How to Improve YOUR Relationships with EASE using these 7 Communication Techniques.

1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:02,520 are you tired of constantly hitting roadblocks in your relationship? 2 00:00:02,760 --> 00:00:05,220 Do you wish you could communicate with ease and truly connect 3 00:00:05,220 --> 00:00:06,150 with the people in your life? 4 00:00:06,570 --> 00:00:09,210 Well, ready to say goodbye to those communication struggles and 5 00:00:09,450 --> 00:00:11,730 hello to Harmonious Relationships. 6 00:00:11,730 --> 00:00:12,210 Guys. 7 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:16,440 In this exciting new show, we'll reveal the top seven communication 8 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,200 techniques that will revolutionize the way you interact with others. 9 00:00:19,650 --> 00:00:22,350 So grab a pen and paper, get ready to take your notes. 10 00:00:22,470 --> 00:00:25,440 Your relationships are about to get a serious upgrade. 11 00:00:31,445 --> 00:00:32,915 Here's the million dollar question. 12 00:00:33,335 --> 00:00:35,644 How do men like us reach our full potential? 13 00:00:36,155 --> 00:00:40,144 Growing to the men we dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, 14 00:00:40,504 --> 00:00:44,915 working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? 15 00:00:45,875 --> 00:00:49,715 Well, that's the big question In this podcast, we'll help you 16 00:00:49,715 --> 00:00:51,125 answer those questions and more. 17 00:00:51,275 --> 00:00:54,125 My name is Brent and welcome to the Album Man podcast. 18 00:00:58,724 --> 00:01:00,194 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 19 00:01:00,194 --> 00:01:02,084 You're home for all things, man, husband, and father. 20 00:01:02,294 --> 00:01:02,535 Big. 21 00:01:02,535 --> 00:01:03,644 Shout out to the fallible nation. 22 00:01:03,675 --> 00:01:06,045 You guys make things like this possible and a warm welcome 23 00:01:06,045 --> 00:01:07,155 to our first time listeners. 24 00:01:07,455 --> 00:01:08,774 Welcome to Fallible Nation. 25 00:01:09,164 --> 00:01:09,914 My name is Bre. 26 00:01:10,125 --> 00:01:11,445 I am the fallible man. 27 00:01:11,955 --> 00:01:15,104 Effective communication is key to building and strengthening relationships 28 00:01:15,104 --> 00:01:16,634 with important people in your life. 29 00:01:17,150 --> 00:01:21,650 Communication is just a critical skill that all of us could use some help on. 30 00:01:21,650 --> 00:01:24,560 I know I'm not perfect at it, and I'm guessing that you could use some help too. 31 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:25,490 That's why you're here. 32 00:01:25,790 --> 00:01:29,720 So here are seven techniques you can use to improve your communication 33 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:34,430 skills and just make your life a whole lot better when it comes to that. 34 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:37,730 Number one, guys is active listening. 35 00:01:38,780 --> 00:01:40,400 Active listening is. 36 00:01:40,950 --> 00:01:44,429 This, this used to, I, I used to make fun of this, honestly, but you 37 00:01:44,429 --> 00:01:48,030 know, pay close attention to what the other person is saying and show that 38 00:01:48,030 --> 00:01:52,230 you understand by reflecting what they said back in your own words. 39 00:01:52,620 --> 00:01:55,950 Now, this may be the only communication technique we were ever taught 40 00:01:55,950 --> 00:01:58,740 in school, and maybe your school didn't teach us, but this is the 41 00:01:58,740 --> 00:02:00,180 one they actually clued us in on. 42 00:02:01,020 --> 00:02:05,160 And it has to do not just with reflecting back what they said, right? 43 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:06,990 They remember, they tell, tell. 44 00:02:08,870 --> 00:02:13,500 Rephrase it back in your own words when they break, so they understand that you 45 00:02:13,500 --> 00:02:16,260 are listening and can confirm that you're understanding the right thing, right? 46 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:20,040 But it's not just about saying it back. 47 00:02:20,459 --> 00:02:21,959 It's about body language. 