7 Proven Truths for Men who Want to Results in their Life | Wisdom from the Movie Fight Club

1 00:00:00,180 --> 00:00:03,450 Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate. 2 00:00:03,450 --> 00:00:04,950 So we can buy bullshit we don't need. 3 00:00:05,340 --> 00:00:09,330 We are the middle children of history raised by television to believe that 4 00:00:09,330 --> 00:00:13,140 someday we'll be millionaires and movie stars and rock stars, but we won't. 5 00:00:14,730 --> 00:00:18,720 Did you ever catch the movie Fight Club with Brad Pitt and Edward Norton? 6 00:00:19,590 --> 00:00:20,970 If so, you may recognize that line. 7 00:00:20,970 --> 00:00:21,780 If not, don't worry. 8 00:00:21,780 --> 00:00:23,650 It's not a prerequisite for this episode. 9 00:00:24,645 --> 00:00:28,825 For some people, the idea that there is wisdom to be had in that movie 10 00:00:28,825 --> 00:00:31,225 may seem a little bit of a stretch. 11 00:00:32,155 --> 00:00:35,364 It was a really interesting movie and men tend to be drawn to it. 12 00:00:35,754 --> 00:00:38,605 And if you listen to the show, you know that I'm a total movie nerd. 13 00:00:38,605 --> 00:00:42,835 I love good movies, and I'm always looking to glean what I can from a movie. 14 00:00:43,165 --> 00:00:44,605 So let me be fully transparent. 15 00:00:44,695 --> 00:00:49,555 If you've not seen the movie Fight Club and you want to, there are spoilers ahead. 16 00:00:50,005 --> 00:00:52,105 You may wanna come back after you've seen the movie. 17 00:00:53,095 --> 00:00:57,475 I will not dig deep into the movie, so you don't have to have seen it. 18 00:00:58,135 --> 00:01:01,315 It's not a prerequisite to understand what we talked about, but I don't wanna 19 00:01:01,315 --> 00:01:04,345 ruin any plot points because like I said, I'm a movie nerd and that pisses 20 00:01:04,350 --> 00:01:05,965 me off when somebody does that to me. 21 00:01:06,505 --> 00:01:11,035 So spoilers ahead today, we're gonna dive into this, call it classic and 22 00:01:11,035 --> 00:01:16,045 pull out seven proven truths for men who want results in their lives. 23 00:01:16,045 --> 00:01:19,105 So let's roll that intro and we'll get into. 24 00:01:20,815 --> 00:01:22,405 Here's the million dollar question. 25 00:01:22,885 --> 00:01:26,545 How do men like us reach our full potential and grow into the men we 26 00:01:26,545 --> 00:01:30,465 dream of being while taking care of our responsibilities, working, 27 00:01:30,865 --> 00:01:35,365 being good husbands, fathers, and still take care of ourselves? 28 00:01:36,265 --> 00:01:39,565 That's the question in this podcast will help you with those answers. 29 00:01:39,565 --> 00:01:42,445 My name is Brent and welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 30 00:01:43,435 --> 00:01:44,905 Welcome to the Fallible Man Podcast. 31 00:01:44,905 --> 00:01:47,005 You are home for all things, man, husband, and father. 32 00:01:47,275 --> 00:01:48,805 A big shout out to the Fallible Nation. 33 00:01:48,805 --> 00:01:52,135 You guys make this possible and I just love you so much, and if you 34 00:01:52,135 --> 00:01:55,765 wanna join the Fallible Nation, it's really easy, but a big warm welcome 35 00:01:55,765 --> 00:01:57,175 to our first time listeners as well. 36 00:01:57,205 --> 00:02:00,175 I'm so glad that you've given us an opportunity and I hope 37 00:02:00,175 --> 00:02:01,405 you really enjoy the podcast. 38 00:02:01,410 --> 00:02:03,595 Please let us know my name is Brent. 39 00:02:03,625 --> 00:02:07,795 Today we're digging into the 99 Movie Fight Club with 40 00:02:07,795 --> 00:02:09,215 Brad Pit and Edward Norton. 41 00:02:09,729 --> 00:02:13,450 I'm not here to talk about the anti capitalist overtones cuz most of 42 00:02:13,450 --> 00:02:18,730 you know I don't have that feeling about capitalism and other shows 43 00:02:18,730 --> 00:02:20,020 have been tearing that apart. 44 00:02:20,710 --> 00:02:24,820 I'm not here to do any nonsense about women being to blame 45 00:02:24,820 --> 00:02:26,260 for the holes of men's lives. 46 00:02:26,740 --> 00:02:29,770 That's kind of stupid and that's not our view here at the Fallible Man. 47 00:02:30,340 --> 00:02:33,880 Writer, director David Finch, put together an interesting tale about 48 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:38,350 the modern man complete with rampant consumerism, discontentment and rage. 49 00:02:38,620 --> 00:02:40,720 But we're not here for any of that either. 50 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:46,270 I mean, that's, that just wouldn't be me For anyone who hasn't seen it. 51 00:02:46,330 --> 00:02:49,630 The movie follows the path of an unnamed narrator, which seems kind of 52 00:02:49,630 --> 00:02:55,150 odd, but the unnamed narrators played by Edward Norton, though through his 53 00:02:55,150 --> 00:02:56,980 meaningless consumer driven life. 54 00:02:57,910 --> 00:03:00,280 He has no real relationships. 55 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:01,480 He has a job he hates. 56 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:05,500 He doesn't meet his emotional needs and has no purpose. 57 00:03:06,070 --> 00:03:10,299 He buys things and he thinks it will fill in the holes and make him feel 58 00:03:10,299 --> 00:03:15,250 better and fix his life, but really it's just kind of the pointless loop. 59 00:03:15,670 --> 00:03:20,109 He's a massive insomniac and he goes to support group meetings that 60 00:03:20,109 --> 00:03:24,040 have nothing to do with what's going on in his life because apparently 61 00:03:24,045 --> 00:03:25,129 they make him feel something. 62 00:03:25,129 --> 00:03:28,349 Along the way, he meets a girl at the support group meetings 63 00:03:28,349 --> 00:03:32,249 cuz she does the same thing and life seems to be a little better. 64 00:03:33,029 --> 00:03:35,339 Then one day he meets Tyler Durden. 65 00:03:35,939 --> 00:03:38,579 Tyler Durden's character is played by Brad Pitt, who is the 66 00:03:38,579 --> 00:03:40,739 polar opposite of our narrator. 67 00:03:41,459 --> 00:03:45,449 He is a hyper-masculine personality and the Narrat narrator pulled into 68 00:03:45,449 --> 00:03:49,679 his strange and incredible world and together they start Fight Club 69 00:03:50,159 --> 00:03:51,749 and thus the movie gets his title. 70 00:03:51,779 --> 00:03:52,439 Title right. 71 00:03:53,504 --> 00:03:54,794 Movie goes on from there. 72 00:03:54,884 --> 00:03:58,934 Spoilers will come later so you can stick with me a little bit longer. 73 00:03:59,414 --> 00:04:03,164 So longer introduction, but I had to get us all on the same page because if you 74 00:04:03,169 --> 00:04:07,484 didn't understand the basis of the movie, it might be a little hard to follow this, 75 00:04:07,484 --> 00:04:08,774 and I don't wanna do that to you guys. 76 00:04:09,704 --> 00:04:11,984 So that's our starting point right now. 77 00:04:12,014 --> 00:04:15,794 You know the plot line in the movie, and like I said, if you haven't 78 00:04:15,794 --> 00:04:17,774 seen it, spoilers are coming. 79 00:04:17,864 --> 00:04:18,974 They're just not here yet. 80 00:04:19,724 --> 00:04:21,074 This is your chance to bell. 81 00:04:21,569 --> 00:04:24,509 But it is an interesting movie and men are really drawn to this. 82 00:04:24,509 --> 00:04:24,869 Actually. 83 00:04:24,869 --> 00:04:30,329 There's been kind of a revitalization of this movie among younger men, and 84 00:04:30,334 --> 00:04:34,949 so I thought it really deserved a few minutes of our time to dig into this 85 00:04:34,954 --> 00:04:37,679 crazy world that the director created. 86 00:04:38,129 --> 00:04:40,679 David Finch made this crazy world that started as a book 87 00:04:40,709 --> 00:04:41,969 and then turn into a movie. 88 00:04:42,749 --> 00:04:46,049 So you can check out the book if you're an avid reader, but what can 89 00:04:46,049 --> 00:04:49,439 we tos possibly take from a movie? 90 00:04:50,384 --> 00:04:52,304 This is about a bunch of guys beating each other up. 91 00:04:53,504 --> 00:04:57,074 Well, the first thing I really want you to take away from this movie 92 00:04:57,674 --> 00:05:01,094 is men thrive in a brotherhood. 93 00:05:01,844 --> 00:05:06,944 Now, it doesn't matter how you spin this movie, it doesn't matter if you agree with 94 00:05:06,944 --> 00:05:09,434 what they're doing throughout the movie. 95 00:05:09,434 --> 00:05:13,544 The narrator and Tyler start building this fight club and it grows, and it grows 96 00:05:13,544 --> 00:05:16,304 and it grows more and more men flock. 97 00:05:16,904 --> 00:05:20,054 To this savage, nightly fights and beatings. 98 00:05:20,834 --> 00:05:22,664 Why would we as men do that? 99 00:05:22,844 --> 00:05:24,794 What draw is there? 100 00:05:25,604 --> 00:05:27,674 And the simple answer is brotherhood. 101 00:05:28,484 --> 00:05:31,904 As more and more spaces that were once reserved for men together 102 00:05:31,904 --> 00:05:36,194 without the intrusion of kids or women disappear, men are struggling. 