00:45:27,588 --> 00:45:30,738 I'm not talking bad about first responders, first responders. 1022 00:45:31,248 --> 00:45:32,568 In the word they respond. 1023 00:45:32,598 --> 00:45:34,878 They're not necessarily always proactive. 1024 00:45:35,358 --> 00:45:37,938 They'll call, they'll come when 9 1 1 is called, but you 1025 00:45:37,938 --> 00:45:39,258 gotta survive to that point. 1026 00:45:39,648 --> 00:45:41,358 Then you gotta survive beyond that. 1027 00:45:41,768 --> 00:45:42,588 So it's up. 1028 00:45:42,588 --> 00:45:43,358 It's up to you. 1029 00:45:43,468 --> 00:45:46,156 Take care of yourself and you police officer. 1030 00:45:46,156 --> 00:45:50,056 Let yourself tell you that you've got to do something first for 1031 00:45:50,056 --> 00:45:51,107 somebody else to get to you. 1032 00:45:51,107 --> 00:45:54,586 So number one, you need to take responsibility for your safety. 1033 00:45:55,066 --> 00:45:57,646 If you are married, if you are a. 1034 00:45:58,696 --> 00:46:02,086 You need to take responsibility for the people who live in your house. 1035 00:46:02,356 --> 00:46:04,576 That's gonna be your wife, that's gonna be your kids. 1036 00:46:04,936 --> 00:46:09,466 You have to take this and put it to the, through the perspective 1037 00:46:10,126 --> 00:46:12,196 of everybody who's in your family. 1038 00:46:12,526 --> 00:46:14,296 What are they doing that's good? 1039 00:46:14,296 --> 00:46:16,246 What are they doing that's kind of questionable? 1040 00:46:16,576 --> 00:46:20,386 How can you empower them to make safer decisions for themselves? 1041 00:46:20,806 --> 00:46:25,155 How can you be that good example for what to do? 1042 00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:31,600 And then I think number three is really for kids. 1043 00:46:32,475 --> 00:46:36,645 Right now is to set the expectations of how they need to behave online. 1044 00:46:37,065 --> 00:46:41,505 More and more of their world is shifting online, and like I said 1045 00:46:41,535 --> 00:46:46,155 earlier, a lot of physical face-to-face, you know, abductions start online. 1046 00:46:46,605 --> 00:46:50,835 You really need to sit down and have a conversation with them and say, this is 1047 00:46:50,865 --> 00:46:52,665 how you're expected to behave online. 1048 00:46:52,905 --> 00:46:54,765 This is what you can and can't say. 1049 00:46:55,215 --> 00:46:58,035 You know, like you said, with Facebook, these people aren't really your 1050 00:46:58,035 --> 00:47:01,215 friends, and if you can just really clamp that down, because that's 1051 00:47:01,215 --> 00:47:03,585 where most of our kids want to be. 1052 00:47:03,585 --> 00:47:06,015 They want to be playing games, or they wanna be texting on 1053 00:47:06,015 --> 00:47:07,275 their phone and things like that. 1054 00:47:07,695 --> 00:47:12,255 A lot of our kids' worlds right now is online, so if you can do those three 1055 00:47:12,255 --> 00:47:17,605 steps, you're going to be moving in the absolute right direction, and you're 1056 00:47:17,605 --> 00:47:20,865 going to be a whole lot better off than most of the people around you. 1057 00:47:22,305 --> 00:47:23,405 What's next for Andy? 1058 00:47:23,405 --> 00:47:24,876 What is next for Andy Murphy? 1059 00:47:24,876 --> 00:47:29,420 I am working on a new book that's going to be all about safety conversations 1060 00:47:29,420 --> 00:47:31,670 that we need to have with our kids. 1061 00:47:31,670 --> 00:47:35,660 I will show you what those conversations are, the main points that you need 1062 00:47:35,660 --> 00:47:39,890 to hit, how to even start those conversations, cuz a lot of people are 1063 00:47:39,890 --> 00:47:43,310 like, oh, I want to talk to my kid, you know, about like online grooming 1064 00:47:43,310 --> 00:47:45,470 and kind of what that looks like, but I just don't know how to do it. 1065 00:47:45,860 --> 00:47:47,930 I will show you how to do that in this new upcoming. 1066 00:47:47,978 --> 00:47:48,218 That's 1067 00:47:48,218 --> 00:47:48,578 awesome. 1068 00:47:48,608 --> 00:47:51,818 That's gonna be a really important book, guys, is that as a conversation 1069 00:47:51,818 --> 00:47:53,258 you seriously need to be having. 