Are you a man in a sexless marriage wondering what you can do to reignite intimacy? If so, you are not alone. My guest today on the Fallible Man Podcast is Cass Morrow, sexless marriage survivor and expert on how men can take ownership of their relationship and reignite intimacy. In this episode, we'll discuss the four phases of marriage, the mistakes men make that are sabotaging their relationships, and five things to stop doing immediately in order to start repairing and nurturing your marriage. Cass will also outline how to develop quality intimacy without social cues, overcompensating, or transactional sex. So if you're ready to take responsibility for your relationship and learn how to lead your wife and build a strong, lasting marriage, stay tuned!
About Cass Morrow
Cass Morrow is a sexless marriage survivor and a coach to thousands of men. He and his wife are on a mission to flip the divorce statistics and show that strong, successful marriages are possible. Cass believes that men should lead in the marriage, but also be smart enough to understand their wives' needs. He teaches his clients to take ownership for their marriage and provides them with actionable steps to increase the quality of their relationship with their spouse. Cass wants to help men reach their full potential and create a lasting legacy in their families.
Why is it important to reignite intimacy in a sexless marriage?
Reigniting intimacy in a sexless marriage is essential for couples to feel reconnected and supported. Intimacy involves a bond between two people that goes beyond physical pleasure, and it is important for couples to have a strong emotional connection. Intimacy is essential for any relationship, and it can be a way for two individuals to feel safe and secure in the knowledge that their partner cares for and loves them. Intimacy also helps to increase trust and communication between two people, which is essential for a strong and healthy marriage.
Without intimacy, a sexless marriage can quickly become strained and uncomfortable. Rekindling the connection between two people is one of the most important steps in reigniting intimacy in a sexless marriage. This can be done through activities such as spending quality time together, going on dates, and engaging in physical activities such as cuddling and touch. Through this, couples can build a stronger emotional connection and reconnect on a deeper level. When couples have a strong emotional connection, it can help them to feel more connected, which is essential for a healthy, long-term marriage.
Here are 3 common mistakes men make that interfere with their marriage:
1. Social Cues - Thinking that because you are doing all the "right" things, your wife should want you.
2. Overcompensating - Doing more around the house to get noticed by your wife instead of just being an adult.
3. Transactional Sex - Thinking that your wife owes you sex in return for providing for her.
1. Social Cues - Thinking that because you are doing all the "right" things, your wife should want you.
Step 1 of this process is understanding and recognizing that social cues are not the answer to creating a fulfilling marriage relationship. Social cues entail the idea that if a man is doing all the “right” things, then his wife should want him, despite any other issues that may be present. However, it is important to understand that this is not necessarily the case. In fact, it is often the case that if a man is only focused on doing the “right” things, this can actually hinder the relationship and cause feelings of resentment. Instead, it is important to focus on the emotional connection between the two individuals and what each of them can do to nurture that connection in order to create a fulfilling relationship. This means being open to communication and being willing to listen and learn from each other. It also means being open to compromise and understanding that sometimes, it’s not always going to be easy, but that as long as both partners are willing to work at it, a fulfilling relationship is possible.
Step 2 of this process is understanding that these social cues are not part of creating a fulfilling marriage relationship. It is important to understand that communication and emotional connection are vital components of a marriage relationship. When both individuals in the relationship are willing to communicate openly and to be vulnerable with one another, it opens up a whole new realm of possibilities and opportunities for growth and connection. It is also important to understand that communication is not only about talking and expressing one's thoughts and feelings, but also about listening and understanding the other person's point of view, as well as being willing to compromise and find a balance that works for both of you.
The last step in this process is to be willing to work at the relationship and commit to making it better. This means being willing to put in the effort and the time, and to be open to change. It also means being willing to take risks and to try new things in order to keep the relationship exciting and fulfilling. The key to a successful marriage relationship is to be patient and understanding with each other and to always be willing to work together in order to create a positive and nurturing environment. By committing to these three steps, couples can create a fulfilling marriage relationship that will last a lifetime.