103 00:05:36,944 --> 00:05:41,234 Men instinctively seek brotherhood, alignment with other men. 104 00:05:41,804 --> 00:05:45,464 We also seek the company of other men who inspire us to connect. 105 00:05:45,914 --> 00:05:50,204 With to share struggles with and support each other as we fight 106 00:05:50,204 --> 00:05:54,524 through this life, more and more are safe havens of masculinity 107 00:05:54,524 --> 00:05:56,204 where we can talk and be who we are. 108 00:05:56,204 --> 00:06:00,074 Without intrusion, political correctness or interference is gone. 109 00:06:00,944 --> 00:06:04,994 We can't speak openly, are candidly, almost anywhere anymore. 110 00:06:05,864 --> 00:06:11,174 And so this really digs into this idea of brotherhood when 111 00:06:11,174 --> 00:06:12,854 this man who just does not. 112 00:06:14,714 --> 00:06:21,314 Connect with anybody, all of a sudden becomes part of a brotherhood. 113 00:06:21,314 --> 00:06:27,644 A group of men who are on the same path, who align in different ways, 114 00:06:27,794 --> 00:06:31,034 may not be political, it may not be all their beliefs, but they, they 115 00:06:31,039 --> 00:06:32,894 have this alignment and this goal. 116 00:06:33,644 --> 00:06:38,264 Now, you may wanna argue with me here that men still need the locker room. 117 00:06:38,699 --> 00:06:44,339 We need a place where we can speak deeply or crudely or stupidly without 118 00:06:44,339 --> 00:06:49,199 fear of judgment these days, or god forbid, legal repercussions these days. 119 00:06:49,919 --> 00:06:55,859 I mean, I saw a post on Instagram and it was that post where the woman's you've 120 00:06:55,859 --> 00:06:59,219 all seen is that stupid meme where the woman's laying in bed going, I wonder 121 00:06:59,219 --> 00:07:00,179 if he's thinking about other women. 122 00:07:00,179 --> 00:07:03,239 He's laying on the other side of the bed thinking about something stupid, 123 00:07:03,989 --> 00:07:05,999 and it was supposed to by a woman. 124 00:07:06,899 --> 00:07:09,269 And she said, I asked my boyfriend the other day cuz he was looked 125 00:07:09,269 --> 00:07:11,249 off in the distance, like, What are you thinking about? 126 00:07:12,749 --> 00:07:16,079 And he said, How do they know how to make the thickness of the rubber on 127 00:07:16,079 --> 00:07:17,759 the tires and get them onto the tire? 128 00:07:19,349 --> 00:07:24,029 And she said, Women stop worrying about these things because 95% of the time, 129 00:07:24,119 --> 00:07:26,609 if you ask your man, this is the kind of stupid things they're thinking about. 130 00:07:26,609 --> 00:07:27,509 And it's true. 131 00:07:27,809 --> 00:07:28,709 And it's not stupid. 132 00:07:28,949 --> 00:07:30,389 Men like to ponder. 133 00:07:30,794 --> 00:07:34,274 Why things happen, what causes things, how it happens. 134 00:07:34,544 --> 00:07:36,224 Our brains are just wired that way. 135 00:07:36,914 --> 00:07:40,664 We need places where we can connect with other men and we 136 00:07:40,664 --> 00:07:42,164 can think about stupid things. 137 00:07:42,464 --> 00:07:46,154 Can raccoons swim during a flood, in a hurricane? 138 00:07:47,054 --> 00:07:47,834 I don't know. 139 00:07:48,254 --> 00:07:49,544 Cross my mind a time or two. 140 00:07:50,804 --> 00:07:56,204 So we need those spaces and you'll have to look really hard to find them these 141 00:07:56,204 --> 00:07:59,444 days as the way society has shifted. 142 00:07:59,804 --> 00:08:02,534 There are less and less spaces that are just for men. 143 00:08:03,914 --> 00:08:09,404 Now, you're gonna have to dig, but you need to find a place to have brotherhood. 144 00:08:09,409 --> 00:08:12,194 And for you that may be it's, you just do studio for you. 145 00:08:13,184 --> 00:08:15,974 I'd say that's Boy Scout could be Boy Scouts, but Right. 146 00:08:15,974 --> 00:08:19,634 Boy Scouts now have, can have women in it, right? 147 00:08:19,754 --> 00:08:22,814 We have less and less spaces, so you're gonna have to look hard. 148 00:08:23,894 --> 00:08:28,334 There may be online groups, but you need to find something more localized so you 149 00:08:28,334 --> 00:08:30,404 can physically connect with other men. 150 00:08:31,514 --> 00:08:38,054 Find a space for, find a space with men who can be your brothers, men who 151 00:08:38,104 --> 00:08:43,034 you can line with, men who you can commiserate with, men who can inspire 152 00:08:43,034 --> 00:08:47,954 you and encourage you, and that you can have their back men who will 153 00:08:47,954 --> 00:08:49,844 come alongside you in your journey. 154 00:08:50,204 --> 00:08:51,904 And if you wanna thrive as a man. 155 00:08:52,649 --> 00:08:56,339 This is something that you're gonna have to find and this is something 156 00:08:56,339 --> 00:08:58,199 we can learn from Fight Club. 157 00:08:58,709 --> 00:09:02,489 If you wanna thrive as a man, you need to seek brotherhood. 158 00:09:03,479 --> 00:09:04,319 Number two, guys. 159 00:09:04,649 --> 00:09:06,059 Men need a physical outlet. 160 00:09:07,109 --> 00:09:12,359 So Fight Club is a title, should be a parent. 161 00:09:13,889 --> 00:09:16,829 But if you missed a somehow in the introduction, they start an underground 162 00:09:16,829 --> 00:09:18,959 Bear Knuckles, no Hold Bar, Fight Club. 163 00:09:20,369 --> 00:09:24,899 Members fighting monoi mono until one of them submits or loses consciousness. 164 00:09:24,929 --> 00:09:25,979 It's part of the rules. 165 00:09:26,909 --> 00:09:31,139 It goes as long as it has to, but that's, you can either tap out 166 00:09:31,139 --> 00:09:35,039 basically and submit, or you can lose consciousness and the fight stops. 167 00:09:35,909 --> 00:09:38,729 But these guys beat the living daylights out of each other. 168 00:09:38,729 --> 00:09:39,209 I mean, the. 169 00:09:40,154 --> 00:09:43,184 The guys in the club throughout the movie, they do a great job of showing how, 170 00:09:43,274 --> 00:09:45,434 how beat up they look in everyday life. 171 00:09:45,884 --> 00:09:49,124 Cuz it shows them throughout their day with all these bruises 172 00:09:49,129 --> 00:09:50,534 and bandages and stuff like that. 173 00:09:51,344 --> 00:09:55,634 Now you may not need a place where you literally beat the hell out 174 00:09:55,634 --> 00:09:57,614 of other men or, or maybe you do. 175 00:09:58,304 --> 00:10:01,064 I laugh when I hear men who don't understand the appeal 176 00:10:01,064 --> 00:10:02,294 of that part of Fight Club. 177 00:10:03,104 --> 00:10:06,404 A bunch of men beating each other, senseless for some 178 00:10:06,404 --> 00:10:08,444 men just seems terrifying. 179 00:10:08,444 --> 00:10:08,924 Our sense. 180 00:10:10,184 --> 00:10:13,574 I get it because my brother and I grew up that way. 181 00:10:13,634 --> 00:10:15,524 We smart daily after high school. 182 00:10:15,614 --> 00:10:18,494 Now, to be clear, that evolved scars and broken bones. 183 00:10:18,499 --> 00:10:20,024 We weren't playing patty cake. 184 00:10:20,444 --> 00:10:24,374 We had bouts that included baseball bats, Swords, Yes. 185 00:10:24,434 --> 00:10:26,984 Real swords, knives and more. 186 00:10:27,224 --> 00:10:30,204 Bear knuckles was just usually the start of the session and 187 00:10:30,209 --> 00:10:31,604 it expanded very quickly from. 188 00:10:32,774 --> 00:10:35,024 That was years before Fight Club came out. 189 00:10:35,024 --> 00:10:39,314 That was before as MMA was getting started, like that was a new idea to us. 190 00:10:39,974 --> 00:10:40,814 So I get it. 191 00:10:41,324 --> 00:10:41,984 Let me be clear. 192 00:10:41,984 --> 00:10:46,904 It was a bad idea what we were doing, , any of my younger listeners, 193 00:10:46,934 --> 00:10:49,724 it was a bad idea what we were doing. 194 00:10:50,024 --> 00:10:52,544 We're probably lucky we didn't kill each other in this. 195 00:10:53,024 --> 00:10:54,074 Probably not what you should do. 196 00:10:55,094 --> 00:10:55,724 Just say. 197 00:10:56,594 --> 00:10:58,664 However, there are options now, right? 198 00:10:58,664 --> 00:11:00,554 Jujitsu clubs are growing and spreading. 199 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:04,784 Now, there are other martial arts out there, but not quite 200 00:11:04,784 --> 00:11:08,564 as effective as jujitsu are. 201 00:11:08,804 --> 00:11:09,434 MMA training. 202 00:11:09,974 --> 00:11:10,304 Why? 203 00:11:10,309 --> 00:11:16,444 Because sparring is a core component of those practices, so they're 204 00:11:16,784 --> 00:11:18,874 actually a little more effective than some of the other martial arts, 205 00:11:18,874 --> 00:11:20,764 like TaeKwonDo and stuff like that. 206 00:11:21,664 --> 00:11:26,715 So if you need that physical competition, then look into one of those. 207 00:11:28,125 --> 00:11:31,395 If you don't need the physical comp competition, but you need that 208 00:11:31,395 --> 00:11:34,195 physicality, go get in the gym. 209 00:11:34,219 --> 00:11:37,004 There are all kinds of variations on the gym these days. 210 00:11:37,364 --> 00:11:41,684 You could be into strong man, like I like strong man stuff. 