1070 00:47:54,098 --> 00:47:55,748 Where is the best place for people to 1071 00:47:55,748 --> 00:47:55,928 find. 1072 00:47:56,888 --> 00:48:01,418 Sure you can find everything about me@thesecuredad.com. 1073 00:48:01,688 --> 00:48:05,801 You can also check me out on Instagram with the username, the secure dad. 1074 00:48:05,850 --> 00:48:07,950 It's also the same on Twitter, by the way. 1075 00:48:07,950 --> 00:48:10,170 I do have a free reference for you. 1076 00:48:10,226 --> 00:48:13,144 If you go to the link in the show notes, you'll be able to see this. 1077 00:48:13,144 --> 00:48:14,134 This is like a. 1078 00:48:14,414 --> 00:48:18,824 Quick start, guide to home security that I want everybody to have, and it's yours 1079 00:48:18,824 --> 00:48:20,534 for free because I want you to have it. 1080 00:48:20,534 --> 00:48:24,944 I want you to not only feel safer when you go to bed at night, I want 1081 00:48:24,944 --> 00:48:26,894 you to know that you are safer. 1082 00:48:28,454 --> 00:48:30,254 Oh, bummer on me. 1083 00:48:30,259 --> 00:48:32,954 I thought I had that already pre-planned when I was recording the show. 1084 00:48:33,014 --> 00:48:33,734 I thought I had that link. 1085 00:48:34,034 --> 00:48:35,744 Guys, it will be on the screen. 1086 00:48:35,749 --> 00:48:38,864 If you're watching this on YouTube, it will be in the show notes and in 1087 00:48:38,864 --> 00:48:41,714 the description, whatever platform you're enjoying the show on. 1088 00:48:42,344 --> 00:48:43,634 Now, going back to. 1089 00:48:44,599 --> 00:48:45,409 Silly question. 1090 00:48:45,799 --> 00:48:47,599 The average person in the US opens, what? 1091 00:48:48,099 --> 00:48:48,769 13 times per day. 1092 00:48:49,159 --> 00:48:52,579 Is it a front door, a can of soda, a refrigerator, or a window? 1093 00:48:52,819 --> 00:48:54,439 And you guessed refrigerator. 1094 00:48:55,279 --> 00:48:55,459 I did. 1095 00:48:55,699 --> 00:48:57,709 The truck is 1096 00:48:58,219 --> 00:48:58,849 refrigerator. 1097 00:48:58,849 --> 00:48:59,419 You're right. 1098 00:49:01,039 --> 00:49:03,379 opens their refrigerator 13 times a day. 1099 00:49:03,649 --> 00:49:06,199 If you're a father, you know your children do it a lot more than that. 1100 00:49:06,939 --> 00:49:09,199 Yes, guys. 1101 00:49:10,189 --> 00:49:11,869 Andy has laid a lot at our. 1102 00:49:11,949 --> 00:49:13,029 It's our responsibility. 1103 00:49:13,089 --> 00:49:15,159 We know we're supposed to be the protectives of our family, 1104 00:49:15,789 --> 00:49:17,829 but there is so much to take in. 1105 00:49:18,099 --> 00:49:24,399 Andy is offering you solid tools to help make your life easier as a father when 1106 00:49:24,404 --> 00:49:26,079 it comes to taking care of your family. 1107 00:49:26,499 --> 00:49:29,859 Andy, what is the big takeaway you want everyone to hear today? 1108 00:49:31,209 --> 00:49:35,289 The big takeaway is that your safety really is your responsibility. 1109 00:49:35,289 --> 00:49:36,579 It is up to you. 1110 00:49:36,939 --> 00:49:38,889 You don't need to be intimidated by that. 1111 00:49:38,949 --> 00:49:40,929 You absolutely can do this. 1112 00:49:41,259 --> 00:49:43,659 I don't care what your physical or mental shape is. 1113 00:49:43,989 --> 00:49:48,009 You have the ability to take care of yourself and your loved ones. 1114 00:49:48,369 --> 00:49:50,409 Don't shrink away from that responsibility. 1115 00:49:50,409 --> 00:49:51,819 You can absolutely do this. 1116 00:49:52,869 --> 00:49:53,169 Thanks for 1117 00:49:53,169 --> 00:49:54,129 hanging out with us today. 1118 00:49:54,229 --> 00:49:55,269 Thank you, Andy, for being on the. 1119 00:49:56,394 --> 00:49:58,194 Be better tomorrow because of what you do today. 1120 00:49:58,284 --> 00:49:59,214 We'll see you on the next one. 1121 00:50:00,174 --> 00:50:00,624 This has 1122 00:50:00,624 --> 00:50:02,664 been the Fallible Man Podcast. 1123 00:50:03,264 --> 00:50:06,654 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 1124 00:50:07,434 --> 00:50:09,774 Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a show. 1125 00:50:10,584 --> 00:50:17,814 Head over to www.thefallibleman.com for more content and get your own Fallible 1126 00:50:17,814 --> 00:50:18,444 man gear.