Be Bold, Be You: David McCarter’s Secrets to Living a Fulfilling Life

[00:00:00] That's the thing. That's the biggest thing with finding your thing. Having an abundant life is try, try and then try again and then try again. And don't give up until you find that thing that that's that thing that motivates you. Um, you can't find something to motivate you sitting on your butt at home, watching Netflix, eating bonbons.

Here's the million dollar question. How do men like us reach our full potential growing to the men? We dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities. Working, being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? Well, that's the big question. In this podcast, we'll help you answer those questions and more.

My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast.

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We hope you enjoy the show. Be sure to leave us some feedback. We'd love to hear what you think about it. My name is Brent. Today. My guest is the common man OCR Dave McCarter. Dave, welcome back to the fallible man podcast. What's going on partner. Dave is always, I enjoy the last part of the year. I like to bring on people that are friends of mine, that we worked together before, and so I'm glad to have you back on here too.

We were going to do this outside. I suggested doing it outside and Brett's like, it's too cold, which after being outside, I have to completely agree, but we've got to do an outside episode because the last one we did was pretty awesome. It was a lot of fun, but it wasn't 23 degrees like it is. It wasn't 23 degrees.

Well, we just man up and take care of it, man. It's the way some wear some layers. Anyway, we'll be out there and let all the car hearts and stuff during that episode. I think that none are awesome and stop it. Anyway, no, [00:02:00] Dave, you have been here before. And so you kind of know how the flow of the show goes, but we like to start things nice and easy.

It's been a while. So how's your trivia today? I just got out of meetings all day, man. My brain's fried, but go ahead. Awesome. Please go ahead. Yes. Ready? What is the largest active active volcano in the world? Is it A, Mount Etna, B, Mount Vesuvius, C, Mualoa, or D, Mount Batar? But we'll see at the end of the show, I reckon.

Alright guys, make your guess, you know the rules, don't cheat, don't jump ahead. It's, it's not worth it. Just stick it out, write it down. If you're listening, my goodness, don't, don't write this down if you're in the car. Just make your guess and remember what it is. Don't go backwards up to it or whatever.

Now Dave, in your own words, who is Dave McCarter today? Oh, Dave's tired. Um, at any rate, Dave McCarter is... I'm [00:03:00] I guess a middle aged guy. Um, you know, I am an avid obstacle course racer, weightlifter, um, motorcyclist, engineer, youth minister, um, occasionally I get to sleep, you know, those kind of things, uh, love serving others, love helping people, uh, not only in their, just their regular lives, but their, um, Uh, their fitness journeys, that sort of thing.

And, uh, one of my biggest goals in the fitness journey context is just to get people off the couch. Because if I can be out there, so can anybody else. Hope that answers your question. Fair enough, fair enough. I mean, you, you're the only one who can really define who you are today. Right? Yeah. It's not a wrong answer in the first part of the show.

So you're pretty safe there. Here's the fun round. What's your go to comfort food or guilty pleasure snack? I love ice cream. I shouldn't love ice cream, but I love ice cream. And it's got, it's got, [00:04:00] uh, when I was a kid, my dad could not keep me a Paulatin in the house. But the problem with it was, is I would eat strawberry, give him the rest.

So strawberry, first of all, any berry flavor. Um, but yeah, that was the, uh, the, the go to is. It just, hold on a second, gotta have some light on my face, gotta have one monitor on. At any rate, um, the, uh, probably I would say strawberry ice cream, definitely. Strawberry ice cream, okay. What about you? Me? Yeah. Uh, Chunky Monkey.

Is that the one with just the chocolate chunks in it? No, it's Ben and Jerry's banana ice cream with, uh, chocolate, dark chocolate chunks and walnuts in it. You, you lost me at dark chocolate, but okay, go ahead. Mom, I grew up with mom making banana ice cream. So it's like instant comfort food just from growing up for years of eating banana ice cream.

Well, speaking of bananas, I [00:05:00] do have my pre workout snack. So after this, definitely try that down. Let's say I don't know, banana ice cream counts as pre workout, but you know. Just the banana though. Not the banana ice cream. Anyway. If you could have a conversation with anyone living or dead, who would it be and why?

This is going to sound funny considering my background, but honestly, Jesus. No, wait. Jesus, yes, but I would say the Apostle Paul. Um. Just because, you know, he's credited with writing like most of the New Testament and, um, there's a lot of data on his background and the stuff that he went through and, um, I just think it'd be cool to, uh, sit down with him for half an hour and go, dude, how did you do that?

Fair enough, fair enough. If you could learn a master any skill instantly, what would it be and why?

I [00:06:00] guess being social and what I mean by that is There seems to be varying like I'm uncomfortable in some situations like you drop me in the middle of a dinner party I'm the guy sitting in the corner paying attention where people are at And make sure my group gets out of there safely I'm not the life of the party never meant to be but being able to master those social interactions would be A cool thing because you'd be able to open up and talk with people and not be so socially awkward It takes a lot for me to Break out of my shell even now And it'd be nice to Be able to do that quicker.

If I'm in a comfortable situation, I got no problem with it. But if it's something like, you know, we all went to a dinner party, you'd, you'd find me in the corner, sipping on eggnog. So, well, you know, so here comes the eggnog. I'm down with, does it have to be the season? What purchase of a hundred dollars or less have you made in the last year that's had the [00:07:00] biggest impact on your life?

Well, I'll, I'll give them a shout out because I think their device is valuable and I actually got it for free. Um, but I'm in the 40, I'm in the 30 day trial. It's the whoop band. And it's just a, another tracker. It's just on your wrist. Notice I'm not wearing it anymore. Um, but it's a way to kind of hack your health and it tells you like, uh, you know, your training load was this.

Maybe pushes a little harder. Maybe take the day off. Um, uh, their service is kind of cool I thought I got one given to me at the boston stadium race for spartan a few weeks ago um, but I found an app for the apple watch which is A tenth of what their service is per year. So i'm just gonna go with that and um But yeah, the whoop man, I thought was was pretty cool.

And like I said, I got it for free So

what are you most proud of?[00:08:00]

I don't know i'm most proud that That's a hard question. I'm probably most proud of, I could be, I could have gone through the stuff I've been through in life and still not be what society would say I should be. Um, I have a very hard upbringing, very difficult childhood, very difficult adolescence, and Not be the, you know, womanizing, beer swallowing, you know, jerk that society and statistics say I probably should be, given my background.