48 00:02:21,990 --> 00:02:23,549 It's about eye contact. 49 00:02:23,555 --> 00:02:27,000 It's about being open physically, right? 50 00:02:27,209 --> 00:02:30,630 If you're sitting back with your arms crossed and your legs 51 00:02:30,630 --> 00:02:33,540 crossed, You are less open. 52 00:02:33,570 --> 00:02:35,850 There's actually a physical communication skill. 53 00:02:35,850 --> 00:02:40,290 In fact, I was getting ready for a different show and the estimate was 54 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,920 57% of your communication is nonverbal. 55 00:02:44,220 --> 00:02:46,019 So that's part of active listening. 56 00:02:46,019 --> 00:02:49,680 So open up, make sure you have a good posture, that you're open to 57 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:51,870 speaking within, that you're looking at them, that they're making eye 58 00:02:51,870 --> 00:02:54,150 contact and that you're listening. 59 00:02:54,269 --> 00:02:58,200 Not planning your responses, but making sure that you 60 00:02:58,200 --> 00:02:59,340 understand what they're saying. 61 00:02:59,609 --> 00:03:00,930 That's active listening. 62 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:02,430 Right. 63 00:03:02,430 --> 00:03:05,490 Pretty straightforward and, and I think you guys can nail that one with ease. 64 00:03:05,550 --> 00:03:07,500 I know that's one of my stronger suits. 65 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:10,920 Not perfect, but it, it is one of the better out of this list for me, for sure. 66 00:03:11,580 --> 00:03:13,140 Number two is to be present. 67 00:03:13,950 --> 00:03:18,360 Now, we talk about presence in a lot of context on this show, whether 68 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:21,480 that's being with your kids or being with your spouse or a loved one, 69 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:22,890 or a friend or whatever, right? 70 00:03:22,890 --> 00:03:23,370 Putting down the. 71 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:28,590 Give your full attention to the person you're communicating with and 72 00:03:28,590 --> 00:03:35,520 avoid distractions like your phone, emails, uh, text messages, right? 73 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:37,410 I've got an Apple watch I didn't use to have that. 74 00:03:37,415 --> 00:03:40,950 My friend gave me an Apple watch as a gift, and it's amazing, 75 00:03:40,950 --> 00:03:44,130 but I get notifications all the time now, and I don't even have 76 00:03:44,130 --> 00:03:45,030 to have my phone on me now. 77 00:03:45,030 --> 00:03:47,850 It just comes straight to my wrist and it's really hard 78 00:03:47,850 --> 00:03:50,100 not to look down at my watch. 79 00:03:50,579 --> 00:03:52,230 So avoid these distrac. 80 00:03:52,775 --> 00:03:55,445 Be present in the moment when you're communicating with a person. 81 00:03:55,445 --> 00:04:00,605 I promise it makes an amazing, I was looking for astounding, but just an 82 00:04:00,605 --> 00:04:03,965 amazing level of difference in your communication with another person. 83 00:04:05,075 --> 00:04:08,584 Now, before we go any further, I wanted to share with you guys, I don't always 84 00:04:08,590 --> 00:04:15,365 tell you how much I love doing my podcast, like I passionately love what I'm doing 85 00:04:15,875 --> 00:04:19,714 and one of the things that makes my life better as a podcaster is to work 86 00:04:19,714 --> 00:04:21,365 with a company like Grow Your Show. 87 00:04:21,825 --> 00:04:24,105 Grow Your show is a one-stop podcast. 88 00:04:24,105 --> 00:04:24,675 Do it all. 89 00:04:24,945 --> 00:04:28,035 Now I use Grow Your Show for my marketing, but Grow Your Show 90 00:04:28,035 --> 00:04:29,385 is literally a one-stop shop. 91 00:04:29,385 --> 00:04:31,695 You can record your episode and just drop it off with them 92 00:04:31,700 --> 00:04:32,625 and they take it from there. 93 00:04:32,655 --> 00:04:33,585 It's amazing. 94 00:04:34,215 --> 00:04:37,905 If you are interested in picking up podcasting, it's a hobby or maybe 95 00:04:37,905 --> 00:04:40,995 you're looking to expand your business and use podcasting, that aspect. 