211 00:11:41,684 --> 00:11:42,524 Our power lifting. 212 00:11:42,524 --> 00:11:44,144 You can be a body builder. 213 00:11:44,144 --> 00:11:44,924 You could. 214 00:11:45,389 --> 00:11:47,039 Do CrossFit, right? 215 00:11:47,309 --> 00:11:48,389 Not hating on CrossFit. 216 00:11:48,389 --> 00:11:53,549 Here at Le, at the very least, take up some kind of physical exertion. 217 00:11:54,059 --> 00:11:57,299 Take up climbing, go mountain biking, play sports in the park, 218 00:11:57,329 --> 00:12:00,329 Do obstacle course events like Spartan and Tough Motor like I do. 219 00:12:01,139 --> 00:12:03,359 That's actually why I started doing OCRs. 220 00:12:03,629 --> 00:12:07,049 Working at a desk was suffocating me mentally and emotionally, 221 00:12:07,049 --> 00:12:09,209 and I needed a physical escape. 222 00:12:09,209 --> 00:12:12,479 I needed to get physical again, and I've loved it ever since. 223 00:12:13,574 --> 00:12:18,644 Men are revitalized when we let loose the physical part of our makeup, and 224 00:12:18,644 --> 00:12:21,014 it makes you stronger in every way. 225 00:12:22,094 --> 00:12:26,174 If you wanna thrive and get results as a man, then you need to get physical and get 226 00:12:26,174 --> 00:12:27,704 that physical outlet coin in your life. 227 00:12:27,734 --> 00:12:32,327 I promise you, as you get physical and you scale it. 228 00:12:32,357 --> 00:12:32,717 Okay. 229 00:12:32,717 --> 00:12:37,967 If you are a seasoned couch potato and desk jockey, scale it. 230 00:12:38,747 --> 00:12:39,107 Yeah. 231 00:12:39,107 --> 00:12:40,487 At first it will be hard. 232 00:12:40,832 --> 00:12:43,202 I'm not saying to go hit the gym five days a week. 233 00:12:43,232 --> 00:12:47,852 If you are 200 pounds overweight and you've, the most workout you've done 234 00:12:47,852 --> 00:12:53,312 is to lift a beer to your lips in the last six years, start getting physical. 235 00:12:53,312 --> 00:12:57,092 And as you build that physicality, you will feel better mentally, 236 00:12:57,272 --> 00:13:00,992 emotionally, you will be more clear and it'll get easier and easier. 237 00:13:01,442 --> 00:13:04,472 And guys, it is incredibly critical for you. 238 00:13:04,472 --> 00:13:06,782 Just start getting physical in your life, I promise you. 239 00:13:07,862 --> 00:13:08,882 Number three. 240 00:13:11,007 --> 00:13:12,677 Suppressing yourself is unhealthy. 241 00:13:13,907 --> 00:13:14,777 Fair warning. 242 00:13:15,257 --> 00:13:16,757 Last chance to bail. 243 00:13:17,027 --> 00:13:17,867 Spoilers. 244 00:13:17,927 --> 00:13:19,307 Start here. 245 00:13:19,817 --> 00:13:23,957 So if you're still with me and you're still undecided, spoilers, start here. 246 00:13:24,077 --> 00:13:24,797 You've been warned. 247 00:13:24,857 --> 00:13:25,577 Last chance. 248 00:13:26,687 --> 00:13:31,127 When the story starts, we find our narrator living a Monday life, which he 249 00:13:31,127 --> 00:13:33,527 finds no joy, hope, pleasure, our meaning. 250 00:13:34,607 --> 00:13:37,697 He's just going through life wishing he had the courage to do more. 251 00:13:38,822 --> 00:13:42,932 Wishing to live bigger and to escape the conformity that dominated his life. 252 00:13:44,042 --> 00:13:49,232 Everything is the same day in and day out, and he lives for the weekend, which 253 00:13:49,232 --> 00:13:51,212 he still doesn't actually do anything. 254 00:13:51,902 --> 00:13:57,392 He can't sleep, which is really common with guys who aren't living 255 00:13:57,512 --> 00:14:01,082 a purposeful life and guys who are just going through the motions. 256 00:14:01,592 --> 00:14:03,212 He's a massive insomnia. 257 00:14:04,472 --> 00:14:06,752 And he can't seem to live the matrix of his life. 258 00:14:06,962 --> 00:14:09,362 Now I am saying Matrix looks in. 259 00:14:09,362 --> 00:14:10,592 Yeah, right. 260 00:14:10,802 --> 00:14:11,972 That's what they did in the Matrix. 261 00:14:11,972 --> 00:14:14,042 They just kinda lived a cycle constantly. 262 00:14:15,002 --> 00:14:17,702 Then he meets Tyler Durden last chance. 263 00:14:17,792 --> 00:14:18,482 Here we go. 264 00:14:19,112 --> 00:14:21,362 Tyler is the man he wants to be. 265 00:14:22,382 --> 00:14:23,462 He can't believe it. 266 00:14:23,852 --> 00:14:26,792 Tyler's like a messiah of manhood for him. 267 00:14:26,792 --> 00:14:31,532 He's an alpha male, hate that term, who lives large and loud and without re. 268 00:14:32,492 --> 00:14:39,122 The only problem in this case is he is Tyler Durden professionals would call 269 00:14:39,122 --> 00:14:43,232 this dissociative identity disorder or multiple personality disorder. 270 00:14:43,982 --> 00:14:49,652 His is more complex because not only is he both people, he actually interacts 271 00:14:49,657 --> 00:14:54,992 between the two, like he both people at the same time, which is not common 272 00:14:54,997 --> 00:14:56,642 with dissociative identity disorder. 273 00:14:57,812 --> 00:14:58,832 He is both people. 274 00:14:59,687 --> 00:15:02,867 Interacting, seeing the other person, like he literally sees 275 00:15:02,867 --> 00:15:07,157 Tyler Durden in front of him and is talking to him like he's right there. 276 00:15:07,847 --> 00:15:09,287 But he's both people. 277 00:15:10,457 --> 00:15:10,757 Now. 278 00:15:10,757 --> 00:15:13,187 Experts agree that this usually comes from two places. 279 00:15:13,577 --> 00:15:16,457 Usually this is massive trauma at some point in someone's life, 280 00:15:17,027 --> 00:15:19,847 or prolonged suppression of certain feelings and desires. 281 00:15:20,627 --> 00:15:24,347 And it's far more complicated of an issue than my simple explanation. 282 00:15:24,347 --> 00:15:25,557 Can do any justice of guys. 283 00:15:25,907 --> 00:15:27,517 It's not like I. 284 00:15:28,142 --> 00:15:29,931 A psychiatrist or a specialist. 285 00:15:29,931 --> 00:15:35,421 I just try to do my research well, but for my limited understanding, that's correct. 286 00:15:35,751 --> 00:15:38,121 Now, if you wanna get into that brain stuff, go to Dr. 287 00:15:38,121 --> 00:15:38,871 Do Dr. 288 00:15:38,871 --> 00:15:39,721 Hines channel. 289 00:15:39,721 --> 00:15:40,530 You've met Dr. 290 00:15:40,530 --> 00:15:43,590 Heim on the show before, and if you haven't, Dr. 291 00:15:43,590 --> 00:15:48,630 Heim is a very accomplished psychiatrist from Australia. 292 00:15:48,635 --> 00:15:50,430 I've had him on the show several times and he is worked 293 00:15:50,430 --> 00:15:51,660 with us on the Phoenix before. 294 00:15:52,230 --> 00:15:56,130 Check out him, he can give you these actual like scientific professional. 295 00:15:56,655 --> 00:15:59,055 I can't do that, but this is how I understand it. 296 00:15:59,835 --> 00:16:02,235 And so that's what we're working off of today. 297 00:16:03,285 --> 00:16:06,285 Are you gonna develop dissociative ID disorder? 298 00:16:06,285 --> 00:16:08,205 Because you don't gu your feelings? 299 00:16:08,715 --> 00:16:09,435 No. 300 00:16:11,055 --> 00:16:11,655 No. 301 00:16:12,645 --> 00:16:17,115 While you may not ever suffer the issue to that extent, by suppressing 302 00:16:17,115 --> 00:16:22,335 your emotions and your feelings and your thoughts suppressing your. 303 00:16:23,340 --> 00:16:26,850 Emotions, feelings and thoughts can be incredibly unhi, unhealthy. 304 00:16:27,360 --> 00:16:31,140 There are issues like loss of confidence, ed, depression. 305 00:16:31,145 --> 00:16:31,410 Yes. 306 00:16:31,410 --> 00:16:32,640 Ed is associated with that. 307 00:16:33,090 --> 00:16:36,270 Compensation issues, addiction, displacement of 308 00:16:36,270 --> 00:16:37,890 feelings, and so much more. 309 00:16:37,890 --> 00:16:40,920 All these complicated brain things, like I said, go to my friend Dr. 310 00:16:41,100 --> 00:16:43,530 Hs channel, He can get into all that with you. 311 00:16:43,530 --> 00:16:47,250 I can't, Can you imagine though, if the story. 312 00:16:49,350 --> 00:16:52,650 Would it progressed the same if the narrator had a couple good friends, 313 00:16:52,740 --> 00:16:55,740 you know, brotherhood who he could talk to and commiserate with. 314 00:16:56,730 --> 00:17:06,210 If you wanna thrive as a man, then guys, you, you need to learn the process and 315 00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:10,950 find healthy ways to handle your emotions and your feelings and your thoughts. 316 00:17:11,400 --> 00:17:15,300 You can't suppress them to thrive and get results as a man. 317 00:17:15,750 --> 00:17:17,230 That's just not how it works. 318 00:17:19,245 --> 00:17:20,085 Number four. 319 00:17:21,075 --> 00:17:24,765 We all have a desire for something meaningful in our lives. 320 00:17:25,695 --> 00:17:29,985 Number four, guys, we all have a desire for something meaningful in our lives. 321 00:17:30,975 --> 00:17:37,755 Now, this one should be fairly obvious, I would think, but you 322 00:17:37,755 --> 00:17:41,895 have to look at the narrator and kind of read between the lines. 