Um, I'm better than that. And, uh, that, for myself, I think is probably the thing I'm most proud of. That and my Harley. I know you don't like Harleys, but... He does look right in one of those, I'll give him that. No, no, no wrong answers in the first portion, I [00:09:00] told you. But there will be as there always is in the next part.

Anyway, go ahead. I'm pulling all over you on the Harley question later, but you know. Yeah, it's alright. Hey, you can have taste. You don't, neither of us have any, but that's beside the point. One random fact that most people don't know about you, right? Cause you're, you're on social media is common man OCR and you're doing the thing.

What is one fact most people don't know about you? Um, I ran a five, five minute, 32nd mile in high school.

Everyone should know about you before we get into today's show. Um,

I'm as loyal as they come, but don't, don't take advantage of me. Don't use me. That's kind of my, if you're going to, if you're going to be in my life for that. Don't. Do me the favor and don't[00:10:00]

guys, we've been getting to know Dave just a little bit. If you haven't heard Dave on the show before, we've done some other episodes in the past together and you can go back and find those. I'll mark them below in the next part of the show. We're talking motorcycles, OCRs, and why you need a thing. We're going to roll to our sponsor.

And we'll be right back with more from David Carter. Now, before we go any further, I wanted to share with you guys. I don't always tell you how much I love doing my podcasts. Like I passionately love what I'm doing. And one of the things that makes my life better as a podcaster is to work with a company like grow your show, grow your show is a one stop podcast.

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Adam will take care of you. I guarantee it. I trust him. He's my friend. He's [00:11:00] my business colleague and I wouldn't trust anybody else with my show. Guys, welcome back. In the first part of the show, we spent some time getting to know who Damon Carter is. As calm man, OCR as a person. And in this part of the show, we're gonna talk about motorcycles, ocr, and why you need a thing.

Now put your inner 12-year-old away for a while or not. It's gonna be funny either way, but we're gonna dig into this now, Dave. It's been a minute since you've been on the show. What's the stats for the 2023 season so far on the OCR front? Uh, wait, what do you mean? How many races have you completed this season?

I don't know, I'd have to look it up. Um, I've just completed my sixth Spartan Trifecta, so that's at least... 21 races. No 18 races. I'm on my track for my seventh in Florida I'd have to look at my schedule because I don't remember but i've done Well, we did rugged maniac together a couple of times. Yeah, I know math [00:12:00] because it's math.

I can't do math. Um If I remember Correctly, I've done over 24 races so far this season and I've got five more left. Okay. So I'll be in central Florida this coming weekend and then I'll be in the NorCal event Barton in uh, the next weekend in December and then I am off until the end of February. Down time, down season, off season, whatever.

So guys, if you're not familiar, there's a reason we call him Calm Man OCR, Dave does races every year. He also does other races like. Rotary maniac, tough mudder, and even some five K's and stuff like that. And 10 K's. So Dave is just all around out there sharing with everybody that you two can take control of your health.

You can get off your lap. You can get off the couch and get out of the computer chair. And you can take control of your health. And so that's a big part of his mission. We've had him on here before. And we've talked about resilience and the [00:13:00] value, uh, part of what got him started on OCRs and why he continues to do them.

But like I said, I'll link that episode. I wanted to know exactly where we were. Cause I knew I tracked Dave's seasons. So I knew where he was. I was just taking him to the airport. Trust me. I, I appreciate you taking me to the airport.

Now, if you want to hear more about Dave, specifically when it comes to obstacle course races, and it's not something of passion for you, you can also catch him. He's done a couple episodes of the beast OCR podcast. So shout out to those guys over there. That's a good crew over there. I know some of those guys and a few of them.

So shout out to be OCR. And if you're interested in obstacle course racing, that's a great place to start as a cool community and you can find more of Dave there as well. Now, Dave, are you're already planning 2024? [00:14:00] I've done 28 races this year. Okay. Sorry. Go ahead. 28. All right. Sorry. I hit two numbers without warning.

Uh, how many races are we planning on 2024? You can't give me numbers, Dave. You know, I'm going to look it up. Yeah, 2024 is looking, looking good right now. Um, I'd like to, I gotta find out where my Tough Mudder is gonna be. I don't know if I'm gonna do Seattle or if I'm gonna do LA this year. Um, cause we've done Seattle for so many years and it's kind of like it's the same track.

Um, it's like, you know, we know where things are gonna be because they were there two years ago. Um, It's the home film and then, uh, I'm going to be, I'm going to go to, well, yeah, there's that I'm going to Houston this year, uh, Lord willing for Spartan. Um, I was hoping they'd bring back the Whistler event for Tough Mudder, but it looks like that didn't pan out because I was going to kidnap you and we were going.

Um, or, uh, we could [00:15:00] revisit that horror all over again. Uh, this, but see, we're stronger now. Because we're stronger and better now. We probably end up killing it. But, um, guys, that was Dave's very first obstacle course race. And he picked the hardest course in continental United States, or sorry, continent besides world's toughest, but yeah, uh, that was, that was brutal.

That was very long, nasty, cold day in unseasonable weather. It was very cold. And I remember my dad, uh, stayed out there. He didn't go back to the truck. He stayed after the whole time, get back. That was one resilient old man, um, but, um, I, I told my friend Jasmine that, uh, we ran this, the super together down in, uh, Arizona this last weekend, we can before, and we didn't perform as well as we wanted either one of us wanted to.

So we're like, she looks at me, he goes, you're coming back next year, right? And [00:16:00] I guess I am now. So I gotta go back and do a Phoenix and of course, central Florida. Um. I was going to call you and see if you want to do Rugged Maniac, but we got to find out when it is. I think it's in June again. And, uh, um, yeah, it's, I mean, the, the one race I've got to, I've got to talk about this for just a second.

The one race that really blew me away this year as how amazing it was, was the Boston Stadium race at Fenway Park. That was just cool to be in that much history. It'd be like, I'm walking down the hallways that Babe Ruth walked down. I'm walking down the hallways that Ted Williams walked down. Oh my goodness.