2. Overcompensating - Doing more around the house to get noticed by your wife instead of just being an adult.
The second mistake men make in a marriage is overcompensating. This means doing more around the house to get noticed by your wife instead of just being an adult. This is a common mistake many men make when trying to improve their marriages. Overcompensating can come in many forms, such as doing chores, agreeing with your wife to keep the peace, and buying her gifts. While these things may seem like good ideas, they are actually doing more harm than good. By overcompensating, men are putting their wife on a pedestal, making themselves look needy and desperate. This can lead to a lack of emotional connection and intimacy in the relationship, as well as a lack of quality in the sex life. To avoid overcompensating, men should focus on being the leader in the marriage, making decisions, and being honest with their wives. Doing these things will help create a strong and healthy marriage with fulfilling sex and intimacy.
Another way men can lead in a marriage is by being present. This means taking the time to actually listen to your wife and be present in conversations. When men take the time to listen, it shows that they are invested in their marriage and in the relationship. This can help to create a strong foundation for a lasting relationship. Being present also means being available for your wife emotionally when she needs it. This means being able to provide a listening ear when she needs to talk or to be able to provide comfort and support when she is feeling down. By being present and available for your wife, it will create a strong connection and deepen the bond of your marriage.
Finally, men can lead in a marriage by being honest and open. This means being honest with your wife about your feelings, your thoughts, and your desires. It also means being open to hearing her thoughts and feelings as well. Being honest and open in communication can help to create a deeper and more meaningful connection between both partners. This will help to create a level of trust and understanding that is necessary for a healthy and lasting marriage. By being honest and open in communication, men can lead in a marriage and create a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.
3. Transactional Sex - Thinking that your wife owes you sex in return for providing for her.
Transactional sex is a common mistake men make in their marriage and can be damaging to the relationship. It is the idea that by providing for the family, the wife should owe the husband sex in return. There is NO quid pro quo in marriage and having this concept is demoralizing and dehumanizing to your wife. You wife is not a sex doll or porn actress, and she doesn’t owe you anything. This is an unhealthy view of a marriage and can lead to a sexless marriage. focus on nurturing the relationship and build intimacy. The act of sex is a very emotional undertaking for women, a deep connection and has very strong mental and emotional ramifications. Men should make sure they are providing quality sex and not treating their wives like a sex doll. By avoiding these mistakes and focusing on connecting with your spouse in this act, men can have a healthy and fulfilling marriage.
Another mistake men can make is to not be emotionally available. Men who are emotionally unavailable are not able to connect with their wives and express their feelings. This can lead to a disconnection between the couple, which can be damaging to the relationship. To avoid this mistake, men should make sure they are open and honest with their wives, and not afraid to express themselves. Additionally, men should be willing to listen to their wives, and be willing to talk about important topics. This can help create a strong connection between the couple, and will help them to be more emotionally available to each other.
Lastly, men need to understand that sex is not the only way to show love. By not focusing solely on sex, men can show their wives that they care about them in more ways than just physical. This can be done by taking the time to talk, cuddle, and do activities together. It is important for men to understand that there are many ways to show love, and that physical intimacy is not the only way to show their wives how much they care. By avoiding these mistakes and focusing on emotional availability, men can create a strong and lasting connection with their wives.
Reigniting intimacy in a sexless marriage is essential for couples to feel reconnected and supported. Intimacy involves a bond between two people that goes beyond physical pleasure, and it is important for couples to have a strong emotional connection. Cass Morrow, is a sexless marriage survivor and a coach to thousands of men. He and his wife are on a mission to flip the divorce statistics and show that strong, successful marriages are possible. His teachings provide men with actionable steps to increase the quality of their relationship with their spouse. It is possible to achieve a strong and healthy marriage, and with the right advice, you can be on your way to reigniting intimacy in your sexless marriage. So don’t be afraid to take the first step and start making positive changes in your marriage today. With a little effort and a lot of dedication, you can create a lasting legacy in your family.
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