323 00:17:43,125 --> 00:17:45,435 If you read between the lines in the movie, you can see that 324 00:17:45,435 --> 00:17:47,355 something is missing in his life. 325 00:17:48,195 --> 00:17:50,205 He keeps trying to fill the void with stuff. 326 00:17:50,595 --> 00:17:54,045 In fact, the movie goes into some detail and so does the book about 327 00:17:54,915 --> 00:17:58,665 just this meaningless consumer driven life where he just keeps trying to buy 328 00:17:58,670 --> 00:18:03,795 things and furniture that fit him and define him and, and fill those gaps. 329 00:18:03,795 --> 00:18:07,905 He doesn't even know really what he's feeling, but it's not working. 330 00:18:09,090 --> 00:18:12,990 What we do see, as I noted before, is a lack of meaningful connections 331 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:14,850 throughout the whole setup of the film. 332 00:18:15,090 --> 00:18:18,270 You don't actually see him interact meaningfully with anybody. 333 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:22,560 No women, no men, no kids, no. 334 00:18:23,070 --> 00:18:24,960 His work connections are bad. 335 00:18:25,530 --> 00:18:28,320 He doesn't have a place where he has purpose and where 336 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:31,680 he fits and left him empty. 337 00:18:32,910 --> 00:18:34,380 Along comes Tyler Durden. 338 00:18:35,130 --> 00:18:36,420 What is selling sounds good. 339 00:18:36,420 --> 00:18:37,560 When you've got nothing, right? 340 00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:39,987 When you're just going through the motions and you have no purpose, 341 00:18:39,987 --> 00:18:45,747 you have no direction, you have no meaning, you have no connections. 342 00:18:46,797 --> 00:18:49,133 Snake Coyle, salesman come along and you're just like, 343 00:18:49,133 --> 00:18:50,453 Hey, that sounds great, right? 344 00:18:50,453 --> 00:18:51,833 It's gotta be better than this. 345 00:18:52,943 --> 00:18:59,103 I interviewed an author a while back named Nate Rifkin, and 346 00:18:59,103 --> 00:19:00,565 it's funny to me because I see. 347 00:19:01,275 --> 00:19:02,085 That story. 348 00:19:02,085 --> 00:19:06,225 Thinking back onto that interview, and if you didn't see that interview, check 349 00:19:06,225 --> 00:19:07,395 out my interview with Nate Rifkin. 350 00:19:07,455 --> 00:19:08,145 It was great. 351 00:19:08,145 --> 00:19:14,505 He wrote an incredible book called The Standing Meditation, and I won't 352 00:19:14,505 --> 00:19:18,525 go back into that, but it, I see the parallels because Nate was going 353 00:19:18,525 --> 00:19:23,475 through the motions too and got suckered into some bad choices because of it. 354 00:19:23,865 --> 00:19:27,485 Guys, that's what happens when you don't have purpose. 355 00:19:28,305 --> 00:19:32,715 When you don't have meaning, when you don't have something driving you, 356 00:19:33,425 --> 00:19:36,495 when you don't have those meaningful connections, when you don't have 357 00:19:36,495 --> 00:19:42,135 that, it's really easy to get sucked up in bad choices and bad decisions. 358 00:19:42,765 --> 00:19:47,205 I'm actually quite convinced a lot of young men make bad choices because they 359 00:19:47,205 --> 00:19:49,035 don't see the purpose of their life. 360 00:19:49,065 --> 00:19:52,065 They don't see the ideas, they don't see the meaning behind it or 361 00:19:52,065 --> 00:19:54,615 why they should do this or do that. 362 00:19:55,845 --> 00:19:58,755 I'm convinced that a lot of young men make those bad choices 363 00:19:59,745 --> 00:20:01,045 because there's just nothing. 364 00:20:01,051 --> 00:20:05,041 They don't get it because there's nothing for them to get apparently. 365 00:20:06,241 --> 00:20:08,521 Well, I don't agree with that. 366 00:20:09,781 --> 00:20:15,571 And while we're on that, let's talk about today's sponsor, which is me. 367 00:20:15,661 --> 00:20:17,101 Hey guys. 368 00:20:17,281 --> 00:20:20,401 The Phoenix Conference is coming up in February, and this is exactly 369 00:20:20,401 --> 00:20:21,151 what we're gonna talk about. 370 00:20:21,211 --> 00:20:22,981 I believe This is so important. 371 00:20:23,476 --> 00:20:26,146 This is the focus of the next Phoenix Conference. 372 00:20:26,626 --> 00:20:30,046 Back to the first Phoenix Conference, we talked about the importance 373 00:20:30,226 --> 00:20:33,996 of being a father figure role, model, a mentor, even if you're not 374 00:20:34,026 --> 00:20:35,526 necessarily physically a dad, right? 375 00:20:35,886 --> 00:20:38,826 There are a lot of coaches, youth ministers, teachers out 376 00:20:38,826 --> 00:20:42,276 there who are filling that role, and so we focused in on that. 377 00:20:42,276 --> 00:20:46,566 But on this time, I really wanna focus in on purpose because I believe 378 00:20:46,566 --> 00:20:48,906 every person is built with a purpose. 379 00:20:49,896 --> 00:20:52,806 Now the Phoenix Conference is coming up February 10th and 11th, and 380 00:20:52,806 --> 00:20:55,686 we do this both live and virtual. 381 00:20:56,556 --> 00:21:02,856 And tickets are available right now at www.foulman.com/the Phoenix. 382 00:21:03,366 --> 00:21:06,696 The early bird pricing, guys, and you can see if you're listening, 383 00:21:07,036 --> 00:21:09,336 I'm looking at a graphic right now. 384 00:21:09,666 --> 00:21:12,687 It's got Jim Fuller, Oliver, Marcelle, and Dai Manuel. 385 00:21:12,707 --> 00:21:15,191 , and I'm actually working on the next speakers for the event. 386 00:21:16,021 --> 00:21:19,621 We throw a pretty good event if I say so myself, guys are still 387 00:21:19,621 --> 00:21:22,981 talking about the last event and our virtual event is awesome too. 388 00:21:22,981 --> 00:21:23,821 Now I understand. 389 00:21:23,821 --> 00:21:27,991 If you don't live in central Washington, coming physically to the 390 00:21:27,991 --> 00:21:30,181 in-person event could be daunting. 391 00:21:30,186 --> 00:21:31,051 Our impossible. 392 00:21:31,111 --> 00:21:31,561 I get it. 393 00:21:32,671 --> 00:21:34,441 But our virtual event is pretty good too. 394 00:21:34,441 --> 00:21:35,761 We stream all the speakers. 395 00:21:35,761 --> 00:21:40,711 We also have breakout sessions on Zoom, and the breakout sessions 396 00:21:40,711 --> 00:21:41,941 are hosted by our speakers. 397 00:21:41,941 --> 00:21:43,111 You get to connect with them. 398 00:21:43,651 --> 00:21:47,341 And be a part of this conference, guys, so we have a great package for you there. 399 00:21:47,941 --> 00:21:49,981 And guys, I can't encourage you enough. 400 00:21:50,751 --> 00:21:52,951 Purpose is so important in your life. 401 00:21:53,731 --> 00:21:58,081 You have a tails, you have a purpose, you have a larger purpose, and 402 00:21:58,081 --> 00:21:59,521 you have smaller purposes in that. 403 00:22:00,571 --> 00:22:04,921 And yours may be different than mine, and that's okay, but we want to help you 404 00:22:05,011 --> 00:22:08,401 find your way into that purpose because you will live a more fulfilled life. 405 00:22:09,226 --> 00:22:13,066 You'll be happier, you will thrive better, and you'll get better results 406 00:22:13,066 --> 00:22:17,476 in your life as you grow when you know what that purpose is and when you 407 00:22:17,476 --> 00:22:19,816 actually actively seek that purpose. 408 00:22:20,986 --> 00:22:25,906 So let me ask you, we've talked about three, four 409 00:22:25,906 --> 00:22:27,076 truths already from Fight Club. 410 00:22:28,166 --> 00:22:30,076 Have any of them surprised you? 411 00:22:31,036 --> 00:22:31,756 Let us know. 412 00:22:31,756 --> 00:22:34,246 You can DM me on one of my social media accounts. 413 00:22:34,246 --> 00:22:37,546 I'm at the Fallible man everywhere except for Facebook where I'm at. 414 00:22:37,546 --> 00:22:41,446 Fallible man, because I just didn't know anything about Facebook when I set it up. 415 00:22:42,166 --> 00:22:45,856 So you can message me there and tell me, did any of these surprise you? 416 00:22:47,446 --> 00:22:50,786 Now as we roll into this, the next part of the show, guys, we're gonna go through 417 00:22:50,815 --> 00:22:53,695 Three more that I want to get into with. 418 00:22:54,445 --> 00:23:00,145 So we're talking about seven proven truths for men who won't results in their life. 419 00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:03,627 We're pulling wisdom from the oddest of places. 420 00:23:04,167 --> 00:23:06,447 We're pulling wisdom from the movie Fight Club. 421 00:23:06,447 --> 00:23:08,727 And if you haven't seen the movie Fight Club and you're just now 422 00:23:08,732 --> 00:23:12,537 getting on with this, spoilers have started and there are spoilers ahead. 423 00:23:12,807 --> 00:23:16,947 So if you wanna watch the movie, Go watch the movie, come back 424 00:23:16,947 --> 00:23:18,207 and turn the podcast back on. 425 00:23:18,627 --> 00:23:20,187 I want you to finish the podcast. 