And, um, I walked out of the third baseline after coming out of the opposing team's dugout. And the photographer just sees me just jaw dropping. You're like, Oh, so I had to set up the next day and run it again. So that was cool, but yeah, it's, it's looking pretty good. And if anybody wants to join me, you know, go to, uh, common man, OCR.

org. [00:17:00] And I was sending you the Facebook page or look me up on social media and come out and join me, even do a sprint or something, you know, it's, uh, it's good fun. You don't have to, don't have to worry about. I won't even make you do burpees. I mean, who does burpees anymore? But, um, so my kids do. Well, that's true.

You better watch it. They're going to be out, but we got more buff than you are. I got time. It's okay. Hey, tell us, tell us about your newest venture. Tell us about, uh, narrow way. Yeah, well, um, so for those of you that don't know, my, my dad passed away last year and, um, Before that, we had, we, we saw the, uh, the movies, The Long Way, The Long Way Around, Long Way Down, Long Way Up, with Ewan McGregor, Charlie Borman, where they did these really long motorcycle trips.

Uh, one of them was around the world, and then they went from the tip of the UK down to Cape Town, South [00:18:00] Africa, on motorcycles. The last one they did, they did it on Harley Davidson electric bikes. The tip of Argentina at uh, Tierra del Fuego, Ushuaia to L. A. And um, my dad calls me up and he's watching these at his house.

He goes, David, we ought to do something like this. And I said, well dad, I'm not you McGregor and I can't call Harley and get stuff for free. So this idea of Narrow Way Moto Ventures was born. And we planned on doing um, four trips total. And raising money for our local YMCA here in Wenatchee. Well, dad passed away.

So I made the promise I would, I would do them myself. So, um, July 6th, July 5th, whatever date it was, uh, this year I hopped on one of my Harleys, my, my, uh, 2021 Harley Davidson Pan America Adventure bike, similar to the bikes that you and Charlie took on their trips. And I headed out and went [00:19:00] from here to.

Boise down through Utah, Wyoming, uh, Nebraska, which is wow. Um, and wound up at the Harley Davidson museum, uh, in Milwaukee, Wisconsin in time for the 120th anniversary celebration. And, uh, that was the first trip dad and I had planned. And, um, went to the museum, went through power plant operations, and then, um, spent a couple of days doing that and then start coming home, had so much adventure, bike broke down for two days, then it broke down for another day, got all that parts fixed because it was just a electrical problem, got back toward Washington state.

Get to Wenatchee all together. Went up into Canada, uh, rode the Cedar Sky Highway, rode Vancouver Island, rode Highway 1 down to Long Beach, uh, then down to Tillamook and Oregon, and eventually, uh, down the gorge, um, back toward the Tri Cities, and then back up to Wenatchee, and crossed the finish line on the, I think it was the 4th of August, and, uh, [00:20:00] raised about 4, 500 for the local YMCA's building effort.

So that was kind of cool. Um, and now we're, I'm in the process, oh, shot a, shot a bunch of video that a friend of mine's gonna, uh, we're gonna build into an episodic, uh, YouTube series, hopefully. And, um, uh, and then this next year, starting in July, we're gonna do The Narrow Way South. Another dream of Dad's was to ride, uh, Route 56.

From, uh, Chicago to Santa Monica and, um, same thing, trying to raise money for the Y, uh, that was his wish and, um, I'm going to ride, basically ride from Wenatchee, uh, straight off I 90, back to the Harley Museum, go see it again, and then hit the eastern terminus of Route 66, I think it's I 40 if I remember correctly, most of it, and then ride as much of the Mother Road as I can, see as many things as I can, Shoot as much video as I can and then, uh, hit the western terminus at Santa Monica and then take the [00:21:00] one north back toward Washington State and then home.

So it'll be a little bit longer trip, about 7, 000 miles. 7, 000 miles. Now for all of you who don't ride motorcycles. 7, 000 miles on the butt sucks. Just put it out there. It's not a, not a fun ride for your tailbone. So, so that's, and you'll all have links for all of this stuff, including narrow way and stuff, so you can track that if you want to cheer him on or even medium somewhere on the road.

That'd be cool. Absolutely possible. I'll hook up with him. You can reach out to him on his different platforms and be like, Hey, I'll meet you at this leg and ride with you for a while. That'd be very cool. Someone's going to be like, yo, I heard you on the podcast. Yo, that'd be fun. Where you're get your foul man shirt.

So I know you're there. No guys. You might wonder why we're taking a lot of time to talk about these things. So let me, let me [00:22:00] kind of pull this to a head here. So you can see where we're going. Joe Rogan talks about aliens, comedy, fighting, politics, and biohacking. Dwayne Johnson talks about the WWE, movies, football, tequila, and fitness.

Alex Hirose talks about business, philosophy, fitness. Comedy and utilitarianism. The fact is that you are your own. Okay. Every man has a thing or a group of things that uniquely make them part of who they are. Dave is into OCRs, his faith, fitness, motorcycles, technology. And it makes him who he is. It's a big part of who he is.

Now, Dave, do you think that it's an important thing for men to tap into this stuff? Well, it's important for them to have a purpose. It's important for, I mean, for men and women, but specifically for men. [00:23:00] It's important to have a purpose, a drive, a, because we get bored. I mean, we get bored with our lives. We get bored with things, we lose interest, whatever.

And if we have a thing, if we have something that we enjoy or something that motivates us, then we. put effort into that. And if we don't put effort into something, we lose it, we waste it. And there's always those possibilities when we're not putting effort into something constructive. And again, this is my opinion, you know, take it for what it's worth.

Um, we end up having, um, idle hands, basically. So we end up Possibly doing something not so constructive. Um, you know, there's even in your downtime, you know, you can do, you could do construction things in your downtime and not have to be busy all the time, but if you're doing the constructive things, like making yourself better or working on a motorcycle or spending time with your family and working on a [00:24:00] motorcycle, um, you know, those are constructive.

Whereas if you just didn't have, if you're just bored out of your mind, then you're not really living life to the fullest and you're going to get off the, off your, your. Of the correct path. I believe is what I, how I want to say that. And let me, let me pull this to where the, I, I agree. Every man needs purpose.

And if you guys have been around the channel, you know, I'm, I'm huge into finding the purpose for your life. Finding what it is that really you need to be doing. I separate this out and say, you need a thing because having a thing rounds you out, right? It rounds out who you are. So there's all these different pieces of the puzzle.

Of things that interest you, things that you enjoy, things that you're passionate about, things that excite you. And once you have that, right, if you let yourself have that, you can then utilize that as you find [00:25:00] purpose, as you find direction, right? This gives you a base. If you listen to Joe Rogan podcast, Joe Rogan has guests, but he talks about those things.