96 00:04:41,489 --> 00:04:43,349 Talk to my friends over Grow your show. 97 00:04:43,349 --> 00:04:44,400 Adam will take care of you. 98 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:45,330 I guarantee it. 99 00:04:45,719 --> 00:04:46,349 I trust him. 100 00:04:46,349 --> 00:04:50,940 He's my friend, he's my business colleague, and I wouldn't trust 101 00:04:50,940 --> 00:04:52,109 anybody else with my show. 102 00:04:52,799 --> 00:04:57,210 Number three, use I statements I didn't use to understand this. 103 00:04:57,210 --> 00:04:58,799 It's, it's taken, I'm a little thick. 104 00:04:59,450 --> 00:05:03,989 But when expressing your feelings or needs use, I state. 105 00:05:04,725 --> 00:05:10,335 Instead of blaming or accusing the other people, for example, say, I 106 00:05:10,335 --> 00:05:13,185 feel hurt when you do X, Y, or Z. 107 00:05:13,485 --> 00:05:17,115 Instead of you always do X or, and it's not fair. 108 00:05:17,115 --> 00:05:18,255 You always do that. 109 00:05:18,255 --> 00:05:22,575 Or why do you always, that's not the right answer when you're communicating 110 00:05:22,575 --> 00:05:30,165 with somebody, effectively use I statements like, I feel hurt, right? 111 00:05:30,945 --> 00:05:32,415 I feel like you're not listening to me. 112 00:05:33,255 --> 00:05:34,544 My feelings get hurt. 113 00:05:34,544 --> 00:05:39,104 It's still technically an I statement, but it's, I statements are about 114 00:05:39,104 --> 00:05:44,385 how you translate an action and it impacts you not blaming somebody else. 115 00:05:45,525 --> 00:05:47,294 And that's a huge jump forward. 116 00:05:47,835 --> 00:05:50,055 Number four is ask open-ended questions. 117 00:05:50,294 --> 00:05:53,655 Now, this is a talent as somebody who's done a lot of 118 00:05:53,655 --> 00:05:55,094 interviews and stuff over the. 119 00:05:56,520 --> 00:06:00,480 This is actually a major talent to develop and this will help you not just 120 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:04,800 in your communication, but this will help you in all kinds of areas of your life. 121 00:06:05,730 --> 00:06:09,780 Use questions that encourage conversation and show interest in 122 00:06:09,780 --> 00:06:11,070 the other person's perspective. 123 00:06:11,670 --> 00:06:14,220 Don't ask OP just close statements. 124 00:06:14,670 --> 00:06:15,540 Do you like this? 125 00:06:15,900 --> 00:06:16,440 Yes. 126 00:06:17,610 --> 00:06:21,630 Parents need to master this with their kids because this is what gets us 127 00:06:21,635 --> 00:06:24,200 when we talk to our kids about school or other things going on in their. 128 00:06:25,740 --> 00:06:27,180 Open-ended questions. 129 00:06:27,570 --> 00:06:30,480 Don't ask a question that they can just say, yes, no, or eh. 130 00:06:30,599 --> 00:06:34,500 To avoid questions that be answered with a simple yes or no. 131 00:06:35,780 --> 00:06:38,610 Que ask questions that will actually elicit some kind of 132 00:06:38,615 --> 00:06:42,659 response other than, yeah, whatever. 133 00:06:43,980 --> 00:06:45,000 Number five, guys. 134 00:06:45,730 --> 00:06:46,469 Practice empathy. 135 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:51,659 Now, for some people, empathy is more difficult than others. 136 00:06:51,659 --> 00:06:53,250 This is not one of my strongest suit. 137 00:06:54,495 --> 00:06:57,795 Practicing empathy will improve your communication with whoever 138 00:06:57,795 --> 00:07:00,285 you're talking to in a massive way. 139 00:07:00,945 --> 00:07:05,055 Try to understand the other person's perspective and show that you not only 140 00:07:05,055 --> 00:07:08,835 understand their perspective, but you care about their feelings and their needs. 141 00:07:09,315 --> 00:07:11,805 This was never one of my really great strong suits, especially 142 00:07:11,810 --> 00:07:13,034 in the professional world. 143 00:07:13,919 --> 00:07:16,919 and I struggled frequently with some of my coworkers because we are very 144 00:07:16,919 --> 00:07:20,310 different people and I wasn't good at understanding the feelings and 145 00:07:20,310 --> 00:07:24,510 emotions that they processed with things versus the way I saw it. 146 00:07:24,515 --> 00:07:26,640 It's just very cold ones and zeros. 