426 00:23:20,187 --> 00:23:20,607 Guys. 427 00:23:20,787 --> 00:23:24,687 I really think these are important things and they will help you to get 428 00:23:24,687 --> 00:23:28,437 the results you want and to thrive as a man because I think we can learn from 429 00:23:28,437 --> 00:23:32,607 anything, but there are spoilers, so you can check out there and do that. 430 00:23:33,127 --> 00:23:38,217 Otherwise, we're gonna keep rolling into what I think are some really important 431 00:23:38,222 --> 00:23:41,367 things, and as we go through this, guys. 432 00:23:42,402 --> 00:23:47,652 Just remember, if you have some thoughts, hey, it's really hard on podcast platforms 433 00:23:47,652 --> 00:23:51,762 to reach podcasters, but I have a live show on Monday nights specifically 434 00:23:51,762 --> 00:23:54,702 because I like to interact with my audience and I like to hear from you guys. 435 00:23:54,702 --> 00:23:59,712 I also am reachable on social media, so let me know if you 436 00:23:59,712 --> 00:24:00,732 have any thoughts on the show. 437 00:24:00,762 --> 00:24:01,632 Do you agree? 438 00:24:01,632 --> 00:24:02,802 Did I miss anything? 439 00:24:03,402 --> 00:24:04,722 Did any of these surprise you? 440 00:24:04,992 --> 00:24:06,612 Message me, let me know. 441 00:24:06,689 --> 00:24:07,979 Cuz I want your thoughts on this. 442 00:24:07,979 --> 00:24:10,649 That's the only thing I don't like about being a podcaster. 443 00:24:11,129 --> 00:24:14,459 It's just not a great platform for interacting with your audience. 444 00:24:14,459 --> 00:24:16,469 And you guys are why I do this. 445 00:24:17,669 --> 00:24:21,329 So let's move on to our next point. 446 00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:22,559 Number five, guys. 447 00:24:23,069 --> 00:24:26,279 Number five is two dogs. 448 00:24:26,519 --> 00:24:27,599 One wrong proverb. 449 00:24:28,889 --> 00:24:33,669 Now you've even probably heard me talk about the old. 450 00:24:34,289 --> 00:24:38,099 Native American proverb about two dogs inside every man. 451 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:42,449 I know I've talked about it before, but maybe you're a new listener, 452 00:24:42,449 --> 00:24:44,639 so you haven't talked to me about it, but I wanted to share a new 453 00:24:44,639 --> 00:24:48,599 thought with you that I had about this in looking at the movie Fight 454 00:24:48,604 --> 00:24:50,189 Club and what's going on there. 455 00:24:50,879 --> 00:24:55,919 This movie illustrates how one side that's not fed can still rear 456 00:24:55,919 --> 00:25:00,419 its ugly head because it's fed by the slice and pains perceived or. 457 00:25:02,414 --> 00:25:06,704 Tyler and the narrator are two sides of the same coin, and much like the movie 458 00:25:06,704 --> 00:25:12,794 version of Jean Gray and the Phoenix one is control, balance, logic, conformity. 459 00:25:12,794 --> 00:25:18,374 The other is a creature of raw passion, creativity, emotion, and desire. 460 00:25:19,244 --> 00:25:21,944 It, it's like, uh, you know, a three year old. 461 00:25:22,424 --> 00:25:23,834 It's, it's just how it is. 462 00:25:25,514 --> 00:25:29,144 You exist just like the narrator did as both sides. 463 00:25:29,639 --> 00:25:34,709 And if you nurture one side and ignore it or suppress it, the other 464 00:25:35,639 --> 00:25:37,659 is just chaos waiting to erupt. 465 00:25:37,664 --> 00:25:40,626 That's what we're heard with this whole idea of, everybody has two 466 00:25:40,626 --> 00:25:42,336 dogs, whichever one you feed. 467 00:25:42,876 --> 00:25:45,966 I don't, I don't, I used to think that was a good idea, but I really 468 00:25:46,506 --> 00:25:51,696 think that old proverb missed it a bit because if you ignore one side 469 00:25:51,696 --> 00:25:53,526 entirely, you get what happened. 470 00:25:54,591 --> 00:25:59,181 Like Patrick Bateman in American Psycho, who can look all calm and 471 00:25:59,181 --> 00:26:02,751 together on the outside, but there's darkness right there just waiting. 472 00:26:02,756 --> 00:26:04,581 And eventually it just breaks through. 473 00:26:05,691 --> 00:26:08,421 If you ignore that other side, it doesn't go away. 474 00:26:09,291 --> 00:26:13,041 It doesn't stop being, and it actually can grow and get stronger too. 475 00:26:13,461 --> 00:26:15,111 So that too many movie references. 476 00:26:16,131 --> 00:26:18,868 Xmen American Psycho Fight Club too. 477 00:26:18,868 --> 00:26:21,088 No, is not because I love movie. 478 00:26:22,063 --> 00:26:25,453 How about one more because this is not a new subject. 479 00:26:26,233 --> 00:26:32,413 Robert Lewis Stevenson addressed this back in 1886 in the strange case of Dr. 480 00:26:32,413 --> 00:26:33,103 Jacko and Mr. 481 00:26:33,103 --> 00:26:33,433 Hyde. 482 00:26:35,383 --> 00:26:40,363 Now, in that one, there was a lab accident that kind of stimulated the 483 00:26:40,363 --> 00:26:44,893 release, just like in the movie X-Men two. 484 00:26:45,793 --> 00:26:49,963 Xmen three where Gene Gray turns into the dark phoenix or whatever. 485 00:26:50,533 --> 00:26:53,965 Gotta go back in the movies, Not the newer movies with Sophie 486 00:26:53,965 --> 00:26:59,365 Turner, but if you go back, right, Robert Lewis Stevenson saw this. 487 00:26:59,725 --> 00:27:07,195 There are good and bad to every person, and if you neglect one side entirely, 488 00:27:07,795 --> 00:27:09,835 it can come out in a really violent way. 489 00:27:10,555 --> 00:27:13,795 Now my humble research, I've not found a single case where 490 00:27:13,795 --> 00:27:15,655 this turns out good for anyone. 491 00:27:17,515 --> 00:27:19,915 There was a deep struggle in my life for a long time. 492 00:27:19,945 --> 00:27:22,225 How do I square with the darker side of myself and still 493 00:27:22,225 --> 00:27:23,815 be the person I want to be? 494 00:27:24,295 --> 00:27:25,855 So let me propose this idea. 495 00:27:26,845 --> 00:27:30,145 You don't need to feed one or the other. 496 00:27:30,177 --> 00:27:32,127 It's not a this or that. 497 00:27:33,327 --> 00:27:37,647 You harness them in tandem, like sled dogs or pulling horses. 498 00:27:38,427 --> 00:27:41,427 Let their combine strength work in your favor. 499 00:27:42,627 --> 00:27:45,567 It will require discipline and restrain at times, but you're a 500 00:27:45,567 --> 00:27:47,517 grown man, so you can do that, right? 501 00:27:48,807 --> 00:27:53,997 What if you put the harness on your whole self and bring all your 502 00:27:53,997 --> 00:27:56,157 strengths and weaknesses to bear? 503 00:27:57,057 --> 00:28:00,537 At the end of the movie, Tyler and the narrator get into a fight 504 00:28:01,527 --> 00:28:04,527 that's really hard to follow when you're watching the movie. 505 00:28:04,977 --> 00:28:07,377 Once, you know, the little twist at the end of the movie 506 00:28:07,377 --> 00:28:08,497 that they're the same person. 507 00:28:08,523 --> 00:28:12,963 So , that's, that's very interesting to actually witness and try and process. 508 00:28:13,503 --> 00:28:18,513 But the narrator puts Tyler down, but at the end of the movie, he stands alone and 509 00:28:18,513 --> 00:28:20,703 he watches his master plan come together. 510 00:28:21,033 --> 00:28:24,993 And there's a lot of fan theories as to what that means exactly. 511 00:28:25,953 --> 00:28:29,223 Many seem to think that it symbolizes the unity of the two parts coming together. 512 00:28:29,913 --> 00:28:31,953 Together into one awake individual. 513 00:28:32,733 --> 00:28:35,943 Well, what if the narrator hadn't tried to suppress himself emotionally and mentally? 514 00:28:36,633 --> 00:28:39,933 What if he had just met in the middle and let each side use his 515 00:28:39,938 --> 00:28:45,693 strengths and let each, and let the other side intercede on things that 516 00:28:46,083 --> 00:28:47,362 he shouldn't necessarily act on? 517 00:28:47,428 --> 00:28:48,328 Impulse control. 518 00:28:50,068 --> 00:28:53,098 We wouldn't have a movie to talk about, so I guess it would suck if that's how 519 00:28:53,103 --> 00:28:56,368 it had worked out, because there wouldn't have been this great movie to talk about. 520 00:28:56,368 --> 00:28:57,718 But what if you did? 521 00:28:59,518 --> 00:29:04,618 What if you take your whole self, the good, the bad, and the ugly, 522 00:29:05,218 --> 00:29:11,218 and you align yourself and harness yourself together in tandem, behind 523 00:29:11,218 --> 00:29:12,988 your goals, behind your aims? 524 00:29:13,438 --> 00:29:19,858 What if you align all that and you let your good strengths temper your 525 00:29:19,858 --> 00:29:22,348 weaknesses and you let your weaknesses? 526 00:29:23,323 --> 00:29:25,963 Guide you as warnings for your strengths. 527 00:29:25,963 --> 00:29:27,253 So you know, get outta control. 528 00:29:28,063 --> 00:29:34,843 What if we just harness all that together and focus on being one whole person and 529 00:29:35,053 --> 00:29:37,913 just act with some restraint, right? 