That's what he talks about. I said, that is the main, you know, he'll talk about whatever the guest wants to talk about, but that is his main. Bread and butter. That's where he lives. If you get in a conversation with you or me, you and I have the things that we do, that we enjoy doing, that we enjoy spending your time doing now, those things don't necessarily dictate all of your purpose, but it rounds out how you approach your purpose, how you approach things in life.

And it gives you a base to work off of moving into those things. What do you mean by rounds out? That's kind of, that terminology is not like, you know, with me. Okay. So, let me, let me explain it this way. [00:26:00] What value, and did I nail that? Would you say faith, fitness, Mm hmm. Yeah, you nailed all that.

Motorcycles, technology. Right. What value do you get from being involved in those things? Keeps my mind active. Keeps my body active. Okay. Keeps me active. Keeps me active as a whole person. Um, allows me to serve others, especially in the faith based, you know, stuff and the fitness allows me to help other people achieve their goals.

Would you say it helps regulate you emotionally? Oh, yeah. Especially the motorcycles and the, and the gym

direction guidance on some of the smaller choices in your life. Okay. Fair enough. I see your point. And that's, and that's where I'm going is I think everybody has a thing, right? Now, I'm sure, I don't know, Joe Rogan, I don't know those guys personally. Those are brief summations from the outside. I know you a whole lot better than that, but in every [00:27:00] other thing you do, I see those things shine through in different ways.

It also gives you an opportunity to, you know, if you want to do something bigger, right? Maybe you wanted to start a business or in your case, you'd like to serve people in different ways. Well, those give you foundations because you're passionate about those things. You're educated on those things. You have experienced those things for you to use those as platforms to follow that bigger purpose of serving other people.

I see your point. Okay. So that's why I think everybody needs a thing. And I think a lot of men are discouraged from pursuing many things. I think, uh, we're, we're told to stay in our lane or do, you know, you do this. You don't worry about all of that, right. It's part of that more creative structure that we aren't always encouraged to do as men.

What did the, what [00:28:00] did the rock know your role in shut your mouth? Or that was, no, wait, was that The Rock? Anyway. Now, let me ask you, do you, have you experienced grief because you've invested in doing your things? Whether time or finances or just cycles? Time and finances is, time and finances is fine. I mean, that's part of the, part of the trade off.

That's part of the cost of doing those things. But, um, the, I've experienced people who try to talk me out of things. Like, um, Why do you have to erase so much? Why do you have to do that? And try to make me feel bad for investing in myself. And, um, you know, I've got, I have four motorcycles. I got four Harley and yes, um, you know, they're all paid off except the one I just bought on my trip Which was that probably wasn't a smart purchase, but whatever although Brett did help me pick it up.

So he's [00:29:00] just as guilty as I am. Anyway For those looking at home, he did get on this thing. I said this thing's a junk heap I'm not getting on it again. So there's that but um, you know, I've had people like how many bikes do you need? Well, I enjoy having these around. Of course, I'm not going to buy any more because my carport's full, but I enjoy having this around.

I enjoy these different riding styles. I enjoy being able to say, hey, Brent, let's go ride. Here's, here's a case of this bike. Let's go. You know, that kind of thing. And, um, but people have tried to make me feel like, um, Narcissist, I guess, because, you know, you're investing in yourself and you're, you've got four motorcycles.

So how many bikes you really need and or those kind of things. And that that's been the biggest grief. Um, I think I've endured, um, as people trying to make you feel like crap for taking care of yourself for trying to take care of yourself. Spending time [00:30:00] away from where they want you to be. Yep. Telling you how to.

No, I will, I will say this publicly. Dallin, you, you have not, you and your family have not done that. You've been overly supportive of, uh, my endeavors, just as I have been with a fallible man. Huh? I'm an enabler. He is an enabler. This is true. Um, although I did tell him that I'm taking my adventure bike on the narrow way around.

He's like, are you mental? Like, yeah. But it worked. Finally. But no, I mean, you were there the day, you were there for me. It might kick off the day I left you there the day I got back. And um, I can't thank you enough for that support. And uh, uh, I also said would you be my medical contact in case I get an erect?

You're like, yeah, sure, no problem. I'll pick up the body. Um, but, he didn't actually say he'll pick up the body. He said he'll pick up the keys to the bike. But, uh,[00:31:00]

Well, guys, we're going down this rabbit hole because you have Things that you're passionate about, you know, things you enjoy doing. You have things that kind of make, that make you feel better. Like I, Dave and I both like to go to the gym to blow off steam and we feel better that way. Right after, after a rough day, that's always a good answer for us.

You have those things that you love to do and those things can be a great foundation as you move towards purpose, as you decide what's important to you. They'll help you align with those things. It will also help you align with how you can influence other people or are, you know, interact with other people in a positive way.

But a lot of people, when you start doing the things you enjoy, they tend to bury that, right? You, Oh, I got to work and I got to take care of the kid. Or I got to go do this with [00:32:00] my, this group, or I got to do that. Right. And we start dumping those things that make us unique, kind of shape who we are and influence us.

And I don't think that's a healthy choice. I think those things are what makes you, you make sure you uniquely you that tells your story uniquely way and gifts you with an ability to deliver on your purpose and your goals in life. And so in the next part of the show, we're going to go into how to kind of find your thing if you don't know what it is and how to start to develop that.

Because I think it will make a huge difference in your life. If you nurture that side of you. So we'll be back after this message from our sponsor with more from David McCarter. How well do you sleep at night? Do you toss and turn and wake up more tired than when you went to bed? Sleep is commonly one of the critical elements people fall short on in their life.

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We discussed motorcycles, OCRs, and why you need a thing. No, not that thing, but go ahead and laugh in that. Cause I know you're going to in this part of the show, we're going to talk about finding your thing. Once again, Dash the inner 12 year old. Stay with us for a few minutes. Is this why you had me on the podcast?

Cause you know, I'd laugh at that. God, I don't know that I've had any guests that guests that wouldn't laugh at that. People's kids. I tell you, [00:34:00] I know, right? Now, here's the question, right? How do you know what your thing is? Like, what, when does it become your thing? Right? Cause you, you didn't always do OCRs.