147 00:07:27,330 --> 00:07:31,200 So practicing empathy actually helped improve my relationships massively 148 00:07:31,205 --> 00:07:34,950 in the professional world when I worked in the corporate environment. 149 00:07:34,950 --> 00:07:37,380 So practice empathy, guys, give it a chance. 150 00:07:37,380 --> 00:07:37,979 It's crazy. 151 00:07:37,979 --> 00:07:41,820 I know little things, but man, they matter. 152 00:07:42,630 --> 00:07:43,950 Avoid interrupting. 153 00:07:46,950 --> 00:07:49,140 You know, I feel like I shouldn't have to say this because I say this 154 00:07:49,140 --> 00:07:53,520 to my children, , my daughters are eight and 11, and so I feel like I 155 00:07:53,525 --> 00:07:57,570 shouldn't have to share this with an adult, but let the other person finish 156 00:07:57,570 --> 00:07:59,640 what they're saying before responding. 157 00:08:00,330 --> 00:08:02,820 Interrupting can be seen as disrespectful. 158 00:08:03,630 --> 00:08:06,360 Let's face it, it is just seen as disrespectful and it can 159 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:07,770 hinder effective communication. 160 00:08:07,770 --> 00:08:09,240 Now, I will not say I'm perfect to. 161 00:08:10,695 --> 00:08:14,145 I have a friend of mine who will be glad to tell you that I am not perfect at this. 162 00:08:14,685 --> 00:08:16,424 So it is something I'm working on as well. 163 00:08:16,424 --> 00:08:20,534 I know that's a fault in my life, but I don't feel like as adults, we should have 164 00:08:20,539 --> 00:08:24,435 to be told this, but we constantly do it to one another and, and it's just rude. 165 00:08:24,765 --> 00:08:26,505 It, it doesn't, it doesn't help guys. 166 00:08:26,510 --> 00:08:30,284 So avoid interrupting number seven. 167 00:08:31,005 --> 00:08:34,184 Take responsibility now, if you've been on the channel before, you 168 00:08:34,184 --> 00:08:39,615 know, I'm a huge advocate of personal responsibility, uh, extreme ownership 169 00:08:39,855 --> 00:08:42,015 like Jocko Willie termed it in his book. 170 00:08:42,405 --> 00:08:46,245 Whatever you wanna say, take responsibility if you made a mistake. 171 00:08:46,455 --> 00:08:50,895 If you hurt somebody, take responsibility for your actions and apologize. 172 00:08:50,985 --> 00:08:51,795 Sincerely. 173 00:08:52,035 --> 00:08:53,055 Don't blame shift. 174 00:08:53,055 --> 00:08:56,385 Don't try and, oh, I didn't mean don't, don't try and explain it away. 175 00:08:56,385 --> 00:08:57,675 Don't try and make an excuse. 176 00:08:57,675 --> 00:08:58,725 Everybody's got an excuse. 177 00:08:58,725 --> 00:08:59,365 They suck. 178 00:09:00,180 --> 00:09:03,420 Just apologize on what you did and move forward. 179 00:09:03,750 --> 00:09:04,740 I promise. 180 00:09:05,069 --> 00:09:06,240 I promise. 181 00:09:06,870 --> 00:09:11,219 By practicing these tips and techniques, you can improve your communication 182 00:09:11,219 --> 00:09:15,240 skill and build stronger, healthier relationships with the important 183 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:19,500 people in your life, and it will make your life a lot better and theirs. 184 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:21,480 Now guys, it's Friday. 185 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:24,630 And I always like to highlight one of my listeners on Friday because you guys 186 00:09:24,630 --> 00:09:29,310 do amazing things like leave me reviews and that helps us out immensely on 187 00:09:29,314 --> 00:09:32,490 Apple Podcasts and getting in front of other people and expanding our audience. 188 00:09:33,060 --> 00:09:36,210 So I want to thank Bright Side Mets. 189 00:09:36,569 --> 00:09:38,090 I love the names you guys come up with. 190 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:42,750 Uh, sometimes for these Brightside Mets left me a five star review 191 00:09:42,750 --> 00:09:46,650 that says Authentic to errors human to share your error as brave. 192 00:09:47,700 --> 00:09:48,270 Tfm. 193 00:09:48,270 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