530 00:29:37,913 --> 00:29:40,986 A little self restrain is why we don't have more stupidity in 531 00:29:40,986 --> 00:29:42,186 the world than we already do. 532 00:29:42,426 --> 00:29:46,536 So maybe it's actually possible, but I'm telling you, if you want 533 00:29:46,541 --> 00:29:50,931 to see the results you want in your life, And thrive is the man you are. 534 00:29:51,501 --> 00:29:58,491 Then you need to harness all of your strength, acknowledge your weaknesses, 535 00:29:58,491 --> 00:30:02,811 and let them temper each other so you can have the best of all your worlds together 536 00:30:02,871 --> 00:30:05,511 and align yourself for your goals. 537 00:30:07,191 --> 00:30:12,381 Number six, going to extremes sell and provides a real solution. 538 00:30:13,251 --> 00:30:18,141 I said at the beginning that Tyler and the narrator, total polar opposites. 539 00:30:19,971 --> 00:30:21,411 Ize of the same coin. 540 00:30:21,921 --> 00:30:27,021 The problem with the pendulum swing is we tend to go too far one way and then 541 00:30:27,021 --> 00:30:28,881 respond by going too far the other way. 542 00:30:29,091 --> 00:30:31,371 Now, if you've been on the show before, you've probably heard me talk about 543 00:30:31,371 --> 00:30:36,681 this cuz I really, this is a pet peeve of mine, is we tend to just ride that 544 00:30:36,711 --> 00:30:40,941 pendulum swing from one extreme to the other and we never actually get any 545 00:30:40,941 --> 00:30:45,441 kind of solution or real meaningful fix. 546 00:30:46,926 --> 00:30:50,496 The narrator was far from his best life, right? 547 00:30:50,856 --> 00:30:52,956 This isn't the life that any of us wanna leave. 548 00:30:53,016 --> 00:30:54,936 I mean live that any of us wanna live. 549 00:30:57,366 --> 00:30:59,376 Let's face it, none of us wanna live that life. 550 00:30:59,433 --> 00:31:01,893 It's so depressing that the character doesn't even get a name. 551 00:31:01,893 --> 00:31:03,783 He's just the narrator, right? 552 00:31:04,623 --> 00:31:06,363 Even though it's his life we're looking at. 553 00:31:07,503 --> 00:31:10,233 But Tyler was equally far the other direction. 554 00:31:10,233 --> 00:31:16,053 I mean, going way out in his style of life. 555 00:31:17,268 --> 00:31:20,958 Going to extremes rarely solves anything, and when it does 556 00:31:20,958 --> 00:31:23,238 is usually a temporary fix. 557 00:31:24,558 --> 00:31:27,918 As men, we have this great ability to temper our emotional responses 558 00:31:27,918 --> 00:31:29,148 more easily than women do. 559 00:31:30,588 --> 00:31:33,918 This is a huge advantage for us because it can prevent this radical 560 00:31:33,918 --> 00:31:36,648 swing if we use it appropriately. 561 00:31:38,328 --> 00:31:43,158 If you want to thrive and get the results in your life as a man that 562 00:31:43,158 --> 00:31:49,458 you want, You must learn to temper your responses on an emotional 563 00:31:49,458 --> 00:31:51,798 level and avoid the pendulum effect. 564 00:31:51,828 --> 00:31:52,348 Okay? 565 00:31:52,379 --> 00:31:54,209 It is the old A of one. 566 00:31:54,419 --> 00:31:54,929 Two wrongs. 567 00:31:54,929 --> 00:31:58,589 Don't make a right going too far one direction. 568 00:31:58,589 --> 00:32:00,149 All you gotta do is look at a country. 569 00:32:00,149 --> 00:32:03,359 Right now we have a lot of division going on currently in our 570 00:32:03,359 --> 00:32:06,629 country, and it's because we're stuck on this pendulum swing. 571 00:32:07,589 --> 00:32:08,669 No one's in the middle. 572 00:32:08,729 --> 00:32:11,369 We have, well there are people in the middle, Let me rephrase that. 573 00:32:12,539 --> 00:32:16,589 But we have this crazy pendulum swing and we have people on the far 574 00:32:16,594 --> 00:32:18,779 extreme left and far extreme right. 575 00:32:19,319 --> 00:32:23,999 And really, if we want progress, if we want to make lives better, if we 576 00:32:24,004 --> 00:32:28,199 want to help each other, if we want to be the men we need to be, then we 577 00:32:28,199 --> 00:32:33,449 need to come down here into this area of region logic in the middle, and not 578 00:32:33,449 --> 00:32:35,219 let our emotions pulls one direction. 579 00:32:35,729 --> 00:32:38,639 As a man, you are uniquely set up. 580 00:32:39,314 --> 00:32:42,584 To do that, it is instantly part of who you are. 581 00:32:43,724 --> 00:32:46,784 Now, I can go on about on that forever. 582 00:32:46,784 --> 00:32:50,864 I actually carefully put in my notes just to make sure I didn't rant about that 583 00:32:50,864 --> 00:32:54,764 point too long, guys, because I could definitely go off on that one for a while. 584 00:32:56,354 --> 00:33:02,384 So let's jump to point number seven that I want you to consider as a man. 585 00:33:02,384 --> 00:33:02,654 Okay? 586 00:33:02,654 --> 00:33:04,124 I can't tell you how to live your life. 587 00:33:04,394 --> 00:33:06,584 I've told you before, I wanna walk alongside. 588 00:33:07,259 --> 00:33:09,719 I wanna support you in your journey, cuz I'm on my own journey. 589 00:33:10,529 --> 00:33:13,679 I don't have all the answers, but I have some ideas that I wanna share 590 00:33:13,679 --> 00:33:16,889 with you and I wanna walk alongside you because I believe in brotherhood. 591 00:33:17,609 --> 00:33:22,859 So number seven for your consideration is stuff doesn't provide happiness. 592 00:33:25,559 --> 00:33:28,289 At the beginning of the show, I read you this quote. 593 00:33:28,379 --> 00:33:32,189 Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate. 594 00:33:32,189 --> 00:33:33,629 So we can buy bullshit we don't need. 595 00:33:34,184 --> 00:33:37,124 We are the middle children of history raised by television to believe that 596 00:33:37,124 --> 00:33:42,554 someday will be millionaires, movie stars, rock stars, but we won't. 597 00:33:43,064 --> 00:33:46,094 Tyler Durian says that in one of his speeches now at the heart of this movie. 598 00:33:46,154 --> 00:33:50,534 It is very anti capitalist, anti-establishment message, and we're not 599 00:33:50,534 --> 00:33:52,364 going to get into all that, as I said. 600 00:33:52,369 --> 00:33:56,774 But one takeaway we can get is that we are often influenced our culture 601 00:33:56,774 --> 00:33:59,244 to try and fix our life with stuff. 602 00:33:59,253 --> 00:34:01,588 That's what marketing and advertising is all about, right? 603 00:34:03,073 --> 00:34:08,593 Marketing is all emotional based as a podcaster, as a YouTuber, 604 00:34:08,593 --> 00:34:10,183 I look into marketing, right? 605 00:34:10,213 --> 00:34:12,523 And I study it because I'm not very good at it. 606 00:34:12,523 --> 00:34:17,113 I have a marketing company that hands my podcast because I'm not good at it. 607 00:34:17,683 --> 00:34:20,083 But marketing is based off emotion. 608 00:34:20,803 --> 00:34:22,183 It's not based off facts. 609 00:34:22,183 --> 00:34:26,353 It's not, Hey, the fact is you need this now. 610 00:34:26,383 --> 00:34:28,783 Marketing is based on feelings and emotion. 611 00:34:29,713 --> 00:34:32,443 Which is not my str strong point, so I have other people do it for me, 612 00:34:33,553 --> 00:34:40,993 but we see it right here, very, very on the nose in this movie, right? 613 00:34:41,023 --> 00:34:44,473 Right off the bat, we see the narrators trying to plug the holes in his life 614 00:34:44,473 --> 00:34:46,843 with all this stuff and all these things. 615 00:34:47,263 --> 00:34:50,173 Like it even goes through a scene, if you haven't seen it, where he's 616 00:34:50,178 --> 00:34:53,203 walking through the house, like painting the house and seeing the 617 00:34:53,203 --> 00:34:56,413 price tags of all the different things that you see in this shot. 618 00:34:58,168 --> 00:35:02,788 Tyler goes on to touch on it throughout the entire story, but we see it here 619 00:35:03,088 --> 00:35:04,888 in this quote that we started with. 620 00:35:05,608 --> 00:35:08,158 We worked for years and jobs we hate for what reason? 621 00:35:08,428 --> 00:35:10,618 Now, this is not a Sunday school answer. 622 00:35:10,618 --> 00:35:13,598 You can't just say, provision and walk away from this idea. 623 00:35:13,667 --> 00:35:18,047 Men with families and not just men with immediate families 624 00:35:18,047 --> 00:35:19,097 that are their responsibility. 625 00:35:19,157 --> 00:35:20,777 Men with larger families, right? 626 00:35:20,782 --> 00:35:22,187 You came from somewhere, right? 627 00:35:22,187 --> 00:35:23,567 You have parents, you probably have sibling. 628 00:35:25,637 --> 00:35:29,717 You have people around you that you have kind of taken in or responsible 629 00:35:29,717 --> 00:35:31,487 for or have some responsibility for. 630 00:35:31,487 --> 00:35:36,557 Even if you don't have your own kids, Men understand the 631 00:35:36,557 --> 00:35:38,987 idea of provision we provide. 632 00:35:38,992 --> 00:35:40,367 That's one of our strengths. 