No. That was your fault. You started back in 2016. It was your fault. Yeah, I know. You started back in 2016. But, I mean, you've had several years before that, so that wasn't a thing for you then. That's true. Right? So, and you had just as much chance of walking out of there and going to hell with this. I'm never doing that again.

So how do you decide what your thing is, right? I mean, you, you landed pretty squarely on those five or six things. How did you decide that was your thing? Or did something I enjoyed. I mean, it's something that brought me brought a smile to my face, especially in the, so let's, let's break it down for a second.

You know, in the OCR space, you have distances and you have obstacles. So [00:35:00] for a Spartan beast, it's a half marathon, 13 point whatever miles, and it's 35 plus obstacles. There's a lot of obstacles I still can't do yet. But to be able to see my progression of now I can handle the distance for the most part, depending on if they're having terrain that's going to...

Kill everybody. San Jose, 2023, anybody? Um, I hope Spartan hears that too. Uh, but anyway, um, but being able to see my progression from, from like, for example, uh, when we did the, the Spartan sprint in 2016, I could barely handle those three miles. If you remember, um, we did the one in 2017, I was sick the morning of, I'm telling you, dude, I'm going to quit a little barf, man.

And, and you're like, no, come on. Who's got attracted bar far from the course. You're good to go. Um, we met Casey McAllister, the legless Spartan that day. He tasked me in the back of the leg is we're like two and a half miles into a 3. 1 mile race. I'm ready to drop. I'm ready to just vomit everywhere. He tasked me in the back of the leg.

And I'm like, I [00:36:00] look. Down and there's this man with no legs skating on his trunk and his knuckles and he lost his legs when he was a kid But going from and got 13. 1. Thank you, sir, but being able to go from that god bless Casey He's always motivated me every chance Yes being able to go from that to doing Like I can do a 10 miler now and not have too much for a problem I can do a beast not too much for a problem.

I used to not be able to pick up the Atlas stone The Atlas Cone, for those of you that don't know, is this large spherical stone made out of concrete. Or sandbags on occasion. Um, it's a hundred pounds for the guys. I used to not be able to pick that up. I'd look at Brent and go, uh, no. And now I can deadlift it, pick it up, put it on my shoulder and walk with it.

Um, and be able to see that progression like, I want more of that. I want to have something I can train against. I can train for that race. Now I just put a date on the calendar, I'm going to lose fifty pounds by this date. Because whoever, who does that? Nobody, nobody ever does that. You don't have a goal.

Your training is [00:37:00] useless. Um, and then you, you know, let's look at the motorcycle stuff. You know, I went from riding a little two 50. Yes. Me rode a two 50 to Brent's house on the other side of Washington State. I crossed mountain passes and showed up as a, this is my new motorcycle. I wasn't gonna say anything.

I'll say it, I'll say it for you. He is like, why did you buy that? It gets 82 miles to the guild. You're like, um, Dave, you could deadlift that. You shouldn't be riding it. It was a great starter bike. I'll just put it that way, but it was not what I need to be on. But I went from riding that to riding a 114 Cub inch Charlie now, uh, and going distances that are 6,000 plus miles.

Because I can. Um, being able to have those things that make you, make you better, make you reach for that next rung on that ladder. Um, that's what motivates me for those things. Um, being, it's kind of like your tagline, be better tomorrow by what you do today. Um, You know, being able to, [00:38:00] to go just a little bit farther, a little bit better and do a little bit more.

It's like, okay, I want to do more of that. So that's why I stay in OCR and motorcycles, especially, um, cause he just motivates me to be better. It motivates me to be better. There we go. I can speak.

It's, I think it's, I think it's really people. My video frees up a little bit. Okay. Just comes back. You are. That's right.

That's okay. Audio is my bigger platform. Nobody watches the YouTube video. So if you guys want to see Dave's audio video frozen up, you can do that, but the audio is what nobody listens to anyways. So that's cool. I just do the video so I can see your pretty face while I'm doing it. But I think a lot of guys struggle with that, right?

Because we have so many different things that we encounter and try throughout our lives. So I think it's harder for some [00:39:00] people to decide, you know, well, what is my thing? Right? Because I've, I've done a lot of stuff, right? You've done a lot of stuff. So deciding what is. Those descriptors of, you know, when someone goes, hmm, Brent, you know, what, what do they think of?

Right. Well, because I guess, why are you, huh? So why, why do we need to have descriptors? Because those things generally become synonymous with you. As they become your thing, I can see that. Um, the, the, the caveat I'd have to that is I don't want to be known as, um, sorry, my camera's free. Turn this off. There we go.

It was touching on my appearance for some stupid reason. Like, I'm this, this is the way I look normally. Um, but, but I guess the caveat I'd have to that is. Be careful with, and I'm [00:40:00] not saying you're doing this, but be careful with having those descriptors or seeking those descriptors to define you. Um, I don't want to be known as just the motorcycle guy or Dave the obstacle course racer.

You know, I'm also Dave the, the youth minister and Dave the Christian and Dave the, the engineer, things like that. Um, I think too many times we don't, we don't look for our things that gets squashed. But sometimes we also let that thing that we find Or whatever it may be become our overall defining characteristic to where we can't be defined by anything else.

Does that, does that make sense? Yeah, it does. That's why I'm not saying you're looking for a descriptor. Sure. I'm saying most men will develop a handful of things that become part of their identity. Well, if you say this is part of my identity, the people around you who know you, right? If somebody asks me about you, I'm going to tell him [00:41:00] about narrowway motorcycles.

I'm going to tell him about common man OCR. I'm going to tell him. That you're an engineer for a tech company. I'm going to write. These are things when I'm trying to describe you to somebody else that automatically come to mind, right? Because they're how you like, not only combination of what you do, things you love to do.

Right. The, the movie scene that comes to mind though, the reason I brought that up was the movie scene that comes to mind was anger management with, with Jack Nicholson and, um, Adam Sandler. And they're sitting in the anger management class. And he's like, who is. You know, tell us who you are. Well, I'm an engineer and he's talking about all the descriptors and, um, you know, like, but that tells me what you do.

Who are you? Oh, I'm, I'm a nice guy. That tells you your personality. Who are you? I don't know what you want me to say. And then he writes down something on the paper and Adam Sandler's character gets all bad. So that's why I brought that up was that a movie scene [00:42:00] came to mind when you're talking about that.