633 00:35:40,367 --> 00:35:42,087 That's one of the things we're made to do. 634 00:35:42,977 --> 00:35:48,767 But you can't go permission and walk away from this idea, guys. 635 00:35:49,427 --> 00:35:49,847 Yeah. 636 00:35:50,327 --> 00:35:54,857 We work to provide for those in our charge, but we provide much more than 637 00:35:54,857 --> 00:35:56,237 their basic needs most of the time. 638 00:35:57,497 --> 00:35:58,997 Like put this through your head for a minute. 639 00:35:59,357 --> 00:36:02,927 If you cut out all the extras, started shopping more frugally for the things 640 00:36:02,927 --> 00:36:05,657 you have to have, like clothes, right? 641 00:36:06,077 --> 00:36:10,277 What if you started buying all clothes at Goodwill or thrift stores? 642 00:36:11,537 --> 00:36:13,337 Do you have to have new designer clothes? 643 00:36:13,757 --> 00:36:16,337 What if you started sewing your clothes to make them last longer? 644 00:36:17,477 --> 00:36:20,457 What if you stop buying the newer stuff and stretched out? 645 00:36:20,457 --> 00:36:21,567 Use, How old is your phone? 646 00:36:22,467 --> 00:36:23,577 How old is your car? 647 00:36:23,683 --> 00:36:25,963 What if we cut out the extras like tv? 648 00:36:26,593 --> 00:36:30,163 No one actually needs a TV to live like no one. 649 00:36:31,273 --> 00:36:34,063 I know people who can't pay their bills, who have huge televisions. 650 00:36:34,423 --> 00:36:36,433 No one needs a television. 651 00:36:37,213 --> 00:36:38,593 It does not give you life. 652 00:36:38,593 --> 00:36:39,823 It does not nurture you. 653 00:36:41,503 --> 00:36:43,513 What if we cut out the comfort foods and the snacks? 654 00:36:44,773 --> 00:36:50,593 What if we really look at need versus the standard we desire to 655 00:36:50,593 --> 00:36:53,143 live at, what's the difference? 656 00:36:54,493 --> 00:36:58,903 Could you change your job to something that made a little less, 657 00:36:59,353 --> 00:37:04,363 that you might enjoy more if you really reigned it in that way? 658 00:37:05,293 --> 00:37:07,213 Could you take a lower paying job that. 659 00:37:07,843 --> 00:37:12,193 Not spend you as much emotionally and mentally so that you could 660 00:37:12,193 --> 00:37:16,723 build that side hustle that one day might replace your income. 661 00:37:18,073 --> 00:37:23,893 I recently saw the new definition of wealth in a social post, and I air 662 00:37:23,893 --> 00:37:28,063 quote the word new cuz I, I'm not sure it's just pointing out the obvious. 663 00:37:28,123 --> 00:37:31,453 Honestly, the old definition was a lot of money. 664 00:37:32,923 --> 00:37:33,853 Pretty straightforward. 665 00:37:34,588 --> 00:37:38,068 The newer definition A, is actually why we wanted a lot of money. 666 00:37:38,068 --> 00:37:40,978 That's why I say new with air quotes cuz I don't think is new. 667 00:37:42,358 --> 00:37:46,208 And the new definition is the ability to decide how you spend the majority 668 00:37:46,208 --> 00:37:48,804 of your time and the means to do so. 669 00:37:48,804 --> 00:37:49,791 Wealth is relevant. 670 00:37:50,541 --> 00:38:00,081 You can make $80,000 a year or $60,000 a year with almost no overhead. 671 00:38:01,776 --> 00:38:07,356 And work on a laptop sitting on beach somewhere these days. 672 00:38:07,376 --> 00:38:09,746 That's the amazing thing about the time we're in. 673 00:38:11,066 --> 00:38:14,294 Tim Ferris talks about the concept in his book, The Four Hour Work Week 674 00:38:14,294 --> 00:38:17,919 and it's, I think you should actually read it and know you're not only 675 00:38:17,919 --> 00:38:20,619 gonna work four hours a week, that was just to get people's attention. 676 00:38:21,999 --> 00:38:25,389 But I'm absolutely thrilled to see more and more people coming around to 677 00:38:25,389 --> 00:38:27,669 this slot, people starting to live. 678 00:38:28,974 --> 00:38:34,344 At a lower income level, but they're thriving that income level because they're 679 00:38:34,344 --> 00:38:36,444 not necessarily living in the giant house. 680 00:38:36,444 --> 00:38:40,104 Now they're living in a different country where that money goes a lot 681 00:38:40,104 --> 00:38:44,784 farther because they can work remotely, and so they may only make $50,000 a 682 00:38:44,784 --> 00:38:49,404 year, but where they've chosen to live $50,000 a year, less them live like a 683 00:38:49,404 --> 00:38:54,534 king and they have a job where they can kind of make their terms work, right. 684 00:38:54,539 --> 00:38:55,284 They just have to. 685 00:38:56,919 --> 00:39:00,879 Deliver all the things they're supposed to deliver, but no one's babysitting them. 686 00:39:00,879 --> 00:39:04,359 No one's looking over how many hours they've been doing it, right? 687 00:39:04,689 --> 00:39:06,219 That is wealth. 688 00:39:06,759 --> 00:39:12,099 So you might make $250,000 a year, but you work 80 thou 80 hours a 689 00:39:12,099 --> 00:39:20,589 week, you know, 52 weeks a year, and your overhead is $170,000 a year. 690 00:39:21,279 --> 00:39:22,509 Now, are you more we. 691 00:39:23,544 --> 00:39:29,154 Then the person who makes $50,000 a year that has a $10,000 a year overhead 692 00:39:29,784 --> 00:39:33,594 and works a couple hours a week because he just delivers deliverables. 693 00:39:33,661 --> 00:39:39,806 It's a changing concept that we need to get used to, and that is stuff 694 00:39:39,811 --> 00:39:41,486 doesn't necessarily provide happiness. 695 00:39:42,146 --> 00:39:42,626 Okay. 696 00:39:42,866 --> 00:39:44,786 Having more stuff doesn't necessarily make it better. 697 00:39:45,266 --> 00:39:48,986 Cutting that back so you can live a wealthy. 698 00:39:51,146 --> 00:39:54,626 To live on your standard, to live on the way you want to live, where you 699 00:39:54,626 --> 00:39:56,696 want to live, do what you wanna do. 700 00:39:57,236 --> 00:40:01,676 We gotta get these concepts because they're not in sync at this point. 701 00:40:02,726 --> 00:40:04,016 Stuff isn't happiness. 702 00:40:04,676 --> 00:40:05,846 Stuff isn't wealth. 703 00:40:06,296 --> 00:40:07,886 Money isn't necessarily wealth. 704 00:40:08,576 --> 00:40:12,326 How you get to spend your life, how do you get to spend your time? 705 00:40:12,926 --> 00:40:13,826 That's wealth. 706 00:40:15,206 --> 00:40:17,546 It's not a new concept, like I said, I think is funny, but. 707 00:40:19,976 --> 00:40:21,566 We've always been after the same thing, right? 708 00:40:21,566 --> 00:40:25,106 We wanted more money so we could live on our terms. 709 00:40:25,222 --> 00:40:29,542 If you wanna thrive and get results as a man, you need to get out of this 710 00:40:29,542 --> 00:40:32,122 trap of thinking stuff equals wealth. 711 00:40:32,662 --> 00:40:34,252 Stuff equals happiness. 712 00:40:34,252 --> 00:40:37,042 Stuff equals accomplishment. 713 00:40:37,102 --> 00:40:38,572 Stuff doesn't do any of that. 714 00:40:39,052 --> 00:40:40,222 Stuff is stuff. 715 00:40:40,942 --> 00:40:44,062 Get it outta your head if you want to thrive and get results 716 00:40:45,112 --> 00:40:46,582 now guys, you have been awesome. 717 00:40:47,152 --> 00:40:52,042 And so I wanna give you one more, and so we're gonna go into number eight, which 718 00:40:52,042 --> 00:40:54,232 is the very first rule of fight club. 719 00:40:55,252 --> 00:40:58,462 The first rule of fight club is you don't talk about fight club. 720 00:40:59,542 --> 00:41:02,722 In the movie fight club, there are eight rules that are sacred to the group, 721 00:41:02,872 --> 00:41:06,832 and number one is you don't talk about fight club, followed by number two, 722 00:41:06,832 --> 00:41:12,652 which is also, you don't talk about fight club in the world of social media. 723 00:41:13,772 --> 00:41:17,962 Constant updates and putting pe, putting people, putting their entire lives online. 724 00:41:19,342 --> 00:41:24,532 There is a value here in this idea of you don't talk about fight club. 725 00:41:25,312 --> 00:41:30,112 Some things, some things in life are better left unsaid, are kept private. 726 00:41:31,462 --> 00:41:35,002 I'm so grateful that I grew up before the time period we're in right now. 727 00:41:36,442 --> 00:41:40,492 I'm thrilled that my stupid mistakes are not immortalized forever on the. 728 00:41:41,482 --> 00:41:42,772 Because I had a lot of them. 729 00:41:42,772 --> 00:41:44,602 I'm glad there weren't cameras around. 730 00:41:45,712 --> 00:41:50,302 I'm not saying I would not have followed a suit because I absolutely would've been 731 00:41:50,302 --> 00:41:53,422 stupid and followed suit and done the same thing that young people are doing now. 732 00:41:53,902 --> 00:41:57,022 And I would've put my whole life online because that's what everybody else did. 733 00:41:59,512 --> 00:42:02,932 I'm just glad it didn't exist because I would've done that 734 00:42:03,022 --> 00:42:04,342 because that was what you do. 735 00:42:04,479 --> 00:42:07,719 And that's what our young people do now, and even our young adults and even a 736 00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:15,114 lot of adults, I know so many adults who update Facebook all the time before you 737 00:42:15,114 --> 00:42:18,894 call me old, realize that this was less than 20 years ago that this BA behavior 738 00:42:18,894 --> 00:42:21,774 wasn't even possible for most of us. 739 00:42:22,044 --> 00:42:25,254 So before I hear some of the audience going, Oh, you 740 00:42:25,254 --> 00:42:28,614 will Boomer, stop yard dumb. 741 00:42:29,384 --> 00:42:31,164 This was less than 20 years ago. 742 00:42:31,164 --> 00:42:34,704 Technology is moving incredibly rapidly, and if you're old enough to have 743 00:42:34,704 --> 00:42:37,554 seen it, I had the first modern flip. 744 00:42:38,889 --> 00:42:41,439 The precursor at the beginning of modern cell phones. 