Well, that's why I start with every show with. Tell us today. Who is Dave McCarter? You're right. Exactly. I stopped introducing my guest because... It really doesn't, I, I, I get to research all my guests and I look at all these accolades and stuff that doesn't tell the people who are listening right now, who they're actually listening to.

I've met a lot of people with a lot of accolades over the years, and that's not how I would describe 99 percent of them, the one or 2 percent that I would describe via their accolades. I generally have nothing nice to say about them, so I'm just reading off stats. Mental note, don't get any accolades that Brent will be mad about.

Got it. I know you pass out with Harley on her, but you know. It's all right. I was kind of, you got it. He said, Harley, I got excited. Um, I, I agree. You can't [00:43:00] define a person, but others will know you by your thing. Yeah. Right. It's kind of, you're defining like Dave has a bald head and Brent has a bald head.

Yeah. I get it. And if you're watching the YouTube broadcast, you're seeing a couple of bald men here. Kind of terrifying, but it's hard to decide what becomes your thing, right? That's where your passions that come in. You're going to try a lot of different things over your life. You're going to play with it and be like, Oh, I like this.

No, I didn't enjoy this. Right. But there will be those handful of things that you just go, that's mine. I love that. I love doing it. I love everything about it. I love learning about it. I love practicing it. And those things become your thing. Now, I think a lot of men struggle with it just because we're not encouraged to experiment with that stuff.

We're also, a lot of us are really set in our ways. Like I don't like to do things. My, my wife is, I'm sure [00:44:00] didn't cartwheels going yet through about now. Uh, she's engineering this cause I don't like new things. I would like you to define that comment for me. Fine. I don't like to do new things. So are we talking like new, like you're going, but yeah, Sarah says at all.

I get that. But what I'm saying is like. Yeah, Farrah wants to go to a new restaurant. Is that off? Nothing new. Just nada. Zero zilch. So what you're telling me is you're Sheldon Cooper from the Big Bang Theory, only not as nerdy. That's what you're telling me. A little bit. A little bit. I know you guys aren't getting the running commentary in the background from my wife who's engineering the show right now.

You should see the all caps on nothing new. Nothing new! No, I'm, I'm very, and I think a lot of men find that as part of the problems where we struggle with, uh, personal development sometimes, as I think a lot of men can identify [00:45:00] with what I'm saying. And we get into that, that's comfortable. Our life works this way and we're not into finding those new things.

So if we haven't already established. What is my thing? Uh, that, that can be a real uphill battle for a lot of us, right? I'm still doing things, most of my things, things I've been doing for a very long time. Uh, Oh, man, sorry. Um, Oh, sorry. What was that again? What were you saying? Edit that out. Oh, I don't have anything.

So what benefits are there possibly tapping into your thing? Do you think

Benefits are there for I've seen too many men and we're specifically talking about men in [00:46:00] this case. Yeah I mean, yes, we're on a male development show I've seen too many men and die of boredom. Absolutely die. Whether they physically die, or they mentally and spiritually just die. Because they're bored out of their mind.

Um, I will

Can I get a little personal? Is that cool? Cool. I love my dad. I would give anything for him. You know, you love yours too. I'd give anything for my dad to be here, even if it cost me myself. My dad spent all his life doing one thing, working, that's it. My, it wasn't until the, I don't know what would you say, probably last 10 years or so of my dad's life, maybe [00:47:00] 15, 20.

Um, cause we've known each other for quite a while. Where he actually started to do other things, like hockey, he loved hockey. Absolutely loved hockey. Um, even when I couldn't go, he'd go to hockey. Um, but he didn't, like he spent most of his adult life working. Because that's what he thought he had to do and he didn't really break out of his shell and Go off and live his life and find his thing besides cars and working until I kind of I kind of kicked him in the tail.

Um, I remember buying him his first motorcycle. Like, I bought him his first bike. And he was just dumbfounded. Like, why are you doing this for me? And, uh, but the second he got through his course and we went on our first big motorcycle rides together, he was all over it. He couldn't get enough. He was so happy about being on the back of a motorcycle.

Um, you know, we'd go to Canada, and we'd go across the passes, and we'd go over the, [00:48:00] you know, we'd go all over the Northwest. And, um, but it took... You know, that external force, namely me, to kick him in the tail and say, okay, we're leaving. Let's go. When he got to a point where he couldn't hold a bike up and I helped him buy a trike for the first time.

You know, he was just so giddy, um, that he got to ride a motorcycle. And the end, toward the end of his life, when he was in the nursing home, um, he would tell me, actually before he went to the nursing home, when he was at home, um, he'd see his trike sitting outside. He'd be like, I just want to go riding again, David.

Um, and that was his thing. He loved, that was outside of work and, you know, providing bills, or paying the bills and stuff. That was his thing and he found that through, through me. Um, and, uh, you know, he was, he was a prime example of probably the previous generation of you and I, where they, all they did was concentrate on work, family, providing, that's it.

And they were robbed, personal opinion, [00:49:00] of being able to find that thing. That brought them some joy outside of their family and their responsibilities and so forth. And I think that was a disservice. Um, my dad should have found his thing years ago. And without me having to do it for him. Um, but it's an example that I, that I've learned from.

Um, of what not to do. And you gotta find your thing. Otherwise you're gonna, you're gonna burn out. You're going to get bored of life. Uh, and you're not gonna be living an abundant life. You're gonna just, you're gonna stall out. That's just, again, just my take on it going through the motions, right? And go through the motions suck.

I think you can take it a step farther with once you actually start to understand what is your thing, right? What's to keep you from taking that thing and doing more with it. Maybe you dream about starting your [00:50:00] own company. Maybe you've thought about side hustles. Maybe you've thought about helping other people or teaching other people somehow, right?

Finding that thing that you love to do. That you love to spend time doing, you take joy from, opens up a wide array so that work isn't the only thing so that your responsibilities aren't the only thing. And I think tapping into that opens up doors for you for other things you could do with your life. To add more joy, not just doing that thing, but maybe helping others with it.

Are you utilizing it to, you know, do something you never thought you could do, like start a small business or help other people, right? You can teach people. I have a friend who actually teaches the motorcycle course in Wenatchee and. You know, he loves to ride his motorcycle, but he loves teaching people motorcycles and introducing people to that.

Right. So it's become a side gig for [00:51:00] him. That is something that he's very passionate about. So I think there are a lot of benefits.