745 00:42:41,829 --> 00:42:43,029 I had the very first one. 746 00:42:43,029 --> 00:42:44,859 I was 19 when it came out. 747 00:42:46,809 --> 00:42:47,889 I'm only 42. 748 00:42:48,489 --> 00:42:52,119 This was not a long go time ago, and you couldn't post to Facebook 749 00:42:52,119 --> 00:42:53,259 cuz Facebook didn't exist. 750 00:42:53,949 --> 00:42:56,409 You couldn't post off your cell phone to the internet. 751 00:42:56,409 --> 00:43:00,279 It didn't work that way, at least not with common cell phones. 752 00:43:02,109 --> 00:43:05,409 Guys, there's nothing wrong with staying little mysterious. 753 00:43:05,679 --> 00:43:07,449 Leave some mystique to yourself. 754 00:43:08,379 --> 00:43:10,629 Once you put it out there, it's there forever. 755 00:43:10,629 --> 00:43:14,289 And there are some people who are gonna have horrible regrets later in their life. 756 00:43:15,129 --> 00:43:16,809 They're focused on money right now. 757 00:43:16,809 --> 00:43:21,489 They're focused on short term fame instead of long term thoughts and goals 758 00:43:22,449 --> 00:43:24,429 that are way more important than money. 759 00:43:24,669 --> 00:43:27,549 And it's gonna come back to bite them in the ass later. 760 00:43:28,839 --> 00:43:30,309 Stay a little mysterious. 761 00:43:30,349 --> 00:43:31,959 Don't talk about everything. 762 00:43:31,959 --> 00:43:33,609 Now you can talk about some things. 763 00:43:33,639 --> 00:43:34,749 You can share some things. 764 00:43:34,754 --> 00:43:35,979 I'm not saying you can. 765 00:43:37,089 --> 00:43:39,159 But try, try it from this perspective. 766 00:43:39,429 --> 00:43:41,199 I used to hire people, okay? 767 00:43:41,199 --> 00:43:41,709 I used to. 768 00:43:41,709 --> 00:43:45,429 I used to be one of the hiring managers, and I will readily admit 769 00:43:45,434 --> 00:43:50,529 the first thing I did with a resume is go and check your social media 770 00:43:50,829 --> 00:43:52,119 and your professional media accounts. 771 00:43:52,119 --> 00:43:54,999 I didn't just go to your LinkedIn, I went to your Facebook. 772 00:43:55,329 --> 00:43:57,669 I went looking for you on Instagram and on Twitter. 773 00:43:58,569 --> 00:44:01,959 If you put it out there on a public PA platform, it's fair game as 774 00:44:01,959 --> 00:44:05,229 far as I'm concerned, and people will show you their true nature. 775 00:44:05,889 --> 00:44:11,079 When they are only paying attention to their friends, seeing it, I can't 776 00:44:11,079 --> 00:44:15,489 say I made all my hiring decisions based on that, but trust me, if I 777 00:44:15,494 --> 00:44:21,399 saw something that just blew you out of the water, you didn't get hired, 778 00:44:22,209 --> 00:44:24,129 leave a little to the imagination. 779 00:44:24,134 --> 00:44:26,979 Don't put your whole world up there for the world to see. 780 00:44:29,289 --> 00:44:31,149 Let me give you four reasons no one accepts. 781 00:44:31,149 --> 00:44:33,309 A small handful of people actually care. 782 00:44:34,209 --> 00:44:38,109 I don't care how many Facebook friends you have, and I hate Facebook friends because 783 00:44:38,679 --> 00:44:41,349 I don't hate the people who friend me on Facebook, but I hate the term friends. 784 00:44:41,349 --> 00:44:45,129 For the people who connect with you on Facebook, because they're not your friends 785 00:44:45,129 --> 00:44:50,169 necessarily, I have a, I have friends who have a thousand plus friends on Facebook. 786 00:44:50,979 --> 00:44:54,219 They don't spend time with all those people who, Sorry, hit my mic. 787 00:44:56,229 --> 00:44:58,539 I have friends who have over a thousand friends on Facebook. 788 00:44:58,989 --> 00:45:00,759 They don't spend time with all those people. 789 00:45:00,789 --> 00:45:02,829 They're not their friends guys. 790 00:45:03,444 --> 00:45:05,934 No one except a small handful of people in your life actually 791 00:45:05,934 --> 00:45:06,984 care about what you're posting. 792 00:45:06,984 --> 00:45:09,834 Most of the time, you're not that special. 793 00:45:10,194 --> 00:45:13,464 Our everything you do is not pure gold, and that includes myself. 794 00:45:13,974 --> 00:45:14,244 Okay? 795 00:45:14,784 --> 00:45:15,774 Talking to me too. 796 00:45:16,224 --> 00:45:20,004 Not everything that we do is that great, are worth sharing. 797 00:45:20,064 --> 00:45:20,694 I promise you. 798 00:45:20,694 --> 00:45:22,074 In fact, most of it isn't. 799 00:45:23,714 --> 00:45:26,844 There are things that are left better, un unsure. 800 00:45:26,844 --> 00:45:28,764 We don't need to know about all your relationship. 801 00:45:28,769 --> 00:45:31,824 We don't need to know the intimate details of your relationship and shouldn't. 802 00:45:33,339 --> 00:45:38,559 We don't need to know that you checked in at Chick-fil-A or 803 00:45:38,559 --> 00:45:40,509 wherever else you checked in at. 804 00:45:42,339 --> 00:45:43,569 No one actually cares. 805 00:45:43,889 --> 00:45:46,779 Everyone's just competing for likes and it's a system you can't win and 806 00:45:46,784 --> 00:45:51,489 neither can I first rule fight club. 807 00:45:52,149 --> 00:45:54,009 We don't talk about fight club. 808 00:45:54,579 --> 00:45:57,579 Not everything in your life needs to be shared. 809 00:45:57,579 --> 00:45:58,899 Not everything in your life. 810 00:45:59,784 --> 00:46:03,624 Is better off shared with the whole world, guys, that's not something that 811 00:46:03,624 --> 00:46:05,274 you need to throw out there all the time. 812 00:46:05,274 --> 00:46:07,374 It's not something that needs to be available for everybody. 813 00:46:08,514 --> 00:46:13,254 In fact, your life will be better sometimes if you just go low key 814 00:46:13,434 --> 00:46:17,094 and check out and stop sharing anything and just put some work in. 815 00:46:17,784 --> 00:46:19,374 I guarantee it will make a difference. 816 00:46:19,374 --> 00:46:25,484 I If you want to get the results you want and thrive as a man in this world, maybe 817 00:46:25,484 --> 00:46:26,804 it's time to go a little low key on some. 818 00:46:28,274 --> 00:46:31,184 Stop sharing your whole life with the world. 819 00:46:31,604 --> 00:46:34,034 Retain some mystery now, guys. 820 00:46:34,034 --> 00:46:34,964 Did I miss anything? 821 00:46:36,074 --> 00:46:37,064 Share with me guys. 822 00:46:37,064 --> 00:46:41,174 Like I said, you can reach me at the Fallible Man or at Fallible Man 823 00:46:41,234 --> 00:46:43,854 on like nine different platforms. 824 00:46:43,854 --> 00:46:47,547 You can always message me on my website, connect with me on Facebook. 825 00:46:48,507 --> 00:46:51,693 And hey, if you got something out of this, leave me a review on Apple Podcast. 826 00:46:51,693 --> 00:46:55,413 That really helped me to keep doing these shows and I just really appreciate that. 827 00:46:55,418 --> 00:46:58,413 I tend to read them on air when people do that because it means so 828 00:46:58,413 --> 00:47:00,753 much to us here at The Fallible Man. 829 00:47:01,203 --> 00:47:02,973 But guys, let us know what you think of this list. 830 00:47:03,843 --> 00:47:04,893 Are you a Fight Club fan? 831 00:47:04,893 --> 00:47:05,613 Do you like Fight Club? 832 00:47:05,673 --> 00:47:07,053 I actually like the movie. 833 00:47:07,283 --> 00:47:08,463 Do you like the movie? 834 00:47:08,913 --> 00:47:09,933 Tell me what you think. 835 00:47:10,113 --> 00:47:10,503 What? 836 00:47:10,563 --> 00:47:13,563 What did you think of my breakdown of Fire Club? 837 00:47:13,593 --> 00:47:14,973 Am I off entirely? 838 00:47:15,063 --> 00:47:16,053 Do I miss something? 839 00:47:17,163 --> 00:47:17,633 Don't tell me. 840 00:47:17,633 --> 00:47:20,043 I missed it's the point in the movie cuz I, I did catch all that, 841 00:47:20,073 --> 00:47:23,193 but I tend to pull out the things I think is important in a movie 842 00:47:23,493 --> 00:47:25,173 and I hope you enjoyed it as well. 843 00:47:25,443 --> 00:47:28,443 Guys, as always, be better tomorrow because of what you do today. 844 00:47:28,743 --> 00:47:29,703 We'll see on the next one. 845 00:47:30,513 --> 00:47:32,543 This has been the Fallible Man podcast. 846 00:47:33,713 --> 00:47:37,133 Your home for everything, man, husband, and father. 847 00:47:38,033 --> 00:47:40,493 Be sure to subscribe so you 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