All right. Go ahead. All right. That's right. What you're doing with Taliban.

It's possible. It's possible. I might be doing anything.

Well, but I see, but look where, look where fellow man is, right? If we had this talk 10 years ago, 15 years ago, you would have been like, it sounds good, but, uh, um, You know, now it's kind of like, no, I got to go record my show. I got to go do my, I've got to do my podcast, my interview, et cetera. And you can go to work and, and, and do all of that.

But your, your passion, uh, this thing again, my 50, 000 foot view, your passion is this is helping men become better and, um. I think this, this [00:52:00] business is going to grow. It's going to be something you're going to be able to monetize and better and whatever else. Uh, and it's going to, it's going to blow up on you.

It's going to be great. Um, it's just, you gotta stick with it, which I think, you know, you don't have a problem with, but there are. Men who start something like this, maybe not to the extreme or this level just yet, excuse me. Um, they'll start something like this and then they'll hit that first roadblock and then they'll hit that second roadblock and then they'll be told, Oh, give it up, give it up, give it up.

And they stop when by the time they hit the third roadblock right past that roadblock is profitability. It's it's now you're in the next level. It's now you get to jump up a level. And, and get to where you wanted to be, just gotta get past that third roadblock. And I think too many men, at least in the developed world, are, they're afraid of failure.

They're afraid of setbacks. They're afraid [00:53:00] of being labeled as a failure. I mean, you look at some of the businesses that started. I mean, how many business, how many things did Elon Musk go through before he hit it, hit it big with Tesla? Um, you know, look at, uh, how many, what's that? Four? Four business? But look at, look at all the, look at all the big, the big folks that have, have, um, done well for themselves, how many times they failed before they hit something really big.

And we men, we just, you know, the fowl man is your thing. You know, God bless your brother. It's your thing. You're doing well at it. Um, you know, if you look at, go back, for those folks who want us to go back to the YouTube channel, look at like the previous, like the original post he did, and look at, compare it to now.

It's like night and day difference, man. Um, and, you've grown in this, you've done well, very, very well at it. Uh, and maybe you're hitting Roblox, I don't know. [00:54:00] But, you're sticking with it. That's, that's an awesome thing. And you're doing what most men should be doing, is sticking with their passions. So good on you,

So what you're saying is following and investing in those things, right? Mm-Hmm? your passions, your interest builds resilience. Yeah. Because how many times are you gonna fail? I mean, how many people are gonna be in your life? Go, well, Brent, you know, you should make more money being an executive out it firm and, and, uh, you should make, you should do sales.

And then, uh, but you're like, yeah, that's great. But I know this can succeed. I know this can go to this level, the one that I envisioned and I know, okay, well, I'm still going to do that other stuff or whatever, but I'm going to do this too. Uh, same thing like with me with youth ministry. I've done youth ministry for forever now, and I've never been paid for it.

Um, which is fine. It was my choice. I have an IT job, um, to where I can fund it myself. Um, but, uh, I don't, [00:55:00] um, you know, I've had plenty of people tell me, you know, give it up. That doesn't bring you, it doesn't bring you any value because you don't get paid for it. It's like, no, this is something I'm passionate about because I want to help kids and families not go through the same crap that I went through as a kid.

And if I need to pay for that, or if I need to hook that up, or I need to make that happen, then I'm going to do it. And not giving up on it. Um... You know, we run this youth rally every year up here in the Northwest. Brent and I do. Um, and, you know, it's something I'm very, very passionate about, because it helps kids and families, um, know there's somebody out there, somebody there for them, there's somebody that can help them, there's somebody that cares about them, uh, more than just their families.

And, you know, it's something I, I hope to never give up. Um, but too many men just, they hit a roadblock, and it's like, okay, well, I guess, guess it's a failure, so, see ya. I'm a failure. Bye. So chasing your thing builds resilience. It builds opportunity, right? You [00:56:00] talked about, I've, you know, use mine to do my show, my thing, right?

How many opportunities have you had in the years you worked in youth ministry? Because you worked in youth ministry. Well, not you, which I'm not sure that's an opportunity. I'm not sure that's an opportunity. I mean, we met at a youth minister's conference or something. Sarah and Brett and I did. And like, hey, there's another bald guy with a beard.

Let's go beat that guy. And then we hit it off and, you know, rolled around the peninsula in my little 1990 Honda Prelude. Um, I've had opportunities to meet people. I've had opportunities to travel. You know, I've had opportunities to, um, It helps students, um, all over, all over the planet, actually, um, that I wouldn't have had before if I wasn't involved in youth ministry.

Um, trying to fail to get lost on Q Peninsula Highway. For those of you that don't know, there's a peninsula here in Washington State. And all roads [00:57:00] lead to this one road called the key peninsula highway. And we literally tried to get lost at every flipping road. We turned a corner on it's a giant loop.

Yeah. I went right back to the KPN and we're like, or the KPH like, what the freaking crap, what the heck? So yeah, that was a fun, fun day. Um, but, well, have you met because of your love for doing OCRs, right? You mentioned Casey, gosh, you mentioned Casey, how many incredible people you met. Because connections have you made I have made especially now that I started coming at OCR.

Um, To the point where joe disena the ceo of spartan I was at central florida. Um, Uh spartan trifecta weekend last year. This is just after dad died And I finished the super on that sunday pardon me and I'm mounting up for the sprint [00:58:00] And I go walking over to the start wall And I see Joe and his wife and one of his kids.

I said, Hey, Joe! And he recognized me. Like, he knew who I was. Like, here's Joe Dicitta. Thinkin multi millionaire, you know, CEO of Spartan. I guess, hero to some folks. Probably hero to me, I don't know. But, um, uh, dude knew who I was. And said, Hey Dave, what's up? Like... Okay, cool, but I've met quite a few people from all over the planet by doing OCR.

I have not been all over the planet doing OCR yet. Probably not gonna happen in my life, but I've met quite a few people, quite a few amazing people. Casey McAllister being the very top of the list because that dude will not give up. He is the the quintessential definition of resilience in my book. Just by, you know, Skate along on his trunk and his knuckles and now he's got a chair so he can get it done faster.

But I mean, he doesn't let anything stop it, which is just [00:59:00] motivating to me. Hope that answers your question. Yeah. So your thing can make connections for you. It can get opportunities for you. It also builds resilience. Sure. And it builds up like, you know, we, we talked about the gym or the motorcycle. Trust me, it's therapy, right?

You get out and do your thing. And it's just like, I can breathe. Right. Um, I, I honestly, when I first started doing the podcast, I was like, so tense. I was laughing about Dave talking about my early shows. I still, I have the very first video. It's still up on my YouTube channel, guys. Go look at it. Trust me.

I'm like, we're bomb. Do yourself a favor. Go look at it. Oh, it was painful. Going back, I watched it not long ago. I'm like, oh, it's so embarrassing. But I leave it there to remind me, right? Now I get behind the mic and I've [01:00:00] had the privilege over the last several years to meet some incredible people and talk to just amazing people and I look forward to it.

I love getting behind the mic. I love talking. With our listeners and hoping to help men solve problems in their lives, plug holes and live better lives. I love having these conversations. I love doing the solo episodes and I look forward to it. I absolutely look forward to it. And so it's not just the gym for me, right?

Your thing, whatever that is, can be good for you in huge ways. I agree. Partly. Now we're trying to sell you on why you guys should actually pursue your thing and not the 12 year old thing, but your thing. Okay. I'm just going to giggle like a 12 year old. Thanks a lot for that, Brent. That's in my notes. I [01:01:00] think Dave will laugh.

Ha, ha, ha. Dave will laugh. No. Brent's a putz. Anyway. Sorry. Guys, I think you should invest in finding that. Dave, what would be your advice to men? On how to start to kind of flush out what their thing might be. Get off your tail and go do something. Go do anything. I mean, take an art class, sign up for an OCR, sign up for a gym, take an art class, I already said that, um, take a cooking class, uh, go dancing, you know, there's, there's plenty of places that do like line dancing classes and I got started in swing dancing, found out I wasn't really, wasn't my thing, but I did it a couple of times.

Um, imagine me out dancing. Try. The biggest thing is to try, you know, and maybe the, maybe the, the, the two dozen things you try, [01:02:00] maybe three of those becomes a thing for you, but try, you know, if you don't do anything, nothing ventured, nothing gained, if you don't do anything and take a step, you're not going anywhere to take a step.

That's the biggest thing you can do is take a step. Don't be me. Try new things. Yeah. Yeah. We're going to sushi this weekend. I'm kidding, but I'm sushi. I'm all there, man. What are you talking about? Well, you are driving me to the airport on Thursday. So we got to get over there in time to have, Oh, that reminds me.

I'll eat dinner at, uh, at, uh, claim jumper before the airport. So anyway, no, I I'm all down for sushi. We're good with that. Okay. Good comment below guys. If you're listening to this comment below, if you like sushi. Let us know. We're not alone. Depends on the sushi. Cause there are some nasty sushis out there.

No, it was Sarah's. I don't want sushi, Sarah. Let me go run to the store real quick. I'll take care of that. See you in about a half an hour when I get out there. What's next for Dave McCarter in the Common Man [01:03:00] OCR? Ohhhh. Central Florida, this weekend, all three races. Um, I'm hoping my, I've got some problems with my ankles, so I'm hoping my ankles will hold up.

I'm just gonna wrap the tornado until they do. Um, and then, I'm gonna drive with a friend of mine on the west side to... It's just outside of Sacramento the following weekend for a super in a sprint and then season 23 is is done Um what I would like to do and this is something you and I've talked about before is And you know guys comment below uh Is the possibility of looking into doing a common man OCR podcast, um, and if not that, then just expanding the common man OCR social media presence to where we're getting like updates from courses and things like that, um, because a lot of people don't see, they'll see the course map or they'll see the.

They'll see the the obstacle and [01:04:00] they'll freak out like I can't do that and if they see me jumping over a wall, you know Maybe that'll motivate them Um, but that's something that uh, that'll be a a fallible man common man joint venture Maybe possibly if I can talk him into it, uh to help me out there so I can do it the right way um But it's something we've, you and I have discussed, you know, uh, in part in passing.

Um, and, um, I would like to possibly get a team, common man to erase this next year. Um, so start a, a Spartan team called, you know, team, common Man, and just a bunch of average folks that go out there and just do it. Um, and, uh, just see where it goes. All right. Where's the best place for people to find you if they want to follow you?

Uh, Instagram, Facebook, Common Man OCR. Also on Twitter, Common Man OCR. Um, so I'll get the same, the same handle on all those platforms. Or you can go to commonmanocr. org and it'll lead you to the Facebook page. I didn't want to build a website out of it because it's like, that's just too much to update. [01:05:00] So just go to Facebook and get my updates there.

Okay, we'll have links below for all that guys, of course. Now I know the one thing you're all dying to know is what is the largest active volcano in the world? Yes. Can you guess? Mona... Mo... I can't... I'm not gonna say it right. Yeah, that one. The Hawaiian one. That one. And you're right. Congratulations. Yes.

Mahalo. You're right. Malo in Hawaii is the largest active volcano. Uh, the insanity that's happening in Iceland right now. I don't know if you're following my story, but that is the biggest active volcano in the world currently. So, um, you know, all you people in Hawaii, I, I, I've always marveled at the fact that you go such large volcanoes there and.

basically live on a volcano. Thank you.

If our listeners hear nothing else today, what is the one thing you want them to hear today? No matter what. No matter what. Mm-Hmm. try. [01:06:00] That's the thing. That's the biggest thing with finding your thing, having an abundant life, is try, try and then try again, and then try again. And don't give up until you find that thing that, that thing, that thing that motivates you.

Um, you can't find something to motivate you sitting on your butt at home watching Netflix, eating bomb bombon. You gotta try and you won't eat bombon anymore. I don't even know if those are, I don't even know if those are a thing anymore. It's a, I don't know if those exist. Yeah. But, um, but like, you know, you, you, you can't sit on your buddy, uh, watch Netflix and expect to get anywhere in life.

I mean, yeah, I like to watch Netflix and, you know, Paramount plus and all that too, but do that at the gym on the treadmill with earbuds in. You know, try if you're not happy with your health, try to do something about it. If you're not happy with your social, um, your social anxiety, try to do something about it.

If you're not happy with your finances, try to do something about it, you know, And as yoda [01:07:00] yoda would say from star wars, if you don't know the reference go look it up do it or not There is still try So guys problem man ocr and the foul man Thanks for hanging out with us today. Thanks for listening to the show.

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